A strong and independent woman wakes up deciding that today will be a good day. Never mind that she woke up twice in the middle of the night being anxious over her many worries--she knows that she can slowly resolve everything in due time.
She commutes to work and works while she commutes. By the time she reaches the office, she has already replied to all of her emails and has gotten the ball rolling on most of her projects. She hits the ground running once she starts her shift, allowing herself a bit of chika before getting in the zone.
Through the course of the day, she does her tasks and solves problems that sometimes aren’t even hers. Yes, she complains (a lot, at times), but she doesn’t stop until the job is done. After all, someone has to do it, and no one can do it better than her.
Her friends say that she’s got it made: she earns a lot, she loves what she’s doing, and she even has time to travel once in a while, but little do they know that the strong and independent woman isn’t so strong at times.
There are days when everything seems to go wrong: trains break down, wallets get snatched, reports are left at home. Sometimes, she just runs into a public restroom to cry it all out. She doesn’t allow anyone to see her weakness, and she never asks for sympathy. Once the tears stop falling, she goes out once more with a smile on her face and does everything all over again.
No, a strong and independent woman does not need you. She doesn’t need someone to wipe away her tears; she has a pack of tissues in her bag to do it on her own. She doesn’t need you to affirm her self-worth; she knows her value and doesn’t need to be reminded of it.
So why date her, you ask? Because she is who she is, and she doesn’t apologize for it. She isn’t a damsel in distress, but her own knight in shining armor who’s brave enough to slay dragons. She isn’t always successful, but by god she will try, no matter how battered she gets and how long it takes. She is that woman who demands what she deserves, who knows when and how to say “no” and goes into her personal battles with a take-no-prisoners attitude. Her spirit is made of fire and ice and everything in between, and yet there remains a softness in her that no one can touch. She still wears her heart on her sleeve, after all, and sometimes believes what she wants to believe to a fault.
She will show you her weaknesses, even as she vehemently denies that she has any. She will cry over cat videos, but rage against injustices she sees on a daily basis. She’s a contradiction; it’s during her weakest points that she finds her true power.
You’ll need to be prepared for her kind of faith, for that level of strength: Date a strong and independent woman because you are confident in what you feel about her. Because she will be your hardest puzzle and your freshest breath of air. Love her because she deserves to be loved; love her fiercely because she deserves nothing less.
A strong and independent woman will not need you, but she will choose to be with you. She knows an equal when she sees one, and she will be your rock when it's your turn to need someone's support. Be proud that you walk beside her; she’s no goddess, but she’s as honest and beautiful as it gets. Dating a strong and independent woman is dating a force of nature, and she will be your greatest adventure yet.