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Re: Can men get too attached to someone he is having casual sex with regularly?
« Reply #280 on: February 11, 2019, 06:53:13 am »
Usually,  in this kind of set up,  cards are already laid down in the table. But...  like a box of chocolates, in life, anything is possible.

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Re: Can men get too attached to someone he is having casual sex with regularly?
« Reply #281 on: February 11, 2019, 01:10:39 pm »
based sa title ng thread ng thread, my opinion is yes. but kung hanggang kalian, yun ang hindi ko alam...  ::)
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Re: Can men get too attached to someone he is having casual sex with regularly?
« Reply #282 on: December 24, 2019, 01:44:50 pm »
my current bf and i started as fubu. from cybers*x we met 2 months later, just made out. then 3 months later, momol pa din. more than a month later we did it na, and then a few weeks later it happened again and he wanted to take things seriously. i didn't show na i was into him during those months of cyber, it was just playtime for me, that's how i had to see it. we would rarely talk but whenever we did he was always sweet and tells me he loves me. i always shrugged it off until the second time we did it and he asked if we could date.

we're together for 5 months now and have been living together.

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Re: Can men get too attached to someone he is having casual sex with regularly?
« Reply #283 on: January 07, 2020, 12:36:09 am »
Yes

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Re: Can men get too attached to someone he is having casual sex with regularly?
« Reply #284 on: February 05, 2020, 12:16:05 am »
Any update here 😀
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Re: Can men get too attached to someone he is having casual sex with regularly?
« Reply #285 on: February 05, 2020, 01:13:06 pm »
Yes, but there's that need to read the signs and take control.  I was having casual sex with 4 partners in 2018.

I was getting attached with the youngest.  She was 19 years old.  I met her online.  She was a first timer on everything.  She said we're doing it for the pleasure of it and not for love or anything.  We started in May, meeting up to check in at a hotel then continued 1-2 times every month.  By July, after she gave me a note telling me she loves me, I also started telling her I love her as we made love.  But by October, she  confessed to having accepted a suitor her age to be her boyfriend.  She said she loves me and she's confused.  We continued to meet in November.  She said she already had sex with him.  He was rough and demanding and she didn't like it.  We made love for the last time that month.  She still wanted us to meet and continue what we are doing but I told her I can't anymore.  I told her I love her and she must choose.  They are now living together in her boyfriend's place.

The three others that I am having casual sex with: A 22 year old girl (that time) whom I began seeing in June and then every 2 months but also had a boyfriend by 2019, a 47 year old single mom ...April and up to the present ..up to 2 times a week but had an LDR boyfriend since July 2019 (but still want us to continue our CI or Chck-Ins)...and a 41 year old single lady living alone ...August 2017 and until now ...about once a month.

I am honest and open towards them.  They are aware that I am dating others and these dates almost always involve sex.

I know I am very capable of providing real love and even enter into a strictly monogamous relationship ...but I am equally aware of how people would fall into infatuation or cases of possession obsession.

I don't seduce them or lure them into having sex.  I respect women so I never initiate sexual solicitation.  However, I also recognize their need for affection and intimacy so when I am asked for a more private and intimate moment, I would gladly make myself available.  I love conversations (I love listening) and eating together or simply hanging out. 
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Re: Can men get too attached to someone he is having casual sex with regularly?
« Reply #286 on: February 10, 2020, 01:37:47 am »
Wow! I can?t believe this. Andami naman nila hehe
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@itsmechariz

May mga hindi natuloy.  Nagbago ang isip o na-convince ko na subukan na magkaroon ng physically active lifestyle, i-divert ang sexual energy sa ibang bagay na productive and safe ...o kung hindi talaga mapigilan ang urge, magsariling-sikap na lang (tinuturuan ko ng iba't-ibang paraan para ma-reach nila ang orgasm at ma-satisfy). 

Okay rin naman sa akin yun, na na-convince ko na i-save na lang nila until the right moment, kapag married at secured na sila at sa future husband lang nila.   Maselan o sensitive ang body ng mga babae.  Isa sa mga latest na nabasa ko ...protection ang hymen o ang yung skin tag na nakakatulong sa pagiging sarado ng ari ng babae habang hindi pa sexually active.  Once na stretched o broken na, mas nae-expose na sa risk of infection.  Kahit yung pagpapawis lang na normal na nangyayari sa pakikipag-sex, nakaka-cause yun ng Urinary Tract Infection (UTI).

