Some people think that long-distance relationships (LDRs) are more likely to fizzle out than regular ones, but according to a new study published in the Journal of Communication, it’s possible to be in a happy long-distance relationship and that it's sometimes stronger in many ways.
Crystal Jiang, an assistant professor of communication at City University of Hong Kong says that couples in LDRs feel more emotionally closer compared to people who can meet every now and then. "While the public and the science community hold a pessimistic view towards long distance (LD), this research provides compelling support for the opposite side–long distance is not necessarily inferior to geographically close dating."
She also added how other people tend to be negative with the idea of LDRs, “Indeed, our culture, particularly American culture, emphasizes being together physically and frequent face-to-face contact for close relationships, but long-distance relationships clearly stand against all these values.”
So, how do you make a long-distance love affair really work? Emma Dargie, a PhD student in clinical psychology at Queen's University says the key to having a happy LDR is communication. She told Business Insider, "Establish the needs of each partner early on, practice working towards meeting those needs, and give feedback about which needs are still being unmet." She also adds, "Those who are certain of when they will be in the same city as their partner seem to cope better with the distance."
Dargie also explains that it’s not really about the distance. "According to our research, it's not necessarily how far apart you are or how little you see your partners. It's more about the discrepancy between your expectations for relationships and the reality of your current situation."