Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)

[plumpolka]

^^ not a guy pero minsan natatanong ko din yan sa mga guy friends ko and bf. kung seseryosohin ba ang single mom. and im not saying all, but most of them, may mga checklist daw talaga and isa dun is ang milf. dont give yourself away too easily kasi may "tingin" ang mga lalaki na "easy to get" kasi nga nabuntis. and tingin nila, wild sila in a way kasi nga nabuntis agad. so be careful and siguraduhin mo muna yung motive ng lalaki. if he's serious or he just want to check some of his list. wag ka masyado magmadali na ma-inlove. and make sure he falls in love with your child as well. love is not a race kaya d mo kailangan makipag-unahan. i dont know if you will agree, pero medyo iba na din kasi ang dating if yung babaeng aggressive is single sa may anak e. pag single na aggressive, people will think na she's just liberated or wild. pero pag single mom ang aggressive, iisipin agad ng mga tao, ah kaya nabuntis. and im sure you dont want to be labelled as that. chill ka lang. if a guy really wants you, he will pursue you. believe me. my dad was single when he met my mom. widow with 3 children and yet it didnt stop him from pursuing her. inaayawan na sya ng mom ko ah! kasi nga status nya is single mom with 3 kids and yet my dad wanted to be with her, ngayon 6 kaming magkakapatid and hanggang ngayon magkasama parin sila and me and my other siblings all love each other. pang-inspire lang.

[luckysiete]

Anong masasabi niyo sa lalaking nagger?

[naizlabonita]

Anong masasabi niyo sa lalaking nagger?

My dad is a big nagger. As in he nags at little things and then makes a huge deal out of them. He brings back the past and previous issues out of nowhere and will talk about it for hours. When he is mad he will nag and nag about it and even say some examples. I honestly hate it.
I guess what you should do whenever he nags is to go away for a while, like go to the mall or outside the house and do not talk back or wag na patulan just let him nag and be quiet.
Yung dad ko never nagbago eh nakuha ko na din ata yung ugali nya haha. Pero he loves us and my mom so much un lang talaga he nags a lot.

[naizlabonita]

haay! parang ang hirap hindi patulan. hehe!! Pero pag pagod na ko I do silent. Kahit konting bagay napapansin. Nakakastress sa totoo lang. Minsan naiisip ko, may sayad na ata to or kulang ka ba sa pansin sa pagmamahal? Ano ka bata? Ganun ata talaga ang personality niya na hindi ko kayang tanggapin. Buti natagalan ng mama mo yung ganong ugali ng dad mo?

Sis ganyang ganyan ang dad ko small things pinag iinit ng ulo nya then he will nag for hours about it iduduk duk nya sayo paulit ulit. hahaha...sabi ng Mom ko di daw kasi pinapansin yan ng parents kaya daw ganun haha.

Yeah sobrang pasensya ng nanay ko as in bilib na bilib ako sobra.. like what I said hinde nya pinapansin..kung baga pasok sa tenga labas sa kabila parang ganyan..saka yun nga umaalis siya ng bahay babalik nalang pag tapos na magdaldal yung Dad ko. hahaha

For me sis, as long as di ka nya sinasaktan physical and yung sinasabi nya eh hinde naman emotional blackmailing, kung never siya nagcheat sayo dahil pinakamasakit is betrayal talaga  or kung good provider siya naman talaga at maalaga eh habaan mo nalang pasensya mo at yun nga isip ka ng ways para mahandle yung ganun nya..mahirap kasi magbago yung ganyan. My dad is 70 yrs old na and still the same.

[glamorosa_09]

Lalaking nagger for hours at nagkakalkal ng lumang issues? Nacurious naman ako... So far dalawang type pa lang yung naencounter kong may symptom na ganyan, isang verbal abuser at isang may autism (pero adolescent yung naencounter ko). May mga high funtional people with autism naman eh. Yung adolescent, salita ng salita dahil di binalik yung ballpen na hiniram sa kanya.

Kung yun lang naman ang natatanging kakaiba sa kanila, at the rest naman ng habits and ugali are like any others, baka nagger lang talaga...

[kvandenhaak]

^Single mom ako ah pero honestly di ko liligawan or seseryosohin yung babaeng nagbibigay ng motibo. Kasi iisipin ko nasa personality na ata niya ang pagiging easy to get kasi siya pa nagbibigay ng motibo at nauwi pa sa sex. As a single mom magkaroon naman tayo ng kadalaan sa buhay. Wag bigay ng bigay ng motibo sa guy. Kasi tutuka lang mga yan dahil palay na lumalapit sa manok. Pagtinuka ka wag mo guluhin isip mo na baka liligawan or seseryosohin na ni guy. Wag paasahin ang sarili.

Uy, single mom here pero hindi ako nabuntis ng hindi kasal. Virgin pa nga ako ng kinasal ako at an EARLY age of 31...LOL! I got pregnant by my husband. The marriage didn't last so I now  fall under the of single mom category. But I do understand may common belief na especially sa Pilipinas na kapag nabuntis out of wedlock ay malalandi or easy to get. But whether you're a single mom or not, wag dapat babae manliligaw sa lalake. Hindi ka talaga seseryosohin lalo sa Pilipinas.

[mysterioza_me]

^True. Yan ang ibig ko sabihin na wag magbibigay ng motibo sa mga lalake kasi iisipin kaya pala naging single mom kasi easy to get. Ok lang sana na ganyan ang lifestyle kung hindi umaasa si girl na liligawan at seseryosohin siya ni guy. Pakatino din naman tayo para mahanap natin yung talagang mamahalin tayo hindi dahil nagbigay tayo ng motibo or naka-sex lang natin.

[Girltalker2]

^^ sis kvandenhaak true sis!
Same here. Panahon natin uso ang virgin nagpapakasal. Then tsaka nagkakaanak, not the other way around.

