There is no such thing as a perfect couple–there will be fights, misunderstandings, and there will be times when you feel like you’re the only one pouring your heart and soul into the relationship. You know what we mean. He’s always late, takes too long to reply (even though he’s always on his phone when you’re together), or never makes the first move. Sound familiar? Here's how you can deal with it.
Sit down and talk about it.
It’s important that you let your man know how you feel. After all, one of the keys to a healthy relationship is proper communication. Use "I feel" statements instead of phrases that seem more like an attack.
Stop doing things for him.
If talking doesn't help, take it up a notch by not doing the things you normally (and out of love) do for him like picking up his clothes or preparing his things before he leaves for work. "Men usually won't stop taking their girlfriends and wives for granted simply because we tell them to," says dating and relationship coach Jay Carrao. A little demonstration is sometimes in order. It shouldn't take him too long to notice the change in your behavior and, if he's smart, he'll adjust accordingly.
Go out with your barkada.
Watch the latest blockbuster with your friends, and when he asks you to catch the flick at the last minute, politely tell him that you've already seen it or that you've already made plans with your BFFs. He needs to remember that your life doesn't revolve around him.
Wait for him to make the first move.
You're probably used to asking him out to dinner, but if you want him to start showing initiative, hold your ground. Don't text him or send out an FB message. Magpa-miss ka!
Think twice.
If you just don’t see any effort to change from your guy, it's time to reconsider if you want to continue with this relationship or not. A relationship is something that should bring out the best in you. It should make you a better person and not the other way around. If you want to save your relationship, you can also ask for professional help from a counselor.
SCREENCAP: He's Just Not That Into You /New Line Cinema (2009)
