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Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« on: February 07, 2017, 02:46:35 pm »
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #1 on: March 07, 2017, 02:57:38 am »
Guys i need your advice,  im on my vacation here in abroad..  yesterday i checked my husband's FB and na discover ko sumali siya sa isang group of walkers..  if you dont know kung ano un walkers na tinatawag un yun mga online dealings then pag nag kasundockayo sa deal mag memeet-up kayo for Sex babayaran ka it depends sa kasunduan niyo..

Shocks ano ibigsabihin nun? Bakit kaya sumali husband ko dun for what reason??  I checked his messenger too pero wala naman ako nakita may ka chat siya but FB has secret conversation so wala din use if lagi ko checked yun messenger niya gusto ko siya mahuli kung may ginagawa siya di maganda but how???..  ayoko pa siya confront about dun  i need a substantial evidence para magalit ako or actionan ko. TIA 
« Last Edit: March 07, 2017, 03:01:05 am by littlekinselle »

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #2 on: March 07, 2017, 03:19:52 am »
It's not rocket science. Do the math. Kelangan pa bang i-memorize yan? What substantial evidence pa ba kelangan? Que me ginawa na sya or wala pa, the motive is already there.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #3 on: March 07, 2017, 06:10:51 am »
^tama ka dyan. Sa akin din sapat ng dahilan na magalit ako knowing na sumali or member sya ng walkers site/group for what di ba?  hindi ko na hihintayin may gawin pa.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #4 on: March 07, 2017, 08:32:39 am »
What if sumaki lang siya dahil wala lang?! Mahirap makipag talo sa husband ko .. gusto ko kasi may proof ako.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #5 on: March 07, 2017, 11:00:19 am »
^ As a guy, at dala na rin ng conversations with friends et al, I could say na some join and visit those groups out of curiosity. Wala lang, tingin tingin lang. It differs from person to person, pero yung iba na nag join dun wala naman talaga balak mag try dun. But then, I'm not saying na it's all safe and calm. Since andun sya sa site na yun, marami pa rin temptations and what if he's bored and maisipan nya bigla? But hindi rin ganun kadali yun. Kasi kahit yung mga walkers dun may verification methods sila at most likely nag cater sila sa mga regular customers lang nila. Mahirap if biglaan lang at kung kelan lang magustuhan ni hubby. And take note, mas maraming way pa para gumawa sya ng kalokohan na hindi maiiwanan ng evidence. If you only knew, mas madaling mag visit ng websites na ganyan ang kalakaran kesa sa FB pa. Or worse, mas madali pumunta ng brothel para sa ganun.

All I'm saying is wag masyado mag panic. You could discuss this with him calmly na sabihin mo na nakita ko na you join this group. Joining that group doesn't mean na sasali sya sa activities dun. Tell him how you feel. Sabihin mo lang na alam mo yung pag join nya, magdadalawang isip na yun for sure if mag proceed pa sya if may binabalak nga. 
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #6 on: March 07, 2017, 12:41:46 pm »
Sabihin mo curb curiosity.
Porn o kahit ano na walang personal interaction ay OK lang. Pero yung mga pwede ka chat at makita personally, at accessible sa inyo ay hindi pwede kasi andiyan temptation.
Sabihin mo din trabaho niyo pareho protect marriage niyo.

Pero sis, OK ba kayo? Di nagaway at walang sexual frustration?

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #7 on: March 07, 2017, 12:55:54 pm »
Guys i need your advice,  im on my vacation here in abroad..  yesterday i checked my husband's FB and na discover ko sumali siya sa isang group of walkers..  if you dont know kung ano un walkers na tinatawag un yun mga online dealings then pag nag kasundockayo sa deal mag memeet-up kayo for Sex babayaran ka it depends sa kasunduan niyo..
Sundan mo lang  thread... at mga post nya..
tapos  mag   na meet  up  sila  ask mo   yung   girl.. if  na   tuloy
magpang gap ka lang ng  walker ..  sabihin nag verify ka..
if  legit  sya.

saka  mo  husgahan  asawa..   and if  natuloy  sabay  HIV test narin.. kayo  pareho..





Shocks ano ibigsabihin nun? Bakit kaya sumali husband ko dun for what reason?? 