And it took me a long long while to also accept the fate to become a single mom.

When I started dating, iyan ang nasa isip ko if may s-seryoso na guy. But the answer is yes so long as you keep your standards. Have a checklist and have those negotiable and non negotiable traits/character/bio data.

Sis drharleyquinnmd - 10 years younger palang - dapat bagsak na sayo. Pero sige granted ok si guy, but sleeping with him pero Hindi pa kayo serious with each other or di ka pa nililigawan? Wala na. Worse, you gave him all pa by making it known to him you like (love?) him. Wala, he definitely will walk away.
Minsan nga in dating, rule 101 ko eh never ever let him know that you really really like (like palang ha) him.  Parang pakipot pero show interest. I think that should be more than enough.

And yes I agree, don't ever make habol sa guy, please! You're worth more than that. Isipin mo nalang ano dapat mong gawin para di ka ikahiya ng mga anak mo.

[ladystark]

Guys, paano nyo nalalaman if may gusto sainyo yung girl?

[mysterioza_me]

^Sis karamihan ng lalake feelingero lang, feeling lahat ng babae na matingin sa kanila may gusto sa kanila hahaha. Dami kong kakilala na ganyan.

[KeyserSoze]

Guys, paano nyo nalalaman if may gusto sainyo yung girl?

when she laughs at my stupid and unfunny jokes. 

pag parang interested siya masyado, nagsspend ng time. merong mga aggressive na girls na sinasabi na talaga nila. pero minsan we're clueless rin talaga kasi minsan girls are being nice lang talaga.

ang tanong is bakig yan ang question mo hehe

[sigh]

Bf recently shared that he used to go to those massage parlors with extra service. I know that is in the past and we've talked about it but I'm not sure I've accepted it 100%. Now I'm worried because he'll be attending a stag party with strippers. I trust him but how do I overcome this feeling of insecurity and disgust? 😔

[naizlabonita]

Bf recently shared that he used to go to those massage parlors with extra service. I know that is in the past and we've talked about it but I'm not sure I've accepted it 100%. Now I'm worried because he'll be attending a stag party with strippers. I trust him but how do I overcome this feeling of insecurity and disgust? 😔

Hi Sis, I just recently found out about my partner going into these massage spas with extra service. To think he has been doing it for years and I just found out nung naglive in na kame because we had a baby. True yung woman's instinct no..medyo napansin ko madalas siya magpamassage etc then I checked his grab history and confirmed the spas have extra in them.. so ayon nahuli ko. I love him but do not trust him anymore, I am just living with him mainly because of my son. And whenever he goes out I am so strict as in nagpapa picture ako asan na siya ano ginagawa nya etc. Although he said na hindi na siya babalik dun, I super doubt talaga. Ang hirap lang ng situation kasi we cannot control them. Sila talaga yung may control sa lahat ng gagawin nila and if choice nila yun wala tayong magagawa.  Siguru gawin mo nalang is ireverse psych mo like tell him you trust him that he'll not do anything that will harm your safety especially health safety dahil nakakatakot magkasakit and if hindi ka kampante siguru magpa blow by blow report ka hahaha ng ginagawa nya dun or kung san na siya naka uwi na siya pero maiirita yun for sure.
Ang pinaka huli at importante is mag pray. Mag pray ka na i clear ang mind nya from perverted thoughts and i-guide siya sa tamang decision. heheh

[shinies]

Bf recently shared that he used to go to those massage parlors with extra service. I know that is in the past and we've talked about it but I'm not sure I've accepted it 100%. Now I'm worried because he'll be attending a stag party with strippers. I trust him but how do I overcome this feeling of insecurity and disgust? 😔

Non-negotiable mo ba sa partner na dapat di siya nakakadiri o nagkaron ng kadiring nakaraan? Kung oo, walang makakatulong na maovercome mo yan. Rooted sa values ang non-negos at di yun basta basta napapalitan.

[sigh]

^ Not really kasi I never entertained that idea. My exes didn't do that kaya medyo di ko inexpect so I don't know how to handle it. Pinayagan ko naman sya umattend nun stag party but di ko alam pano sabihin yun restrictions sana. I don't want him to think that I don't trust him.

[simang]

^sis pano nya nashare yang info na yan? Did it come suddenly or were you talking about somethig similar at nabanggit nya? Was he serious about it, apologetic ba, was he joking?

I would never understand people who pay for sex, but I think it's a step forward na he told you about it.

[littlekinselle]

Me too parang hirap mag trust sa lalaking may past sa espakol experience.

[naizlabonita]

Me too parang hirap mag trust sa lalaking may past sa espakol experience.

Oo sis parang nasa sistema na nila yun. Anytime parang pag ginusto nila bumalik gagawin nila.. addictive din siya. Sabi nila for most men it is not cheating, they just go there for release and that's it for  the women's POV it is cheating and scary yung diseases na makukuha if ever.

[KeyserSoze]

i can't say anything to defend guys haha.. shut up nalang ako

[kvandenhaak]

A guy I dated last year butt dialed my number today. Hindi maganda kami naghiwalay kasi I told the other girl he was also dating na sabay kami. He was really mad saying he will delete everything about me on his phone. So, how the heck did he butt dialed my number? Anyway, I sent him a text message telling him that he accidentally dialed my number and that I am in a much better and happier place. That I don't regret what I did because he deserved it and told him to not bother me anymore...lol! Nagulat ako kasi nakapag-reply pa. He said, "That's good. I am happy for you!" Whaaa...?

Anyway, what's the chances of you guys really butt dialing your ex's number? Hindi pa kasi nagyari sa akin. I mean, it will require me to unlock my phone, go to contacts and choose a specific name/number.