- Be a neutral party
- Declare your neutrality
- Listen to both sides, but take neither
- Be the calm inside the storm
- Let them resolve it between them
BE A NEUTRAL PARTY
First of all, don't take sides--even if both of them will expect you to. Choosing one side will make the other feel as though you’re ganging up on him or her and create resentment.
DECLARE YOUR NEUTRALITY
Let them know that you’re not taking sides in no uncertain terms. The fight is between them and doesn’t involve you, after all. Even if, privately, you agree with one over the other, do not show any partiality. You could be used against one or the other if it seems you are on a particular side.
LISTEN TO BOTH SIDES, BUT TAKE NEITHER
Hear what both of them have to say. This gives you a clearer idea how it all started and how you can best figure out some way to improve matters. Many disagreements stem from a misunderstanding or lack of transparency between people. Getting to the bottom of things and gaining a full perspective often helps clear the matter up.
BE THE CALM INSIDE THE STORM
Don't stoke the fires. You’re supposed to be the calm, rational one, not the one conveying the latest flurry of angry words from one sibling to the other. It can be tempting to let them know what the other is thinking and feeling, but more often than not, it just builds up more anger—and you’ll be responsible for it.
LET THEM RESOLVE IT BETWEEN THEM
Don't force a resolution to the issue. As much as you would love it if everybody would just get along, trying to get the squabbling parties to make peace for which they're not ready could eventually aggravate the situation. Ultimately, it’s up to them to decide when they’re ready to end the fight.
Trying to get along with two arguing siblings can feel like a juggling act, and not a fun one at that. Remember that it might take some time for them to make peace in the future, and for now, the best you can do is to maintain your relationship with them. Let them know you love them equally, and remind them that they love each other as well—as long as they remember that’s true, things will work out in the end.
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