I had an emotional affair with my ex

[kvandenhaak]

Sis @kvandenhaak bwahaha grabe super tawa ko... tim horton's lang papalibre pa.. OMG. Korek @mysterioza_me pang kape lang wala pa..wag na muna sila mag-date diba!?

Pero mga sis, truth is, maraming predator sa mundo. And maraming SCAM artists. Yung sa kwento ko, Ana is an intelligent woman. Her family, friends, the priest, everyone was all supportive of Bryan. Even ako nakasama ko sila we never doubted how "pure" Bryan's intentions were. After the fact na lang.

May mga taong ganun sis -- they use charm, hypnosis, the science and art of influencing and winning others. They study and use human psychology, to scam others. Mahimasmasan ka na lang after... we even see it in the news diba? It's hard to believe until it happens to us or someone close to us that we know can't possibly be fooled.

Hopefully, wag mangyari sa akin yan. However, karaniwang mamamayan lang naman ako at tamang tama lang sa budget ang kinikita. Hindi ko kayang gumastos ng ako lang sa kasal tapos pati airfare ng family ni guy ako pa rin. Kahit hanggang buto ang gusto ko sa kanya, wala akong ganong available na cash...lol! Yung mga dugyot na mahilig magpalibre sa Timmie's lang ang market ko...hahaha! 

Pero, basing on personal experience, ang mga lalake ayaw ng nakakaangat ang babae. They feel insecure about it. Ganon nangyari sa akin dun sa first BF ko. Buti na lang, eh di sana palamunin ko pa sya up to now!  Hindi normal sa mga lalake na kampante na palamunin.

[fifi_girl]

i happen to read sis alyssalicious' posts here in GT (Stalker mode). There was this post in another forum na parang sinabi nya na she felt like they did not make love. She felt like it was more of a Casual sex daw.

Her exact words were: "The last time we had sex was a bit off for me. Kase I felt na he didn't make love with me. Parang casual sex lang over lust."

sis alyssalicious, please save yourself from this guy. You're only 23! There are much bigger things in store for you. Hindi mo alam, baka s*x lang ang habol sayo ng lalakeng yan!

[Miss Granger]

Paano justify yung pagkakaroon ng 2nd child kung tipong shotgun wedding ang naganap?

[Girltalker2]

I am not saying lahat ng Pinoy ganon at lahat pangit. Pero me mga breed kasi na ganon and for whatever reason, sila ang nami-meet ko online. Magda-drugs na lang ako, please lang!

Hahahahaha 😂😂😂

[mysterioza_me]

sis alyssalicious, please save yourself from this guy. You're only 23! There are much bigger things in store for you. Hindi mo alam, baka s*x lang ang habol sayo ng lalakeng yan!

Yung Sex plus yung iba pa na kasama sa full-package na inooffer ni ate girl. Baka nagmamadali talaga si guy kasi uuwi pa para magluto. Magagalit si misis kapag umuwing walang food. Baka yung pamasahe ni guy kapag magmimeet sila ni ate girl kupit pa galing sa panggrocery na bigay ni misis.

Ate girl magising ka na ang bata mong sugar mommy pagnagkataon. Saka if he cant satisfy you maski sa sex ano na lang meron ang guy na yan at gustong-gusto mo. Walang pera, walang trabaho, may asawa at anak, walang backbone tapos negative pa performance sa kama. Hay naku. Ang love nakakalimutan in the long run kapag walang pera at di maayos ang sexlife ng couple.

[Shadow Angel]

@fifi mukha deleted na un post nya na yan. Oh well mukha decided na sya mapaka t**** and maging sugar mommy. Mukha may family issues sya or kulang sa pagmamahal. Natatawa lang ako na compare nya Ang sitwasyon nya kay TS samantalang sya un nasa kumunoy na unti unti nahihila pababa na hindi nya namamalayan.
 

[lalee888]

Siguro we can send The original poster and @alyssalicious to the spiritual enlightenment thread

[kvandenhaak]

So she already knows there's red flags. I can understand sana kung halos tumirik mata nya during their sexy time kaso pasang awa din dun? I want to see the picture at baka naman sobrang hot. No?

Sometimes yang mga walang redeeming factor, they will use emotional manipulation. Paawa effect. I remember may neighbor kaming ganyan sa barrio namin. The girl is smart, pretty din and was pretty spoiled by the parents. Tapos ang naging asawa dugyutin, from a poor family at grade 2 lang ang tinapos. Sobrang iyak ng mommy nya nung nagtanan. Ngayon losyang na.

[mysterioza_me]

^Naisip ko din nung una baka ang galing sa kama kaya di mahiwalayan at handang gawin ni girl lahat kaso di din pala e. So ano na lang? Martilyo lang talaga ang role ni guy, martilyo na ipupukpok ni ate girl sa ulo niya.

[fifi_girl]

^akala ko nga din magaling sa bed si guy. Yun pala wala din.
si sis alyssalicious, mukhang tinamaan na talaga.

