Not sure what to do about the supposed growing attraction between your husband and your nanny? Suspicious of their activities when you're not around? You're not the only one who harbors those thoughts. A lot of women can't help but be a little paranoid, especially when they see their husband or their nanny acting a little differently. The question is, what do you do? Do you take the proactive approach and send the nanny away or do you wait and see what happens? Here, tips from GIRLTalk that might help you make a decision!
1. Reserve your judgement.
Give your hubby the benefit of the doubt. Minsan na-ooffend ang mga husband kapag naghihinala ang mga wife sa husband-yaya affair. Is your hubby ba talaga capable na patulan ang yaya? Trust your husband, pero siyempre, watchful ka pa rin. Try to look for more concrete evidence first pero wag pahalata. Sabi nga nila wives are the best FBI agents pagdating sa mga hubby nila.
—from GIRLTalker dara_01
2. Prioritize your peace of mind.
Sis, mahirap na ikaw mismo ay hindi comfortable or at peace sa sarili mong bahay. If I were you, kung talagang wala kang peace of mind sa situation, hanap ka nalang ng ibang yaya, like mas matanda sa inyo imbes na mas bata. Ang hirap kasi nung wala kang peace of mind sa tunay na nangyayari e. —from GIRLTalker izabelle
3. Find another yaya, stat!
Reason mo for changing is di siya nakikinig sayo or find another reason why. Don't tell your family or your husband about it tutal too early pa to tell. Normal naman for men to joke with other people. If you really need to gauge your husband, pwede mo joke na crush siya ng yaya and see how he reacts. I agree that it's your house and if something makes you uncomfortable, address the problem. —from GIRLTalker j.adore
4. Trust your instincts.
Sis, The Lioness, trust your instincts! Kakaiba ang instinct ng mga babae, lalo kung kilala mo naman sarili mo na di ka naman napapraning lagi and ngayon ka lang nakaramdam ng ganyan. Iba kasi yung pag alam mo na paranoid ka lang at yung alam mo na iba 'tong nararamdaman ko. Pero if you know you can trust your husband then there's no need to worry. So let's say that you've given your hubby the benifit of the doubt, mas maganda pa din na look for signs/limits talaga, then pag na meet yung sign/limit mo then make a move. Remember prevention is better than cure. Luckily ang lahat ng nagiging yaya namin eh kamag-anak ni husband, mga malalayong pinsan at pamangkin...—from GIRLTalker supermom18
5. Don't take red flags lightly.
Puwede kasi na you trust your husband, lalo na if he has changed his ways, but you don't trust that maid na wala siyang gagawing moves. You don't know rin how your husband will behave kapag put in a very tempting situation. And more so if that maid has also her share of a colorful past. You don't know her background completely. Alam mo naman ang lalake, sabi nga nila kapag lumapit na ang palay, it is very hard for them to resist. Her being familiar with your husband (walang "po," nakikipag-biruan, nakatitig parati) eh all of those are red flags na sis, they're not to be taken lightly. —from GIRLTalker momentum
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