Anyway, going back on the topic.  I don't just get attached, I get quite involved and very loving.  In fact, as I have said here, I would try to convince her to choose the more beneficial and safer option ...to try to get busy with other things that would support her growth and development as a person (and stop watching porn and craving for sex hehe)
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Talaga sa guytalker pa talaga mang gagaling yang ganyang advise!!?? Haha
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Hi itsmechariz,

Oo, hehe.  Meron pa rin naman na guy na totoo kung magmahal, may mataas na pag-galang sa kababaihan at sa pagkababae.  Pero dahil halos wala na yatang ganito, baka pwede i-share na lang at huwag sosolohin hehe.
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Sabagay hahaha. Natawa ako dun sa share hahahaha
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Hi itsmechariz,

Oo, hehe.  Meron pa rin naman na guy na totoo kung magmahal, may mataas na pag-galang sa kababaihan at sa pagkababae.  Pero dahil halos wala na yatang ganito, baka pwede i-share na lang at huwag sosolohin hehe.

madami akong kilalang guys na ganyan. almost all the guys i met before and even close friends super ma respeto. pero nasa babae din kasi, she has to respect herself first. if the guy knows na yung babae hindi papatol then they will not even dare try, waste of time lang for them. also some women are really bad at choosing men. 

 

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hehe, hindi yata alam ng maraming lalaki na masarap ring maging ka-close ang mga babae ...na hindi dapat na itinuturing na sexual object.

Dalawa lang ang beshie ko, parehas na hottie na single ladies.  Isang 22 year old at isang 27 year old.  Drinking buddies ko rin sila at madalas bastos ang mga usapan namin at nagsasabihan kami ng sex lives namin, in details, hahaha.  Si younger girl, virgin pa.  Si older girl, may BF for 8 years, first and ever jowa ...pero mas marami akong alam kay girl ...lalo na ang mga kalandiang ginagawa niya hahaha ... crush ng bayan eh.  Mahal na mahal namin ang isat-isa.  Sabi ko minsan, alam ninyo, dumating na ako sa point na wala na kayong sex appeal sa akin.  Kainis, hindi na ako namamanyak sa inyo, hahaha.  Parang  magkakapatid tayo, lab yu.
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Wow haha. Sana all.

Question lang, pero yang si 22 at 27 never mo nakasex? Haha
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Question lang, pero yang si 22 at 27 never mo nakasex? Haha

Tinanong pa talaga, hahaha.  Yun na nga ang sinasabi ko sa post ko noh para sana hindi na itanong ...na heto ang pinaka-closest and only friends ko ...pure friendship, no sex. 

Nagsimula kaming maging very close na noong nago-overnight kaming tatlo sa office.  Type ko sila at long-time crush ko si 27 year old girl.  Bukod sa kwento, pinapabasa ko ang mga bastos na messages sa akin ng mga girls, pinapakita ko ang sine-send sa akin na nude at "touching" pics at pinapanood ko sila sa cell ko ng mga video clips ko ng paborito kong pag-kain (Oo hahaha pag-kain ng girl)

Si 22 year old, nagtanong one time kung anong okay na motel.  Maki-kipag-meet-up sana siya with someone pero hindi yun natuloy.  Nasabi niya na mas okay daw para sa kaniya yung hindi niya kilala, kasi awkward daw kung kakilala.  Nag-advise na ako sa kaniya sa risks na mahawa ng HIV, STD etc.  Ngayon, hindi na siya masyado nagke-crave for sex.  Virgin pa rin siya.

Si 27 years old, mas close kami.  Naging mas madalas na magkasama kami sa work.  Tatawagan pa ako sa office ko para pumunta sa kaniya at magpapatulong.  There were times na ipapa-check niya kung baka nilalagnat siya kaya ipapa-feel niya sa akin ang forehead niya o kaya ipapa-massage ng konti ang neck niya.  HIndi ako nagi-isip ng masama o nagte-take advantage hehe.  E di touch lang as needed.  HIndi rin kasi ako pala-touch at wala naman akong kamanyakan hahaha.

Nagkakaroon kami noon ng sexual tension.  Kasi naman, kapag kami lang dalawa sa office niya, sobrang hot ng kwentuhan namin.  Kinukuwento niya ang favorite foreplay, sex position niya at ang pagwe-wet niya.  One time, nung may out of town ang office namin, tumawag sa phone ng room ko, naikuwento ko na dahil nagiisa ako ay nanood ako ng porn at naging busy ang kamay ko hahaha.  Pinuntahan ako sa room ko, para sunduin dahil malapit nang mag-check-out.  Bagong shower ako.  Humarap siya sa malaking salamin sa tapat ng pinto ng bathroom, itinaas ang shirt niya at pinakita ang magandang abs niya.  Feeling niya, tumataba na raw siya.  Sabi ko, hindi naman, ang ganda oh.  hehe, nakaka-tempt man na i-touch eh ayoko na magkamali na mag-isip ng hindi maganda at mag-initiate.  Walang ibang nangyari hehe.

