Navigating the murky shores of spouse-in-law relationships could be a tricky business. And it’s not at all surprising, as parents and their newly married kids find themselves stuck in uncharted territory. Prior to marriage, the roles everyone took on were clear: parents took care of their kids, and their kids—despite being fully grown adults—are expected to follow their parents’ orders. But once marriage gets thrown into the mix, lines tend to get blurred, and things start to become complicated. Spouses are supposed to take care of each other, but are they really living up to their parents’ standards? Grandparents are expected to dote on their grandkids, but how far does that privilege really go? Add to that different family backgrounds, clashing personal values, and—let’s admit it—the mutual uneasiness in-laws have toward their kids’ spouses and vice-versa, and you have yourself a potential problem (that you’d have to deal with for the rest of your life).

Thing is, these issues couldn’t be entirely chalked up to mere “feelings.” 60percent of female participants had “long-term stress” due to “friction” in their relationship with their mother-in-laws, according to a study conducted by Cambridge University psychologist Terri Apter, whose research was featured on TIME.com. On the other hand, the Wall Street Journal reports that moms also feel more “uncertain” and “insecure” when their sons tie the knot. This was based on unpublished research conducted by Dr. Sylvia L. Mikucki-Enyart, assistant professor of communication at the University of Wisconsin-Stevens Point. Dr. Mikucki-Enyart found that the uncertainty revolves around the common worry moms have toward their newly married sons’ well-being. The moms also reported also worry about a difference in their sons’ relationship with the nuclear family, as the perceived priority would shift from the parents to the wife. The moms also reported their fear that their daughters-in-law would change their sons.

So, what’s a girl to do? Scroll through the article below for five tips that every FNite must know:

(All sreencaps from Monster-In-Law courtesy of New Line Cinema)

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