For a lot of people, both men and women, weight can be a major source of insecurity. And whenever it's addressed, even if the intentions are good, thoughtless comments can have serious negative effects. Fitness blogger Julia Ana Kim can attest to that. Two years ago, Julia began her fitness journey by committing to a lifestyle change. She took up boxing and weight-lifting and completed Kayla Itsines' famous workout. Additionally, she changed her diet and started meal prepping. Julia wanted to hold herself accountable so she documented her progress on Instagram:
5/2015 -> 10/2015 -> 9/2016 -> 11/2017 -> 1/2017 -> current So here's the truth, I've been stuck at the same weight for about 3 months now. I had my weight checked recently at the doctor's and I was so disappointed to see the number on the scale. The same number from January. 3 months of 0 progress. I lost 4 lbs during the 12 week challenge but somehow I've gained that back. The honest truth is I'm frustrated. I'm eating healthy, I'm working out at least 5 times a week, sometimes doing two workouts a day. I can't help but feel defeated. I still have 80 lbs to lose, and it feels so far away. I'm trying to stay positive but today I feel frustrated. I just switched my eating up to macros last week. I'm going to hold strong and hope this is the push I need. I look at these pictures and remember that I got here through hard work I want to be honest with you guys and not pretend that I'm always happy and motivated. It sucks to feel like this but it's real. The plateau has hit hard and I haven't been able to budge it. I won't give up though! Got to keep pushing forward. I started bbg 2.0 last night and it was such a good workout. I'll be doing some boxing today and practice running a mile. Let's do this!!!!
Since then, she's lost 75 pounds!
But it's not always sunshine and rainbows. Even while making steady progress, confidence isn't the easiest thing to maintain. Julia recalled an encounter she had at the gym when a man approached her to commend her for being there, despite her size. In an Instagram post, she wrote, "Today, I was at the gym with Sophie doing #gracefitguide when a man walked up to me and told me how 'proud' he was that I was there. He proceeded to tell me how brave I was for being my size and still coming to the gym. And KEPT talking and had to stop himself from calling me fat. Thank you, sir. He did, however, use his hands to motion how big I was while saying he himself couldn't imagine coming to the gym while being that big."
She smiled through it, but cried in the bathroom later on.
A reminder to myself that this is no longer me. Not just in size, but in my mindset and strength. Today, I was at the gym with Sophie doing #gracefitguide when a man walked up to me and told me how "proud" he was that I was there. He proceeded to tell me how brave I was for being my size and still coming to the gym. And KEPT talking and had to stop himself from calling me fat. Thank you sir ???? he did however use his hands to motion how big I was while saying he himself couldn't imagine coming to the gym while being that big. It doesn't help that this week, I've been super bloated and feeling bigger than usual and down on myself, and then this man just makes me feel like absolute shit. I wish I could say I was like fuck you and kept on with my workout. Instead I just smiled in shock until he left and cried in the bathroom with Sophie. I was hurt, embarrassed, and mortified. If he said this to me at the beginning of my journey, I would never come back to the gym. I was always scared to workout at the gym for this reason. That people would judge me. Everyone is at the gym to better themselves and become healthier so PLEASE refrain from going up to someone and belittling them. I honestly don't think his words came from a good place, I can't explain the way he said it to me. How do you practically call someone fat to their face and think that it's encouraging? I refuse to let this deter me from going to the gym. I've learned to love going to the gym and it's my happy place and it will continue to be. FUCK WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS OF ME. I know why I'm there and I know how much progress I've made. K rant over. I can't believe I cried on my insta story but it's raw and real. Anyways I'm off to meal prep!!!! Macros start tomorrow! Thank you everyone for already dming me sweet messages. I'm okay just need a little time to recover ??
He might have had really good intentions, but Julia wants everyone to remember that every person who goes to the gym wants to improve. They are there for their own specific reasons. Commenting on one's routine or progress isn't always encouraging, believe it or not. As for Julia, she's vowed to keep going to the gym and treat it as her happy place.
Dancing because I finally have wireless headphones and it's life changingggggg. ???????? It makes workouts so much better because I'm not so focused on how hard the workouts are. I'm also so zoned in on the music that I don't feel awkward when I use the gym machines. One thing I really love doing is listening to podcasts while on the stairmaster and it makes it so much easier (thanks @missfitizen for the advice. Go check out her YT channel, she gives amazing tips). Anyone have good podcast recommendations? Currently using @sudiosweden's regent headphones and I'm in love. ???? they're perfect for LISS or arms&abs workouts but can't do burpees in them. Still obsessed!!! Get 15% off with code julieanakim (no I don't get commission nor is this sponsored). Time to do some BBG week 6 arms and abs with my headphones. ????????????????#sudiosweden #sudio #sudiomoments
This story originally appeared on Cosmo.ph.
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