One time, naiwan din na kaming dalawa lang sa sala sa top floor ng bahay ng isang officemate.  Lasing kami parehas at nakatulog na siya.  Binantayan ko lang siya mula sa kabilang sofa, hanggang sa makatulog na rin ako.

Mataas ang paggalang ko sa babae.  Against ako sa sexual harassment.  Naikukuwento ko naman sa kanila na yung mga naka-sex ko eh sila ang nag-yaya.  Hindi ako, ayoko, dahil parang kawalang-galang yun sa babae.

Kapag magkakasama kaming tatlo, nagjo-joke na "threesome daw kami." Sinasaway naming dalawa kasi minsan sobrang bastos na at napapalakas ng boses.

Maganda siya, maraming nanliligaw at nakikipag-date kahit na may BF.  Pero kwentuhan lang sa coffee-shop yung date na yun.  Ako lang ang nakaka-alam ng mga kapilyahan niya hehe.  Sinabi ko na sa kaniya noon ang feelings ko sa kaniya, na crush ko siya at there was a time before na bawat kilos niya in-observe ko.  Pero ngayon, mas respected ko na siya.  in-assure ko na rin siya na love ko siya, na gusto ko magkatuluyan sila ng BF niya at ma-settle na siya.
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Wow. Grabe pamigil sa sarili kahit my mga times na pede dba!? Galing mo! Hahaha lodi.
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hehe, sigurista ba?

Ayoko ng hindi sure o under the influence of alcohol.  Yung hindi pa totally decided tapos nalagay sa alangain dahil nasa awkward situation na.  Well, if there's a desire for a sexual interaction, we need it  to be very certain.

Kaya maraming hindi natuloy dahil nagbago ang isip o hindi pa sigurado.  Okay lang yun.  I would like it to be a really good memory afterwards ...that i was desired and was chosen to be the one to share in the full experience of sexual pleasure.  I give my very best performance kasi baka first and last na yun ...hoping na maulit pa ...magyaya pa for more hehe
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Hahaha, so ano pala itatawag sayo, gentleman na medyo bastos ganon? Wahahaha
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Hahaha, so ano pala itatawag sayo, gentleman na medyo bastos ganon? Wahahaha



Noong 2017, may nagyaya sa akin na mag-sex na may mga requests nung nasa bed na kami at in the middle of it na.  Requests, like "Pull my hair," "Slap me (on the butt-cheek)" at "Talk dirty to me."  hehe wild, at since nalaman ko na may 4 previous partners na siya, nagpa-HIV test agad ako that year.  Negative at unresponsive naman.

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hehe, napa-kwento na naman ako.  i-post ko na lang dito sa baba.

Na-meet ko siye online through chat at naging crush ko siya.  English kami mag-chat.  Rich girl siya, very attractive chinita na medyo chubby.   

Second time na, since the previous year, na mangulit ...for us to meet and have a date with sex thingy.  Yung first hindi natuloy.

Since we met around June 2016, puro sex chat kami and she's been asking me to date her ...at date with sex ang gusto niya. 

July 2016, may naging viral akong comment sa isang page post at marami nag add sa akin sa FB. Mas nauna kong na-meet si crush pero through chat siya.  Kahit crush ko siya, biglang dumami ang nagcha-chat sa akin kaya medyo naging choosy ako hahaha.  Very careful ako about my health so nang mag-brag si crush na marunong daw siya at may dalawa na siyang naka-casual sex, well, I had to politely avoid her.  Priority ko muna yung mga walang ibang naka-sex para safe for everyone.  Nakahalata yata  na iniiwasan ko siya at aware siya na marami sigurong nagcha-chat sa akin, nagalit at matagal akong hindi kinausap.

By May 2017, I greeted her on her 20th birthday pero she deleted the comment on her FB.  She started chatting with me again in April 2, 2017, around 5 AM.  May BF na daw siya at baka makita yung comment ko kaya binura niya.  Nag-away sila ng BF niya nun.  Nag-sex chat kami ulit at nagyaya ulit na mag-meet kami.  She was in town.  Nasa Pasig lang.   Kaya ayun, natuloy na kami.  Ang usapan namin, safe foreplay lang.  She doesn't want us to do it all the way and I asked kung pwedeng wala kahit kissing on the lips.  Well, nung nasa bed na kami, and after around two hours of "safe foreplay" and having done the same for several rounds na, we both wanted to do it all the way na, hahaha.  Next time avoid ko na talaga.  Ang hassle na magself-quarantine ng six months at magpa-HIV Test.
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