In a new relationship, there are times when you can’t help but feel a bit jealous. In some cases, there is doubt whether the other person is being faithful or not. After all, it is not uncommon for people to have difficulty staying committed to a relationship. In other cases, jealousy is an emotion rooted in the doubts you have about yourself. Do you deserve the other person’s attention? Can you make him stay faithful?

In a mature relationship, however, these insecurities are sometimes magnified. You’re not as young as you used to be, and, well, who’s to say your man isn’t out on the prowl for a younger version of yourself? You may already be feeling the symptoms of menopause; you certainly don’t need your emotions troubling you like this. So how do you deal with the situation? What is the best way for you to proceed? Check out these words of wisdom for advice.


(First published as "Taming Jealousy," an entry for the Keep It Real column in the "Good Family" section of Good Housekeeping Philippines' September 2007 edition. Adapted for use in FemaleNetwork. Screencap of Chloe courtesy of Sony Pictures Classics.)