A long distance relationship can be a real challenge for couples, no matter what age group. However being in different life stages can also color our perspectives and make us deal with things differently. Here are some of the things that we think are stark contrasts between a 20-something LDR and a 30-something LDR. Agree or disagree? Do any of these apply to you, or do you think that we missed out anything? Share your thoughts in the comments below!      
In Your 20s: You plan more Skype dates.
Because you can’t go out to eat, watch movies, or do fun activities like a normal 20-something couple, you make do with virtual dates via Skype or FaceTime. You even primp up a little bit for your SO to inject a bit of kilig and passion–that’s the least you could do to feel closer despite the distance.
In Your 30s: You plan more visits with each other.   
Visiting each other is a viable option by this time because you have more disposable income in your hands due to a thriving and stable career. When your schedule allows it, you can even afford to take a couple of days off from work and fly to your beau’s place for some much-needed QT.      

In Your 20s: You surprise him with online gifts or creative virtual tokens.
Being in an LDR requires you to become more creative with how you show your love. And one of the most practical options is through virtual gifts. Electronic cards with cute characters and messages, online coupons and Amazon gift cards, Steam or BattleNet credits–these are just some of your go-to presents for your SO.   
In Your 30s: You surprise him with packages of things he likes.   
Again, owing to the fact that you have more money now, you have no qualms about sending him actual gifts through delivery services. You’re familiar with how long the shipping takes and you’ve perfected the timing of sending packages so that he gets his dream Jordan sneaks exactly on his birthday. The cost is nothing, as long as you can make your partner happy.

In Your 20s: You jump at every chance to text or talk to each other.
Your interactions are oozing with clingy vibes. Whenever something good or bad happens to your day, you can’t wait to tell each other about it. Your text messages, email, Viber, or Whatsapp are always popping up with new notifications. Your Skype calls last through the night until one of you falls asleep or has to go to work. Since you have a limited time of being physically together, you make up for it with lots of communication.      
In Your 30s: Your talks may not be as frequent and may need to be scheduled.
You still make time to chat and do video calls but it may not be as frequent as before. You know that your beau might be busy or have other priorities at the moment, so you’ve learned to be patient and wait for the right time to tell him all about your day. You make sure that you have a scheduled time to check-in with each other even when you’re juggling a ton of home and work responsibilities.


In Your 20s: You’re wonder about the what-if’s.
Being young and in a long-distance relationship can leave you with a lot of questions and sometimes, even doubts. Is this really the right choice? Are you missing out on life and love? Can you really keep this up and for how long? There might even be a temptation to flirt or engage in a fling just to quench the longing for a physical connection. You can’t also help but wonder if your partner is looking at other girls and hitting on them. Paranoid thoughts sometimes crop up in your head, and for good reason.   
In Your 30s: You’re more trusting in your partner.  
There might still be some uncertainties, but by the time you’re in your 30s, you’ve probably come to terms with the what-ifs. You’re feeling more secure in the relationship and have mutual respect and trust in with your partner. Although the temptations still linger, you fully embrace the commitment you have and would not do anything to jeopardize the relationship.  
In Your 20s: You can’t help but envy other couples and wish that you could be with bae physically.
Seeing twosomes holding hands or exchanging a little PDA riles you up because you can’t do it yourself (given that your SO is so far away). You steer clear of romance movies and couple-y places because they’ll just remind you of bae and all the things you could be doing if only you were physically together. Going on events or trips with friends and their plus-ones makes you want to cry inside.
In Your 30s: You still miss bae but you also appreciate what you have.    
You still long to be together, but you’re not as affected by other couples any more. You understand that the physical connection is just one aspect of the relationship and you’re thankful and appreciative that you’ve made things work despite the distance. You know that whatever life throws at you, you’re going to overcome it with your beau and you’ll come out stronger and more in love than ever.

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