There are healthy relationships and there are toxic ones. While the first one brings out the best in you, the latter makes you miserable and drains you emotionally and psychologically. If you’re not happy anymore, it may be best to cut ties with your partner. Here are signs that indicate that you might be in an unhealthy relationship.
Your partner always criticizes you.
There’s nothing wrong with constructive criticism, but when your man keeps going overboard even when you tell him to stop, it can be a sign that he doesn’t care much about your feelings.
Being taken for granted–all the time.
Does he take too long to reply? Are you the one who always initiates dates and conversations? While it’s true that there is no perfect relationship, being taken for granted isn't much of a consolation either.
Your partner is prone to irrational jealousy...
…that often leads to a full-blown argument. Being jealous is normal, but having to deal with it every second of every day is exhausting. It also indicates your partner’s lack of trust in you, which is an important factor for your relationship to grow and mature. According to Kristina Randle, a licensed psychotherapist and assistant professor of social work and forensics, jealousy comes from not feeling confident, a result of a lack of self-esteem and a feeling of insecurity.
You feel drained.
If your partner doesn’t have a positive impact on your mood, then perhaps you should rethink your relationship. Julie Hanks, a licensed psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker and the executive director of Wasatch Family Therapy says that love relationships should be energizing and invigorating. "If you find yourself feeling drained after interacting with your partner, feel like avoiding spending time with him or feel like you have to walk on eggshells, that may be a warning sign he's not right for you."
It’s always about him.
He always has the last say and he never lets you speak your mind nor does he even try to stop and to listen to you. When you finally get the chance to speak, he tries to re-route the topic back to him. Remember, a relationship is a two-way street and communication is essential to making the relationship work.
He constantly brings up issues from the past...
…which you thought were forgiven and forgotten. It only shows that your man hasn’t completely let them go, like that time you danced on top of the table during your college road trip or that time you ditched him for a night out with the girls. Love shouldn’t be about keeping score and when he does it a little too often, think twice if you want or if can deal with this kind of treatment in the long run.
Your partner brings out the worst in you.
Whether that’s in your career, with your friends, or with your family, being in love should make you happier, more positive, and more inspired and not the other way around. Kristin Davin, a marriage counselor and doctor of psychology says that when you are in a toxic relationship, "you don’t feel free to speak your mind. You feel like you have to put on a different face just to be accepted by that person."
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