Whether you’ve just gotten out of a relationship or have been single for quite some time, here are seven things you should avoid doing to help you move on.
Stalking his Facebook or Twitter account
…because you’re on the lookout for his new girl or you want to know if he's currently flirting with someone–either way it's only going to bring you pain. #GirlStop
Looking for closure
You plan several meet-ups with your ex to discuss "what went wrong," and although it seems like you’re trying to gain closure, it’ll only make you feel stupid in the long run. If he dumped you, don’t keep looking for reasons why he did–know your worth and hold your chin up high.
Talking to your ex like nothing happened
Remember what they say, time heals a broken heart. You can't expect to be friends right away with someone, not when you have history. According to Mark Sharp, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at The Aiki Relationship Institute, it would take time before you and your ex can be friends again. "Even if there is potential for a friendship after a breakup, there almost invariably needs to be a period of time," he says.
Hooking up with someone
Partying ‘til dawn and waking up to a complete stranger is rarely ever a good thing. The thought of a one-night stand might seem thrilling, but don't make impulsive decisions you'll probably regret it later on.
Avoiding your favourite "places"
Vowing to never set foot in the restaurant you and your ex frequented is kind of hard-core. While it's normal to avoid such places at first, you can't run away forever. If you really want to forget him, face your fears and create new memories instead.
Getting into a rebound relationship
What’s worse than one-night stands? Rebounds. While it may seem fun and exciting to have a new fling, you might end up making more wrong decisions. Carole Lieberman, M.D., psychiatrist and author of Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets says that if the breakup hurt your self-esteem you could be "getting into a rebound relationship with a dork who you really look down on, because you think he won't leave you."
Saying "I’m okay" when you’re really not
It’s easy to brush a breakup off and say it doesn’t affect you, but not acknowledging that you’re hurt can do you more harm than good. Allow yourself to feel the pain and cry it out–it’s part of the process! You don’t want to bottle it all in and find yourself blowing up in frustration and anger later on, right?