Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)

[otra_vez]

@shiny: Wag mo isipin masyado. If he likes you enough, he will go to you. If not, kebs di ba. Wag yang nasistress ka agad eh wala pa naman nangyayari. Also, where are you getting your info? Baka naman people are just buttering you up for nothing. Minsan people do that eh, kainis ano. But yun nga, don't think about it. Enjoy your single status, girl. There's plenty of time for all that landian someday, when it happens. Sa ngayon, pasarap ka muna.

@Gabby: Nasabi na nila lahat but seriously, wtf, he has a partner already. Ikaw na lumayo since obviously wala sa tamang pagiisip yang lalaking yan. He's feeding his ego with your misguided affection. Ginagamit ka lang nyan so ngayon pa lang, save yourself more pain and shame at cut ties na. He doesn't respect you, obviously.

[Apple1230]

above 30s, maybe both cowards

Naku sis do not make excuses for this guy. If he likes you he is coming for you. He will pursue you no  matter what. I have turned guys down, told them upfront na hindi kame pwede and still makulit pa rin. I asked why, kasi gusto daw nila ako. And also don't blame yourself for not doing anything. Wala ka naman talaga dapat gawin.

He was suppose to be the one to approach you, initiate the conversation, get your number and ask you out. Guys are hunters and if he really likes you he is going for it. Maybe he was a little interested, he was looking at you and you were looking back. Pero hindi nag escalate yun. Now you see him with someone else. No big deal, hindi naman naging kayo, ni hindi nga kayo nag usap. All of this is just in your head. Snap out of it and live your best life.

Go out there and meet new people. Meet guys that actually wants to talks to you and asks you out. Don't long and cry for this guy who didn't even have the guts to say hi to you. 

[mysterioza_me]

^Agree. Agree.

[Shadow Angel]

Lakas maka teenager.

Akala mo lang siguro meron something sa inyo pero baka ang totoo wala naman talaga.

[mysterioza_me]

^True. Nag-assume lang.

[Apple1230]

^utak din gamitin sis huwag lang puro puso. Ilagay mo na lang sarili mo sa lip niya. Kung ikaw yung girl. The guy gets the best of both worlds. He goes home to a family and pag wala siya dun he gets you na parang gf bf treatment. Ang swerte niya diba ang selfish at the same time.

Sorry to say this but you lack self love. Kasi if you really love yourself you will do better than this. You will not be in that situation. He knows it and he is playing with your weakness. Wala ka din respect sa sarili mo. Wala ka din respect sa relationship ng ibang tao.

Get better and be stronger emotionally. Learn to love yourself and give to you what you truly deserve. Yan ang dapat mong gawin hindi yung itanong sa taong may partner na to define your relationship. Nyek diba. Stop watching too many telenovelas and dramas. This will not end well for you and you know it. 

[Shadow Angel]

^^Wag gawin valid reason na dahil may problema un magpartner ok lang na may sumingit ala Liz Uy. Kung talaga ayaw nya sa partner nya hiwalayan muna bago makipag landian sayo.

LIP at mag asawa para sa akin iisa lang yan or dahil kasi dito valid or legally may K ang kapartner. Plus may anak sa kanya si guy so anong tawag sayo?

[kvandenhaak]

@kvan: his actions, attention and all. He always tells na, mas gusto nyang ako ang kasama at kausap nya. Hindi nya kayang iwan lip and kid kasi yung responsibilities nya sa kanila, di nya kayang abandonahin na lang bigla.

Of course yun ang sasabihin nya! Alangan namang sabihin nya yung totoo? Anyways, technically you are a mistress so it really boils down to what you want to do with your life.  Either gusto mo ng tahimik or magulo. We can't decide for you.

[otra_vez]

@Gabby: Forever litanya yan ng cheaters. Of course, he's frustrated with his partner. Never mind all the sacrifices, all the love, the life his partner has given him.  This fleeting moment of frustration is mas matimbang for him now especially now that he has found a confidant, an ally in you. Tandaan mo, that feeling of "everything feels so right!", that's how the two of them started too, which is why he goes home to her, not you. So never assume na what you have now is special. Hindi, it's so unspecial nga eh kaya he feels he can treat you like a side dish.

Ika nga ng iba, mahalin mo sarili mo. Wag magpakadesperada. Sayang ang time sa mga BS relationships and pseudo-relationships when you can instead cultivate a more meaningful relationship with yourself and the people who truly love & cherish you.

