New Year’s resolutions are usually geared toward improving yourself—you want to eat healthier, be more productive at work, and socialize more often—but they can also be specific to your relationship. What are some of the things that you want to do more of as a couple? How can you strengthen the bond with your man? Here, we list down some relationship resolutions to think about.
1. Spend more quality time with each other.
Just because you live under one roof or see each other every weekend doesn’t mean you’re actually making good use of that time together. Don’t get us wrong. Watching episodes of Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. or Person of Interest is fun, but if you’re spending the whole three hours not talking, then you might as well be watching by yourself. Here’s a tip: Take a quick break after, say, two episodes. Have merienda and listen to each other’s take on the story or the characters. By engaging in a real conversation, you can discover (or validate) more things about each other.
2. Forgive each other a little more.
Small arguments can snowball into huge fights, so this year, make it a point to exercise a little more patience. If he forgets to drop by the supermarket to buy cream cheese even after you’ve already reminded him of it several times, don’t blow your top off. If he forgets yet another date because he’s been working too hard at the office, playfully tell him that he’d better make it up to you later. By keeping unnecessary arguments like these to a minimum, you and your man can have a happier, more blissful year.
3. Go out of your way to surprise each other.
People in long-term relationships have a tendency to take each other for granted. Don’t let this happen to you and your man. Make each other feel special again! Try these: Put all your love into making him breakfast in bed or drop by that out-of-the-way-but-incredibly-amazing bakery after work to get a box of his favorite cupcakes.
4. Be more supportive of each other’s passions.
You may not know much about his line of work, but you can at least ask him about his day and be interested in what he does on a daily basis. The same goes for his hobbies. Sure, playing video games may not be your idea of a fun weekend, but by giving it a chance, you’re showing him that you love and accept him just the way he is.
5. Be less jealous.
Truth: Cheating happens way more often than we like, but that doesn’t mean that all guys, given the opportunity, will cheat on you. Feeling a little jealous is human nature, but constantly ragging on him for talking to a female co-worker or being friends with other women is not healthy for the relationship. Nor will it keep him from cheating. Worse, you’ll wear him out. If you’re having a tough time getting a handle on your emotions, try looking at the situation from a logical perspective. PsychCentral suggests assessing your relationship first. Has your man done something to betray your trust? Assess yourself as well. Why are you feeling jealous? By processing the situation this way, you’re taking back control of your emotions and not the other way around. Of course, this is not to say that you should look the other way when he does stray! Once that happens, well, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
(Flashbox screencap from Two Night Stand courtesy of Viva Films)