For married couple Maricar Reyes and Richard Poon, relationship concerns are always worth a proper discussion—and that includes total honesty when it comes to each other's past relationships and mistakes.
On their recent vlog, Maricar and Richard talked about the benefits of being in a relationship where both parties disclose (and accept) each other’s pasts, and compared it to those who find it too uncomfortable to be totally open. They also revealed several reasons as to why they favor the former, and even shared their personal experience as a couple.
Maricar revealed that she was initally hesitant to tell Richard all of her past mistakes before they got married, but that she ultimately decided to take a leap of faith. "Nag-dadalawang isip ako kung sasabihin ko sa kanya o hindi. Noong una, hindi ko sinasabi. But eventually there was one evening, tinawagan ko siya ulit. Naisip ko, 'Bahala na.' Pa-cute, pa-cute pa ako, kasi nakakatakot, e. It's very difficult to tell bad things about yourself to your partner. Siyempre, gusto mo mag-pa-impress, 'di ba.”
But she bravely revealed everything through a phone call. “Eventually, tumawag ako sa kanya, and I told him lahat ng baho ko na nakakahiya. Kung ayaw na niya ako after telling him all the things I wanted to tell him, e ‘di huwag. E ‘di tapos na. At least, before anything got more complicated, nasabi ko na.”
She says she felt a sense of security after telling her husband all the bad things about herself, and it ended up greatly improving their relationship. Even to the point that every time Richard notices her her lying (even white lies), he immediately calls her out and reminds her to practice honesty.
Maricar of course acknowledges that it's not always easy, but growing up has taught her to value what it brings to their relationship. "Sometimes, when you're younger, you're more emotional, more idealistic. ‘Pag nakarinig ka ng mali, parang feeling mo end of the world na, e. Pero ngayon, having gone through some stuff, ako, I've realized the value of truth,” she added.
"Maganda kasi na alam ng partner mo 'yung kabuuan mo. Since alam niya 'yung bad ko, alam ko rin 'yung bad niya, mahal ko siya nang buo. Walang kondisyon—good or bad, I love you."
Richard also shared his view of the perks for honest couples. "Telling the truth to each other, malalaman na, 'Ah, kaya niya ako. Diba kasi, you want a long-term relationship, e. Kasi 'pag kaunti pa lang 'yung truths na nilabas mo, hindi niya kinayanan, paano pa kayo magsasama ng buong buhay niyo, na magkakaanak pa kayo, at marami pa kayong pagdadaanan together?"
“You want to end up marrying somebody that can handle your whole truth,” Richard advised.
"Masarap ang feeling kapag fully known ka, and yet, mahal na mahal ka pa rin,” Maricar added.
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