I checked his messenger too pero wala naman ako nakita may ka chat siya but FB has secret conversation so wala din use if lagi ko checked yun messenger niya gusto ko siya mahuli kung may ginagawa siya di maganda but how???..  ayoko pa siya confront about dun  i need a substantial evidence para magalit ako or actionan ko. TIA 

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #8 on: March 07, 2017, 02:10:21 pm »
Reply to all:
di naman kami nag aaway pero madami siya di sinasabi saken like pag doll-out niya ng money na 10k. Mga plans nila ng mga friends niya sa motor at car kung saan man sila pupunta. About sa sex life namin well i admit hindi ganon ka happy it takes month/s na walang "Do" 

Nakita ko wala post asawa ko sa group of walkers march 2 siya nag joined kasi nakita ko sa activity log niya puro search niya ganon..
Plano ko na din gumawa ng fake fb then magpanggap na walker then saka ko siya i memessage.
« Last Edit: March 07, 2017, 02:15:28 pm by littlekinselle »

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« Reply #9 on: March 07, 2017, 03:52:40 pm »
^ That is just wrong. Ikaw ang gagawa ng something para ma prove na may chance magloko ang asawa mo? I don't know, maybe it's just me, pero parang analogous sya sa gusto mo i prove na nananakit ang asawa mo kaya ipoprovoke mo na saktan ka.

Like what I've said, mas ok na pagusapan nyo yan. Tell him na you are not comfortable with that.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #10 on: March 07, 2017, 03:55:10 pm »
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Plano ko na din gumawa ng fake fb then magpanggap na walker then saka ko siya i memessage.

Recipe for disaster ito sis, ending nyan ikaw pa ang masisisi and majajudge as freak if ginawa mo yan. Also, ask yourself, if gawin mo yan, ready ka bang malaman lahat ng katotohanan? If ever man na nag-aavail nga si husband mo ng ganung services, handa ba ang loob mong malaman yun lahat?

Meron akong kakilala kasi na ganyan, tinextmate yung husband para hulihin. Eh kumagat yung lalaki, hanggang sa naging 'girlfriend' nya yung textmate nya which is the wife. So wala naman silang naresolve kasi ending hindi pa rin nya maconfront yung husband nya right away. Nung nagkaron ng confrontation, sinabihan pa syang baliw ng husband nya kasi nga bakit kelangan magpanggap ng ganun. Ewan ko lang, for me, it will only make matters worse and lalo lang sasama ang tingin sayo ng asawa mo.

Kung sa history ng pagsasama nyo eh maayos naman kausap si husband mo, I suggest as early as now kausapin mo na sya.
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #11 on: March 07, 2017, 05:27:30 pm »
Sige di na ako gagawa ng fake account.. magaling kasi makipag discussion feeling niya lagi siya tama. Malulusutan niya yon magaling mag dahilan. Minsan nahuli ko pa siya may ka chat siya kababata niya babae nasa italy okay lang saken pero un girl kung ano ano sinasabi sa asawa ko. To the point ito namang asawa ko mag kiss and tell nagalit talaga ako sakanya. Di ako mag tataka if may ka chat siya nililihim na lang niya kasi mga friends niya bilang sa kamay ang loyal. 

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #12 on: March 07, 2017, 06:28:11 pm »
di naman kami nag aaway pero madami siya di sinasabi saken like pag doll-out niya ng money na 10k. Mga plans nila ng mga friends niya sa motor at car kung saan man sila pupunta. About sa sex life namin well i admit hindi ganon ka happy it takes month/s na walang "Do" 

Sis, tip ko sayo diyan mo ibuhos ang lahat ng enerhiya mo -- improve relationship.

- Hanapin mo yung root cause at yung mga pangyayari noon sa tagal ng pagsasama niyo bakit nagsimula siyang hindi magsabi sayo ng tungkol sa pera at lakad niya.
- Tapos bakit walang Do anyare? Ganyan ba talaga kayo noon pa o may mga pagbabago?

Hanapin mo mga sagot sa mga isyu niyo. Imbis na planuhin mo yung mga bagay na pwede magkadownward spiral ang relasyon niyo, dun ka sa positibo. Dun ka sa may control ka -- sarili mo.
Be the best wife you can be. Pag nagloko pa din siya eh di siraulo mister mo. At least alam mo sa sarili mo, wala kang maling ginawa o gagawin.

Minsan nahuli ko pa siya may ka chat siya kababata niya babae nasa italy okay lang saken pero un girl kung ano ano sinasabi sa asawa ko. To the point ito namang asawa ko mag kiss and tell nagalit talaga ako sakanya. Di ako mag tataka if may ka chat siya nililihim na lang niya kasi mga friends niya bilang sa kamay ang loyal. 

Ginagawa yan ng lalaki pag di niya makausap partner niya. Isali mo na sis -- improve communication.

