Introverts can sometimes be misunderstood. They’re usually stereotyped as socially awkward loners who don’t like being in public places, but in reality, they can also be fun-loving individuals who just appreciate alone time. Here are some of the common misconceptions other people have of introverts:
They’re extremely shy.
When an introvert is out with a group of people, they won’t just talk for the sake of talking. If they have something to say, they make sure that it's going to be helpful before they share their thoughts. Sophia Dembling, author of The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World says that most introverts aren’t shy, they just “feel confident and at ease around people, but simply require more alone time to balance out the energy they expend in social situation.”
They don’t like to do small talk.
Just because an introvert isn’t striking up a conversation with you means he doesn’t want to talk. According to Psychologist Laurie Helgoe and author of Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength, small talk actually blocks honest interactions. “Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people. We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people.” But once you find common interests with an introvert, be prepared for a long and meaningful conversation about that topic!
They don’t have any emotions.
Some introverts may not show any emotions with their facial expressions and gestures, but this doesn’t mean that he or she is not interested. Introverts prefer to control and to keep their emotions to themselves. So, the next time you’re talking to an introverted person, don’t take it against them if they seem to be uninterested.
They hate going out in public.
A big NO. Introverts like going out, too—they just interact with the world differently. While extroverts mingle and socialize, introverts are observant and perceptive of the people around them. You’ll probably see them at a coffee shop reading a book while listening to music. They can find and enjoy the solitude among a crowd.
They just want to be left alone.
Althought they will detach from the group or the conversation, introverts have the capability to interact with other people—they simply need to recharge. There are instances when they become mentally and physically drained, so they choose to spend time alone with themselves and their thoughts. Sometimes, they’ll channel their energy to therapeutic hobbies like painting, reading a book, or crafting. Don’t feel offended when they turn down your offer of a girls' night out.