Some couples fight about the simplest things. From an officemate’s seemingly innocent text message to the monthly bills, there’s always something that triggers an argument. But while it’s normal to have these spats every now and then, you shouldn’t take this to mean that couples are always at war with each other either.

“Healthy fighting begins with empathy. After all, this is your beloved with whom you are fighting,” reports The Huffington Post. “The empathic process is a positive way to disagree, problem solve and find compromise.”

Ready to go through an empathic process with your man? Here, three common relationship problems and how to deal with them.

(Screencap from Midnight in Paris courtesy of Sony Pictures Classics)