[TomHansen]

above 30s, maybe both cowards

Nasabi na lahat ng mga sis dito, stop making excuses for him na lang. Huwag mo ring bigyang pansin yung dream mo na magiging kayo, panaginip lang yun doesn't mean kailangang mangyayari or mangyayari - heck napanaginipan ko dati na kami ni angel locsin. Kung talagang gusto ka niya gumawa na sana siya ng paraan higit pa sa mga ginawa niya. If talagang gusto ka niya hindi siya papayag na sa church ka lang niya makikita. If talagang sincere at special ka for him special din ang gagawin niya para mapalapit sa iyo.

I'm sorry to hear na nahihirapan ka ngayon pero lilipas din yan since after a few weeks once tumigil na kakaisip mo sa kanya at sa what ifs. Right now respect their relationship na lang. Accept na may gf na siya, na may special person na siya sa buhay niya, someone na nageffort siya enough para mapasagot yung girl - something na di niya ginawa sayo dahil di ganun kabigat feelings niya for you.

 

[TomHansen]

..
Thanks mga sis sa mga advices. Alam ko naman, sakin din magsimula dapat na lumayo, I jsut do not have the strength to do it.

Mahirap dahil palagi mo siyang kasama or nakikita. Katrabaho mo ba? Maliban sa magresign dumistansya na lang talaga magagawa mo. Humanap ka na ibang group of friends, umiwas ka sa chances na magkakasama or magkikita kayo. Mahirap sa simula dahil nakasanayan mo na pero yun lang ang way ang sanayin mo naman ang sarili mo na wala siya. Respect mo sarili mo sis.

[Bridgette*]

^^ Pero ang nagdala talaga eh yung pagdyowa mo kay Angel Locsin. Lodi. hahahaha

[deliciossa]

so question. sa tanda kong ito (mid 30s), di ko alam kung etong si new guy friend eh interested ba o hindi. usually casual lang naman usapan, how are you and what not. medyo nagulat ako one day since bago pa lang naman kami magkakilala, bigla akong inambush with a question na, "so, are you married?" with several follow-up questions since sabi ko hindi naman ako married, tinanong ako kung boyfriend daw ba meron, fiance, etc. kaloka.

[AprilGal26]

I think that's beyond pagiging polite and pakikisama. Meaning, interested sya sayo (not a guy tho).
I won't try to make a conversation long kung I find someone not interesting. I think humanap ng tsempo yan para makausap ka ng ganyan. I mean, he actually been wanting to ask you those questions pero dinaan na lang muna sa kamustahan.

Where were you guys nung tinanong ka nya? or just through message lang?

[TomHansen]

^^ lol feeling close ba na nakukuha ka nang tanungin ng ganyan? Baka yun ang way niya para makipagclose sa isang tao, pakwela ba yung delivery niya sa pagtatanong? Still ang panget ng paraan niya and hopefully di niya na ulitin yung ganung way ng pakikipag-usap, hindi naman kayo close hehe.

[deliciossa]

I think that's beyond pagiging polite and pakikisama. Meaning, interested sya sayo (not a guy tho).
I won't try to make a conversation long kung I find someone not interesting. I think humanap ng tsempo yan para makausap ka ng ganyan. I mean, he actually been wanting to ask you those questions pero dinaan na lang muna sa kamustahan.

Where were you guys nung tinanong ka nya? or just through message lang?

Personal yun, not through message. We were with other people that time, tapos nung naiwan kami dalawa, which is very rare na kami lang dalawa, biglang ayan nga, ambush. Tapos nung pagbalik nung kasama namin change topic sya ulit.

[amethyst028]

^baka intertested siya sayo, but it is best not to assume or expect. Just let it be. Go with the flow ka na lang. kung type ka niya and may plano siya sayo he will do all the work. So just sit back and watch kung ano mga moves niya if meron man.

[marcee7]

Hi guys,  how do you feel kapag nagagalet/pinagbabawalan kayo ng asawa or g.f mag -inom kasama barkada?

[Apple1230]

^bakit ka nagagalit pag uminom siya kasama ang barkada niya? Can you give us a valid reason?

[el presidente]

ako kung gusto ko talaga ang girl gagawa ako ng paraan para ma contact ang girl..... by all means.
kung d makuha sa tingin eh di lapitan natin