Didn't have a debut - depressed...

[Periwinkle25]

yup sis, but I've accepted it..Maybe God knew that I can buy a laptop on my own someday that's why it wasn't given to me before..there's more to life than dwelling on unhappy memories..as they say, happiness is a choice.. hope u'd overcome that depressing feeling eventually.. I try to always think positive because I know it would do wonders on my thoughts, feelings and actions..who has no problems anyways?..we all have, the difference is on how we deal with it..Yup, my workmates also tell that I've got this contagious tendency to be very optimistic..I hope you'd feel better knowing that many of us share same sentiment on not having a debut party =)

[Prunella]

I didn't have a debut party either and it was okay with me. Like what other sisses said, just plan something big for your 30th. That's what I'm doing on my 31st (31 being a special number to me). Cheer up!

[cati]

didn't celebrate my 18th bday din, okay lang, mind set lang yan

[bluewinkle]

Never had one and I don't regret it because for me, what exactly is it for?

Orginally the purpose of a coming out party was to present the debutante to eligible males with the main goal of getting married (they used to call it the marriage mart).  Nowadays, it's not exactly wise to get married until after you've finished college.

Also, in western countries, turning 18 signifies that you can now be independent, leave home and do whatever you want.  In our country, most can't afford to do that at 18 and I sincerely doubt parents will allow their teenagers to start living-in with their boyfriends/girlfriends.

So for me, a debut party is just a lavish birthday party and nothing else.  You can have that type of party at any age - up to you to decide when.

[Paperless]

Didn't have a debut party either, I remember lang na may mom gave me 200 pesos that day. I just told my friends to buy their burgers and akong bahala sa frostry sa Wendy's P18 lang yata that time.

[leihin]

I didn't have a big debut as well but I didn't mind it. In fact, my parents and my sister wanted me to have a celebration na may 18 roses and all those ceremonies but I insisted on having a very simple party lang with relatives and friends. I really couldn't bear the thought of spending big bucks in just 1 night. I didn't want my parents to spend on me so I was very okay with it.

Please do not be depressed. The essence of your coming-of-age didn't depend on the kind of party you had or the lack of it. It's like wedding and marriage. The goodness of your marriage doesn't depend on how "bongga" or luxurious your wedding is.

[leihin]

Also, I forgot to add na if you really want a big celebration, you can still celebrate a big birthday every year. If you're turning 27, then why not try 27 roses and 27 candles kung yan talaga ang bet mo Katulad na lang ng mga nagrerenew ng vows, diba? It's never too late.

[candallaine]

I didn't had my debut too, we just ate outside together with a couple of friends and my family of course and satisfied na ako dun kasi, ako mismo ang nagsuggest not to spend much for my 18th birthday.

[iamshiela]

i didnt have my debut din, simpleng handa lang sa bahay, parang ordinary birthday lang. but it was all good. nothing to be depressed about.

[bachoi]

wala rin akong party nung debut ko. nasa bahay lang kami nun ng mama at kapatid ko. sa natatandaan ko. ipinagluto lang ako ng instant pancit canton ng mama ko nun. pero ok lang, hindi ko na iniisip yun ngayon.

[leihin]

^You can do it sis.

Just remind yourself that it's not that important and that there are far more valuable things you should be dwelling on.

[rae]

^^ Kaya mo yan sis when I feel sad, iniisip ko palagi, life is short, and I only live once. The more time I spend on feeling sad, the more time ang nawawala for me to make the most of my life

[sprinkledust]

Hi leihin,

I know there are worse things out there and I feel guilty about that but when I think about it again, all of the sadness comes back.

Thanks for your positivity.

^You can do it sis.

Just remind yourself that it's not that important and that there are far more valuable things you should be dwelling on.

[sprinkledust]

Hi rae,

Thanks will try to always remember what you said.

^^ Kaya mo yan sis when I feel sad, iniisip ko palagi, life is short, and I only live once. The more time I spend on feeling sad, the more time ang nawawala for me to make the most of my life

[badhairlife]

ako, as in totally walang handa. nasasaktan din ako pag naiisip ko pero hindi naman ako nadepress.

walang-wala talaga kami during those times. and my friends alam nila na wala talaga kami, so pinaghanda nila ko sa bahay nila. dun sila nagluto at napagod sila kakaluto kasi konti lang naman kami, ang dami nilang niluto hanggang sa halos na kami nakakain sa pagod. siguro that's one of the reason kung bakit kahit di na kami gano nagkikita ng mga friends ko, sobrang i treasure them. kasi isang big event sa buhay ko na malungkot sana, ang naging malaking part sila.. drama hehe..

[rheinfall18]

haven't experienced this, as in yung meron 18 roses etc. but i'm not bitter at all..i don't know, maybe because that time hindi naman kami ganun ka-rich for my parents to provide me that kind of celebration at isa pa ako din nagsabi sa kanila na ayaw ko kasi gusto ko i-save yun for my education na lang mas sulit pa

pero happy pa rin dahil parang may kasalan sa dami ng relatives na dumating including yung mga nasa province kaya i don't have any reason to get bitter kasi importante i spent my very special day with those who are special to me..^^

[atrabida]

ako man walang debut. pati 3 kong kapatid na babae wala ring debut. normal lang na kain sa labas. hindi naman ako nalungkot kasi sanay na ko, hindi talaga maparty parents ko kahit afford naman nila, never nga kami nagka birthday party kahit nung bata. pero ok lang, hindi naman ao nalungkot 

isipin mo na lang sis na marami tayo na hindi nakapagdebut. bawiin mo na lang sa kasal mo.

[badhairlife]

ako naman, hindi ko din trip ang 18 roses na yan...pero un sakin, kahit konting handa wala.. nun mga classmates ko nagdebut, halos sunod-sunod in-attend-an namin na party tapos nun ako, wala.. hehe..

[Dacian]

no debut din for me.  so sad.  ever since na may birthday event sa amin, ako lahat nagpre-prepare for them.  i'm so happy na happy sila sa cake nila and handa na food.  so i was expecting na they'll do the same for me.  nagparining na ako noon sa parents ko na i want dito ang venue, ang cake ko ganito 3-layer, etc.  pero wala.  ang ending sa resto lang, kain lang.  tapos ang cake ko 1-layer lang.  i should have known.  one of my college classmate pa nagcomment na "eto na debut mo?!"  ang lakas pa ng boses, nakakahiya.  buti na lang wala akong sinabi sa kanila na i want engrandeng debut.  kaya sabi ko, gusto ko simple birthday lang eh.  hahaha.

kaya simula talaga noon, ako na mega-effort pag plan ng birthday ko from cake to food, etc.  so far happy na happy ako.

[design21]

nagdebut ako pero take note daig ko pa coordinator one woman show ang role ko ako lahat nagasikaso no support from my family kahit ang binayad akin. ayaw kasi nila ako gustong gusto ko hahaha only girl kasi ako. buti bago palang ang hotel nun 50% off ang party package!

advice ko sa mga sad na hindi nagdebut bawiin niyo nalang sa kasal nyo