She mentioned that she is willing to help fund the annulment. Eh in the first place, alam ba nung wife na may balak siyang i-annul nung asawa niya? At tsaka kung papunta na sa annulment yun, dapat humiwalay na si guy. Diba usually ma-re-realize mo na gusto mo ng annulment after you lived separately for some time? hmmmm...

She's only 23! madami pa syang mistakes na magagawa sa buhay niya. I can say that by far, this might be the biggest mistake she is making. Ako nga, 34 na, and i still make mistakes.

[preciousjulia]

Oh my!! 23 pa lang pala si sis. 
Ang dami ng nangyari, ang haba ng back read ko..

Just to share.. I was 21 and hubby was 30 when we met.
That was 7 years ago..
May ex live-in partner sya and one love child before kami magkakilala.
EX! coz they are not together anymore nung dumating ako sa buhay nya.
Confirmed yan. Kasi bago nya po ako niligawan pinaalam nya muna kay baby nya (she's 6 yrs old that time) and Ex na kung ok na ba sya makipag-date coz 4 years naman na din silang hiwalay nung mommy.
And they approved it, according din daw sa ex nya may dinedate naman na din daw syang iba.
That time pumupunta sya dun sa house ni ex nya para lang bisitahin yung baby nya.
And bago sya manligaw sakin pinagtapat nya yan lahat sakin.
I was disappointed at first coz syempre at young age super idealistic pa ko sa relationship pero na-feel ko naman na malinis intention nya.
Inayos nya muna lahat between samin ng ex nya at daughter nya..para clear lang lahat.
Tinanggap ko lahat. Saka sure ako na wala naman akong sinasagasaan na ibang tao. Wala kaming masasaktan. May time pa na iniinvite nila ko sa school activities ng daughter nya kasama yung mommy. Ok lang daw sa mommy kasi ok kami nung anak nya.
Ako na yung tumatanggi kasi baka magtaka yung mga classmate nung bata bakit iba kasama nung Daddy nya plus nandun pa yung mom.

Ang point sis kung malinis talaga intention ni guy, from the start bago ka nya i-pursue inayos na nya muna lahat.
Kung mahal ka nya talaga hindi nya hahayaan ikaw magdala ng sitwasyon.
Dapat sya!
Walang respeto sa mga babae yung ganyan klaseng lalaki.

Another one.. I am a wife and a mom too.
Nakaka-worried lang na may mga babaeng pumapayag/naniniwala sa mga bola ng mga ganitong lalaki.
Sis anong malay mo..sa house pala napaka-family man nung bf mo.
Inaasikaso wife and kids nya. Palagi silang may I love you.
Hubby always make lambing his wife after office..
Walang kamalay-malay yung wife na behind her back, habang nagta-trabaho sya para sa family nya eh may isang tulad mong pilit sumisira ng lahat.
Willing magpa-uto sa asawa nyang user!

Look! tama ka naman..buhay nyo yan and desisyon nyo yan.
Pero hindi lahat pinaglalaban lalo na kung mali at lalo na ikaw mismo may nakikita kang red flags.
Bata mo pa sis. Maniwala ka samin.
Madami pang pwedeng mangyaring mas mainam sa buhay mo.

[Alyssalicious]

Uhhm lol. I don't know where to start sa pagsagot sa inyo.

First, sugar mommy? Oh no. Hindi ako kulang sa pagmamahal at meron akong pagmamahal sa sarili ko na tinitira. When we go out, we take turns sa gastusin. Meron naman syang business near their house. It's a store and a computer shop galing sa savings nya when he worked abroad nung binata pa. Second, I didnt say na I'll fund the annulment. We are still considering attorney pa nga eh. And we will not file it until we have civil talks with the wife, nag aarrange palang kami ng docs.

Uhm ano pa ba. Ahh sex life. Well that was my decision to do that deed with him. Ginusto ko din naman. Performance? Seriously, do I have to open up that matter to you? Lol. The last time I said na I felt we just had a casual sex over lust, I believe we were both just satisfying ourselves just to say we had sex. We were in a hurry and kagagaling lang namin non sa away xD So it was sex out of frustration and not making love. Hope you're getting my point.

You're not judging me? Not under attack? Come on, you all are. Im cautious with my replies because I know I made myself vulnerable - wherein you'll say kung ayaw mo masabaihan ng kung ano ano dapat di ka na nagpost. Ganyan naman yang mga kabit, kung sino pang kabit sila ang matapang. Walang breeding. Di nag iisip. Boba. ga**. Walang utak, napunta lahat sa suso (My Perfect You, linya ni Pia Wutzback xD) But seriously, I know he has shortcomings, so do I. Yung relationship namin walang promises, no sweet talks but all realtalks. Mahirap naman talaga, kadalasan inaaway ko sya sa mga naiisip kong scenario sa utak ko na di naman totoo. Sa sitwasyon. Sa pagiging insensitive nya minsan. Sa pagiging short tempered ko. Sa pagiging pabebe.

