Whether it's with an ex-boyfriend or a former friend, if you want to have a good life, learn to let go of some of the grudges you're keeping inside. Here are simple ways you can truly forgive.
Learn to let go of those negative emotions.
Stop dwelling on what happened and try to move on. It may be easier said than done, but harboring any kind of negative emotion can be destructive and can even affect how you view other things or deal with the people around you. Our tip: Write down your feelings in a journal. According to Ruby author Cynthia Bond, "once the words are on the page, negative thoughts can leave your body."
Do it one day at a time.
Baby steps. You don't have to forgive the person who wronged you if you're not yet ready, but you can't hold on to your anger forever either. You can start by telling yourself that you've moved on from the incident. Focus on other things that make you happy. Time heals all wounds and before you know it, you’ve completely forgiven the person at fault for your misery–and you’ll probably feel more peaceful and free.
Realize that you’re the one who’ll ultimately benefit.
Holding a grudge against other people can take a toll on your health, work performance, and even your relationships. Stop living your life in anger and resentment and just start living. Period.
Forgive yourself.
If you can’t seem to do it for others, look deep inside and see if you have any resentment towards yourself. Learn to forgive and love yourself first so that it would be easier for you to do so when it comes to other people.
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