Kailangan mo alamin bakit tingin ng mister mo di ka open. Hanap kayo ng solusyon at sabihin mo tulungan niyo isa't isa na gawin yung solusyon na yun. Kailangan committed kayo pareho.

Kung di naintindihan ng mister mo bakit hindi dapat kiss and tell at bakit hindi pwede ang ganyang klaseng pagkakaibigan sa ibang babae, bigyan mo ng sandamakmak na article tungkol sa emotional infidelity, how to protect your marriage, etc. etc.

Pero sis, do not confront ah gawin mo in a calm/loving manner. O kaya, iayon mo sa relationship dynamics niyo. Mister mo yan, alam mo dapat paano pinaka-ok na paraan na ayusin problema niyo.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #13 on: March 08, 2017, 01:36:56 am »
What if sumaki lang siya dahil wala lang?! Mahirap makipag talo sa husband ko .. gusto ko kasi may proof ako.

Ang temptation, ang affair, walang nagsimula sa full blown affair. Lahat yan nagsimula sa something that seems innocent. The next thing you know he is already having an affair. At pag tinanong mo kung bakit nya ginawa, I am sure the answer is, "I don't know!". Talk to him, and he should be remorseful about it. Ang taong gusto umiwas sa gulo, iiwas sa kahit anong temptation. But he is putting himself in there. If you don't do anything about it, then just be ready to buy a crapload of facial tissue.

ETA: I asked a 26-year old white Canadian guy about this. And he flatly said that it's not okay.
« Last Edit: March 08, 2017, 01:54:47 am by kvandenhaak »
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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #14 on: March 08, 2017, 05:17:50 am »
Thank you sa mga mag reply,. Alam ko na gagawin ko. Mas preferred ko personal kami mag usap but im here abroad. Super sakit ng ulo ko sa totoo lang i cant sleep well. But naka handa na ako incase na imessage ko siya about it.  At parang alam ko na isasagot niya pag sinita ko siya.. which is "wala lang" tama kayo ..

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« Reply #15 on: March 09, 2017, 04:51:39 pm »
Update. Nag usap na kami ang dahilan niya curious lang siya at wala daw siyang ginagawang masama.  Di daw masama mag join dun nagbabasa lang daw siya dahil sa naaliw lang daw siya. At  dumi daw ng isip ko. Pinakita niya saken  ang logs ng phone niya since feb up to now..  naiinis siya ginagawa ko  daw big deal at siya pa ang galit..

Naiinis ako..sa totoo lang di talaga papatalo sa dahilan ang asawa ko haha first honor sa lahat haha kainis.

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Re: Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)
« Reply #16 on: March 09, 2017, 05:35:50 pm »
Curiosity killed the cat.

Sinabi mo ba ano ang nararamdaman mo dahil sa pagiging curious siya at pang aliw na yan?
Tinanong mo ba ano mararamdaman niya kung ikaw naman ay macurious at ma-aliw sa ganyan?

Di nakakagulat yang reaksyon ni mister.. Hanggang hindi naaayos ang mga isyu, hindi talaga iintindihin ni mister (at hindi siya mageeffort na intindihin) ang side mo.

Update. Nag usap na kami ang dahilan niya curious lang siya at wala daw siyang ginagawang masama.  Di daw masama mag join dun nagbabasa lang daw siya dahil sa naaliw lang daw siya. At  dumi daw ng isip ko. Pinakita niya saken  ang logs ng phone niya since feb up to now..  naiinis siya ginagawa ko  daw big deal at siya pa ang galit..

Naiinis ako..sa totoo lang di talaga papatalo sa dahilan ang asawa ko haha first honor sa lahat haha kainis.

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« Reply #17 on: March 09, 2017, 05:47:39 pm »
^ tinanong ko din sakanya yun. Siya pa galit at sabi ni wala daw siya ginagawa masama.  feeling niya tama at walang masama sa ginawa niya. Sabi ko ang layo ko tapos makakaita ako na naka joined sa group ng walkers. 

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« Reply #18 on: March 09, 2017, 11:29:33 pm »
^Ask him if you sign up on a dating site, pwede rin ba yun? Curious ka rin kamo. Tengene, sya pa me ganang magalit.
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« Reply #19 on: March 09, 2017, 11:52:49 pm »
You are just there for vacation right? Kapag balik mo why dont you talk to your husband about your worries and problem regarding his fb account. I meqn why would he even join a walkers group if he has no intention of getting their service right? So i suggest better to talk to him and tell him that he has to take out the walker group. He should take it out.

 


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