There are days when you feel that you can take on the world, and then there are days when you can’t even properly boil an egg. There are so many things out there that can make you feel ugly or incompetent, and when you’re slowly gliding into your thirties, these are magnified into thoughts of self-deprecation that erode any confidence that you may have initially had.
It’s not easy to be sure about yourself. Life is a series of second-guesses, and half the time you put your own capabilities in question. Even the best of us have their bouts of self-doubt, but in the end, it’s all a matter of how you deal with them. If ever start questioning your worth, here are a few things you should remember.
1. You have so much good in you.
Sure, you’ve messed up a lot of times, but that’s normal. Everybody messes up at one point or another. The thing is, you have more right in you than wrong. You are not a walking mistake, and you are perfectly imperfect the way you are. Stop thinking that you’re the worst there is, because you most definitely are not.
2. Be kind to yourself.
Feeling that you’re not good enough can mean that you have this certain standard that you need to meet every single time, and at some point you have failed to do so. Whether it be personal or professional, know that you can’t always be at your 100 percent. Failure doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the right to be where you are. It just means that you’re just about to be given the opportunity to try again. Remember that in spite of everything, you are good enough. As American writer Max Ehrmann wrote, “You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.”
3. Don’t believe everything you see.
Every day, you are bombarded by general concepts of what’s good and what’s beautiful. Along main thoroughfares you see billboards of models with their slim silhouettes and online you scroll through carefully curated Instagram posts that make you feel that your life isn’t good enought.
Don’t worry, the lives of these people aren’t perfect either. Behind appearances, there is a lot going on that no one really knows. Remember that these seemingly flawless people are people, too, and they may have the same insecurities as you do.
4. Stop comparing yourself with others.
Other people may be more successful than you are, and that’s okay. Everybody develops at their own time. Some may already know exactly what they want and are moving towards it, while some may still be searching for their own paths, and that’s totally okay. Wherever you are in your life right now, you are there for a reason. Be patient with everything that’s going on around you, but most of all, be patient with yourself.
5. Accept the moment.
Whether or not everything is doing well, accept it. Don’t think about the mistakes you made in the past or your fears about the future. Revel in the now. It’s part of who you are, and it’s turning you into the person that you want to be.
6. You are beautiful.
Past appearances and social standing, what’s important is the spirit that burns within you. It is beyond pride, or fear, or judgement. It is what it is, and it’s what makes you beautiful. Whatever the world says about you, you are enough, and you are worth it.
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