You don’t need Jedi powers to make people do what you want them to do. In fact, the idea of getting what you want from others is pretty simple, straightforward, and not as selfish you think. So shed that kawawa façade and go classy all the way to the top with these tips:
1. Make sure that the people you want something from can give it to you.
It’s common sense that people can’t give you what you want if they aren’t capable of doing so. It’s like asking a painter to prescribe medicines to you—it just can’t be done. So before you ask someone for something, make sure that you're asking the right people and that they can deliver.
2. Make your request in a calm and neutral environment.
Have you ever noticed why successful executives and negotiators are often out on the field having lunches in expensive restaurants? One reason is that they’re aiming for a neutral and relaxing environment which will help relax their clients. Don’t ask for huge favors in a place that fosters stress and competitiveness. If your office makes people agitated, try moving to a quieter spot such as a coffee shop or a restaurant. This can help make the person you need to speak with more open to your request.
3. Make it easier for them to do what you want them to do.
If you can remove obstacles that prevent them from finishing their tasks, do so. Say that you want a friend to buy you something for you from a specific place. Why not offer to pay for her pamasahe so that she won’t feel too hassled by your request? Reducing roadblocks such as costs and risks can make people more amicable to you.
4. Offer a reward.
Even something as simple as a cup of coffee can make people do things. If the people you’re asking something from will need to go out of their way do get it for you, there’s no harm in offering something in return as a token for the effort.
5. Return the favor by doing something for them.
Probably the best way to get people to do what you want them to do is to do the same for them. Foster goodwill and sincerely have their backs. It’s a win-win situation: You get what you need and so do they.