Do you feel frazzled, FNites? If you're a working mom, a busy housewife, or both, you most likely battle stress every day, and with the demands of the modern world on women, this comes as no surprise. According to research soon to be published in Development and Psychopathology, being under constant stress might affect moms even more than they already think: it influences the way they interact with their kids negatively.
Researchers from the University of Rochester measured moms' physiological stress response via wireless electrocardiograph monitors attached unobtrusively to participants. They examined 153 moms with kids from 17 to 19 months old and tracked how they reacted when their kids were left with strangers. They also recorded how the moms interacted with their children after being reunited with them.
The results showed that moms with symptoms of depression exhibited a "hyperactive" response--which means their heart rate patterns elevated--after being separated from their kids, upon getting them back, and when their kids were upset. When the researchers instructed these moms to play with their children, they reacted by displaying hostility toward them in the form of "derogatory comments, angry tone of voice, and rough physical interaction."
Melissa Sturge-Apple, lead author of the study and assistant professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, says this happens because depressed individuals are usually "on high alert, oversensitive to social stressors, and unable to calm down."
Meanwhile, moms who lived in poor neighborhoods with elevated crime rates displayed the opposite reaction. They were "hypoactive," which means they recorded low heart rate patterns throughout the study. When asked to play with their kids, they ignored them, and if the moms did react, they were bossy toward their children. The researchers explain that this is because their way of living has already stifled their stress response, making them more indifferent to their children's emotions.
This study shows how important the role of de-stressing plays in women's lives, so make sure you allow yourself some downtime whenever you feel your worries are getting the better of you. You can even hit two birds with one stone by including your children in your de-stressing activities. Playing with your kids can be relaxing too, and this gives you a chance to have more bonding time with them.
Need help managing your stress? Here are some articles to help you out:
- Mommy Zen: Keeping Calm in the Midst of Family Chaos
- 10 Tips for Working Moms
- 5 Steps to Calmer Evenings with Your Kids
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