To sum this up, yes thank you ladies - preciousjulia and otra_vez all noted. Ano nga bang nahanap ko sakanya why I made all this mess for him. I dont know. All I know is that I loved. And he made me a better person. To have dreams and goal in life. To go out of my routine and appreciate the little things. He has taught me several things I usually overlook.

And to other girls, di ako kagaya nyo. Na magmamahal lang pag may benefit, magmamahal lang when it's convenient for you. Iiwanan kapag loser, iiwan when he doesn't provide well for a living,  kapag di magaling ang performance? Oh come on. I dont need your enlightenment. I dont even know you, people. This is my own battle at sakit sa ulo na I made and need to face. And it's my choice to love him even if he is at his worse - as of the moment. So don't expect replies from me anymore. Say all what you want to say, kayo na magaling. But I'll update, and let you know kung ano nangyari sakin xD

Wife doesn't have a boyfriend. But is entertaining suitors. PInaka importante sa ngayon ang interes ng mga bata. That, I understand. We may be wrong, but we'll make things right. We just need a chance, and time.

[hisana]

^
You said na how can you guys be together when he has nothing, na househusband lang, eh ito naman pa lang may business pala sya at nakapag-abroad pa pala noon. Na he is empty, etc., etc.

Oh well, tama ka naman dyan na it's your story, your life.

[Alyssalicious]

Let's be practical, di kami mabubuhay ng love. Magkasama nga kami isang kahig, isang tuka naman. That's why we are taking our time to work our ass off and plan ahead.

Abroad when he was single, and that was a long time ago. Interests change when there are already kids at stake. Can you please read my posts closely.

Damn right, so mind your own businesses because I mind my own 

Adieu.

[hisana]

Hey, pinoint out ko lang na contradicting yung sinabi mo. A business is not "nothing". A househusband is different from a business owner. As for what you want to do with your guy, naipost ko na a few pages ago, problema mo na yan.

And please, if you don't want people reacting to your problem, makes sense na huwag ka na lang magpost dito, di ba? So why do you keep posting?

[preciousjulia]

Wife doesn't have a boyfriend. But is entertaining suitors. PInaka importante sa ngayon ang interes ng mga bata. That, I understand. We may be wrong, but we'll make things right. We just need a chance, and time.

So sis..alam ni wife ang about sa inyo? kasi kung bata na lang ang concern nila dapat malinaw din kanila status nilang dalawa. Tulad ng sabi mo nag-eentertain na si wife ng suitor. Pano mo nalaman? Sabi ni bf? So ano ang pumipigil sa bf mo para kausapin na wife nya at linawin na mga bata na lang ang concern nila. How old na ba mga kids?

[fifi_girl]

Hayaan na natin siya mga Sis! Comment pa kase tayo ng comment eh hahahaha 😂😂

Well, tama nga naman. Its her life. Her choices. Tinamaan si Ate ehhhh... naku, kung anak ko yan, baka inuntog ko na sa pader yan para magising!

[littlekinselle]

I feel  pity for ate girl, sabi na nga niya it's her life, let her be. Wala naman pagsisisi sa una hayaan natin siya matuto sa pag kakamali niya. soon!
nasa bliss stage sila kaya ganyan di niya makita yun mali.

[Girltalker2]

Sis anong malay mo..sa house pala napaka-family man nung bf mo.
Inaasikaso wife and kids nya. Palagi silang may I love you.
Hubby always make lambing his wife after office..

Sis, ito nga yun eh. Everything about the guy is Sabi lang ng guy. Ni walang confirmation from the wife, kids, friends, family or relatives. How can one believe his word lang?

Something is really off. But that?s just how it is.

[preciousjulia]

^ right sis! Parang may hindi tama nuh..
Sino ba naman matinong wife ang magtitiis sa ganung situation..
Matino ka bang asawa nagpapaligaw ka na sa iba pero kasama mo pa din husband mo?
Sasabihin para sa mga bata kaya magkasama..eh ano pa bang para sa mga bata may mga kanya-kanya na nga kayong ginagawang kalokohan diba (if totoo yung sinasabi ng bf ni sis)..
Mga nasa tamang edad naman na, ilagay na lang nila sa lugar..(again if totoo yung sinasabi ng bf ni sis)...

Baka naman kasi ok naman silang mag-asawa..
Suma-sideline lang si hubby..
kasi kung nagpapaligaw na si wife sa iba bakit hindi na lang sila mag-usap na hiwalaya na sila.
Bakit kailangan pa nila magtago diba..

Pero yun nga..ano ba alam natin eh nagbe-base lang naman tayo sa mga sine-share ni sis dito.
At tutal mukang desidido na nga si sis..
Hayaan na lang natin sya matuto..
(Kahit may masaktan sya/sila?)

Back to work..