Many would think that cheating is the most hurtful and unforgivable thing you can do to your partner, but professionals are saying otherwise.

Relationship expert Lucinda Loveland says that there is something far worse than infidelity and that’s “the daily withdrawal and negative interactions that show how selfish we can act, how cold we can be, and how unfair we can treat our partner.” In other words, it’s about being overly selfish to the point where you disregard your partner’s feelings and needs.   

She also adds that this habit can be more damaging since it’s happening from the inside – and possibly, on a daily basis. “When a couple is engaged in constant negative interaction, and persistent negative thoughts about our partner as selfish, or only out for themselves, unsupportive, or even dismissive of our own needs," Loveland says. “The fundamental issue isn’t about communication or problem-solving skills, but about trust for each other.”

If you feel like your relationship is crumbling down or has already hit rock bottom, know that there is hope – you just have to work extra hard for it. Here are stories that can help you:

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From your end, reminisce about why you fell for him and what attracted you to him in the first place. Sometimes, it’s all just a matter of shifting (or recycling) your perspective. If you keep a journal, re-read your entries when you were first falling for each other.


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