- We will always forgive, no matter what.
- During an argument, no one is allowed to walk out.
- We will never say that we don’t love each other.
Yes, there are valleys and mountaintops here and there, but at the end of the day, we both know that getting married to each other was the best decision we ever made.
ARDY AND TINGTING ROBERTO
Married 15 years
Ardy: Tingting and I went through the fire from 1999 to 2000 when she experienced her battle with lupus. When that happened, we had only been married for 5 years. The encounter with the disease bonded us like two steel rods that had been twisted and molded together—it was like we literally “went through the fire.” So now, whenever there are other trials that come our way, we look back at what we've already conquered together with God’s grace, and we think, "Wala 'yan compared to 2000." Everything else seems trivial.
We've been married 15 years to the day, and we've lasted this long because of each difficult experience that we shared. We have a bounty of happy experiences as well, but going through the “fires” side by side is what really puts the capital T in “together.”
MIKE AND YAYANG MORALES
Married 26 years
Mike: My wife and I are very different in terms of temperament, interests, likes and dislikes. But there are a few things that we tried to practice throughout all these years:
- Watch your mouth. Never say anything to your spouse that you would regret later.
- Protect your privacy. Many Filipino marriages suffer because of the practice of kids sleeping with their parents. This is a death sentence to romance in marriage. Our kids were off to their own rooms at the age of one.
- Put your spouse first.
We are just so blessed that after 25 years of marriage, we still enjoy each other. I still look forward to going home to see my wife—and I still enjoy waking up next to her in the morning. We enjoy having Sunday lunch together as a family and enjoy going on holidays together if we can afford it. Our last big holiday was in Coron—great time!
WILLIE AND WINNIE SAMSON
Married 39 years
We’ve known each other for 45 years and been married for 39. We have been able to weather the roughest times—we even separated once, but came back together. Now after so many years, we are still here, standing strong, and looking forward to many more years as husband and wife. There is only one secret to the stability of our marriage: we both met Jesus Christ. When we made Him our Lord and Savior, He changed us and enabled us to love. We have occasional fights, even serious ones, but somehow God makes sure that we turn back to one another in forgiveness.
RAMON AND CECILIA SICAT
Married 40 years
Cecilia: I guess we lasted this long because of the space and trust we gave each other. When Ramon was much younger, he would go fishing for days with his friends. He would even join tournaments. Some of my friends were sceptical about him being away from me for such prolonged periods of time. But I always trusted him and would even prepare the things he needed for the tournament. As for me, Ramon always say yes when I want to go out with my friends—there’s no time limit. He always bids me goodbye with an, “Enjoy, and ingat!"
We both believe we are co-equals in this marriage, especially in decision-making. We don't impose our wills on one other. We talk about the pros and cons to decide what is best for us. And we never quarrel about money. Also, we believe that there is no perfect marriage. We each have our own flaws. We have our ups and downs. Now and then (but very rarely), we still have arguments because of small irritations. But at the end of the day, we know that we are more than just husband and wife; we are best friends.
PAUL AND LUDY ARAGONES
Married 45 years
Paul: People say the romance is no longer there for couples who have stayed together this long. We beg to disagree. The romance continues and will continue till our last days as we find ways to please each other, being sensitive and responsive to the other person’s needs. As the cliché goes, “The best is yet to come.” Ludy and I can say that indeed the best is still going on with us. Forty-five years of marriage is a long, long time. By this time, many couples are no longer married. Some are married but to different partners. Some are living-in with others. Ludy and I chose to remain and live as one because we committed from the beginning that separation is never an option. Although it wasn’t totally smooth—we hurdled through times of conflict—it has certainly been a great and blissful forty-five years.
JESS AND ROSARIO ELICANO
Married 54 years
We celebrated our golden wedding anniversary last January 8, 2005. We are now on our 54th year together as husband and wife. Never did we consider the option of a separation. We knew that we were in this marriage forever, not only for our sake but for the sake of our children. To succeed, we had to give each other a lot of space and allow for a lot of mistakes. Of course, raising 8 children together brought about a lot of natural bonding on its own.
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