Actresses and best buds Judy Ann Santos and Gladys Reyes will guest on Sharon this Sunday for a joyful celebration of friendship and motherhood (both the stars are expectant mothers). The former Mara Clara castmates may play completely opposite personas on-screen—Juday is known as the Queen of Pinoy Soap Operas, while Gladys is hailed as Primera Kontrabida—but this doesn’t affect the tight-knit relationship they share off-camera.
It’s certainly a delight to be pregnant, especially when it’s at the same time as your BFF—but sadly, this is not always the case. Like most major life changes, motherhood can affect a woman’s relationship with friends—whether or not they have kids themselves. It’s particularly difficult when you’re expecting a little bundle of joy but your friends are either single or have been trying to conceive to no avail.
Here are a few quick tips to maintain your friendships while you’re pregnant—and keep them going strong even after you’ve given birth.
BE SENSITIVE TO THE SITUATIONS OF YOUR SINGLE/CHILDLESS FRIENDS
Not everyone is as lucky as you are, so be sure you aren’t rubbing your good fortune in anyone else’s face. Your single friends may feel a little sensitive about the topic of starting a family when they haven’t even found partners yet. Also, your married-but-childless friends may feel a prick at your successful attempt to conceive when theirs have continuously flopped. You deserve your glowing mom-to-be happiness, that’s for sure—but don’t overdo it, or it may bring unnecessary discomfort to your friends.
DOWNPLAY ANY UNPLEASANT RIVALRIES
Even when you’re in the same boat, other friends who are mothers or pregnant ladies may feel the need to “compete” to prove their prowess as parents. Don’t get sucked into this ill-advised rivalry. First of all, you’re all mothers, so you’re all blessed. Second, you’re friends, so there’s no need to “one up” one another—on the contrary, you should all unite to form one supportive unit. Finally, if your friend shows no sign of dropping her “I’m better than you” act, let it slide and walk away. You don’t need that kind of aggravation when you’re expecting.
SET PLAY DATES FOR THE KIDS—AND FOR THE MOMS
Once your baby pops out and is old enough to get acquainted with other tykes, set play dates with the kids of your mommy friends. Not only will you be helping your little one make pals his own age, but you’ll also get to spend quality time with the girls every week!
SHARE YOUR STRUGGLES—AND YOUR TRIUMPHS—WITH OTHER MOMMY FRIENDS
Motherhood is a beautiful thing, but boy, is it hard. Don’t keep all your frustrations pent up! Share them with a fellow mommy friend who you know will understand. Go for coffee—or cocktails, like Miranda and Charlotte in SATC 2—and get it all out so you can move on with your life. Try to make this a regular thing, too, so that you can learn from other mommies’ experiences (and keep yourself from imploding when the tyke gets too trying).
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