Whether it’s the first meeting or a family gathering with the whole angkan, it’s a given that you would like to get on the good side of the people who are close to your man–and that includes his mother. Here are some of the things you can do to win the heart of the first woman in his life.
Do your homework.
If you’re meeting his parents for the first time, make sure you know a little something about his mom. Ask your man what her interests, hobbies, and favorite shows are–it’s the perfect ice breaker.
First impressions do last, and while you don’t have to dress formally all the time, it’s important to dress appropriately. How you present yourself says a lot of things about you already.
Have a meaningful conversation with her.
Not all of them are monster-in-laws–sometimes, under that strong façade is a soft, caring woman; you just have to get to know her better. Try asking her out to dinner, just the two of you, and then find some common ground to talk about.
Bring a gift or a love offering.
It doesn’t matter if it’s the first meeting or the 10th Sunday lunch; remember to at least bring something for her. It could be something your kids did for her, your special baked muffins, or simple tokens of love. Always keep in mind that it’s the thought that counts; it doesn't have to be that extravagant.
Don’t forget to acknowledge your (soon-to-be) mother-in-law–whether that’s with her cooking or how she has raised her son to be the man he is now. It will give her a sense of fulfillment she might not need but could appreciate all the same.
Show her how much you love her son.
If she's sure that her son is in good hands, there’s no reason for her to dislike you, right? Mothers only want the best for their children and it’s not really impossible for you and his mom to get along. "So much of it has to do with how willing the two women are to being open to welcoming each other," says psychologist and author Dr. Dale Atkins. "These are two women who love the same man and ideally want the best for him, but one is giving up the role of the primary person in his life and the other is coming in," she added.
SCREENCAP: Monster-in-Law/New Line Cinema (2005)