Having a positive outlook in life can make your experiences more joyful, and can even help gravitate goodness towards you. But sometimes, unexpected things happen – an accident, a heartbreak, a death – which can cause your emotions to spiral out of control and end up somewhere dark and lonely.

ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW

When you’re sad and angry, the last thing you want to hear is someone telling you not to be, and you’re right not to listen to them (for the time being, at least), as according to a feature on Quartz, the “demand” to always be happy can be very unhealthy.

Danish author and Aalborg University psychology professor Svend Brinkman notes that faking happiness at times when you need to feel and dwell in anger, pain, or grief can cause more damage than good.

“I believe our thoughts and emotions should mirror the world,” he explains. “When something bad happens, we should be allowed to have negative thoughts and feelings about it because that’s how we understand the world.”

More From FemaleNetwork.com

He says that while it’s okay to try seeing the silver lining behind every cloud, it’s also as important to let yourself to naturally process negativity: “Life is wonderful from time to time, but it’s also tragic. People die in our lives, we lose them, if we have only been accustomed to being allowed to have positive thoughts, then these realities can strike us even more intensely when they happen—and they will happen.”

ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW

The key is to know how to release your pain. Society may tend to “pressure” you to being happy because it may be related to how pleasantly you deal with others, but being true to what you feel and finding ways on how you can go through the processwhether through a sport, a hobby, or simply allowing yourself days to recuperateis psychologically healthier in the long run. If you need to cry, don’t be embarrassed to do so. If you feel righteously angry because of an injustice done to you, then rally your cause. The point is no one can force you to be happy unless you make a decision to be, and that’s totally okay.

 

More From FemaleNetwork.com

Get the latest updates from Female Network
Subscribe to our Newsletter!
Recommended Videos
Comments

Latest Stories

Avril Lavigne to Hold Manila Concert in 2020

Avril Lavigne will hold her concert on May 20, 2020 at the Araneta Coliseum.

Use These Anti-Acne Products if You're Always Working OT this Holiday Season

These will help control oil production as you deal with more work and stress this month.

6 Things We Learned About Henry Cavill During His Manila Visit

When Henry learned that Netflix was turning The Witcher into a series, he immediately called his agents to let them know he wants to get the part!

U2 Dedicates Song to Maria Ressa, Women Who Are Rewriting History

“When women of the world unite to rewrite history as herstory, that’s a beautiful day,” said Bono.

Richard Gomez Recalls How He Proposed to Lucy Torres

Twenty-two years ago, Richard proposed to Lucy on the eve of her birthday.

Camille Prats and Family Begin Building Future Dream Home

Camille Prats is grateful for the family's early Christmas present.
Load More Stories