So the guy who dumped you several months back is suddenly making a reappearance in your life. You’re kilig at the thought that your ex-boyfriend still loves you and is exerting effort to court you again. The only hiccup? You’re having second thoughts about taking him back. Hold it right there, sis! The fact that you have your doubts means re-kindling your romance may not be the best idea. Take your cue from Taylor Swift (“We are never ever, getting back together!”) and check out this list of reasons why you shouldn’t take your ex-partner back.

1. He cheated on you.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Even if your ex apologized to you for the momentary lapse of judgment and unfaithfulness, remember the fact that he lied to you. He broke your trust and it will be hard to get it back. Besides, you wouldn’t want to be the praning girlfriend when you’re back together in each other’s arms. Consider this: If he was able to cheat on you once, what guarantee do you have (aside from his pa-cute promise) that he wouldn’t be doing it again?


2. He abused you.
Be it verbal, emotional or physical, the point is that he abused you—and you do not deserve any of that. The moment he hits you, degrades you in front of his friends, or calls you names, break up with him already! If it’s something that you see him do often with other people, not just you, there is no guarantee that he would change that easily for you the second time around. Be wary about being around guys who bring you down. You deserve someone who loves and respects you as a person.

3. He doesn’t respect your family.
Sure, it can be irritating that your parents still set dating rules for you, but the reality is, they just want what’s best for you. If the guy you’re with doesn’t follow the rules, think a hundred times before even giving the relationship another try. The fact that the guy you used to date had a hard time respecting your family when you were still together, who’s to say that he will be able to do so when you get back together?

4. The love just isn’t there anymore.
When you get into a relationship, you jump in for the right reasons, and that includes loving the guy. If you know in your heart that you don’t love the person anymore, there’s no point in taking him back. You will only be hurting yourself (and him) in the process of trying to make things work.

5. You have to deal with the same emotional baggage.
If the relationship you had with your ex had been saddled with a lot of baggage, and you know that it will still be the same if you give it another try, best not to give it another shot for now. Work out your personal issues individually and be a better person first before getting into a relationship with someone else. Unless both of you are able to work out on your problems and issues, your life as a couple won’t last just like the first time.

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