Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)

[AkosiBella]

Pinapanindigan naman niya yung consequences. Kung sa baby lang, walang problema dahil hindi niya pababayaan yung responsibility niya dun. Wala lang talaga siyang plano na maging pamilya sila. Dahil wala naman talaga siyang plano dun sa girl. At lalo din siguro magiging komplikado ang sitwasyon kung paninindigan niya yung pamilya sa isang kasal na babae na niloko ang asawa at inaayawan ang asawa para sa kabit niya. Kawawa lang din yung baby dahil wala siyang kalalakhang buong pamilya. Pero hindi naman yun isolated case diba. Marami namang lumaki sa ganung environment na napalaki pa rin ng maayos. Ang pangit rin naman na lalaki siya sa set up na kasal ang nanay niya sa iba pero ang kasa-kasama ibang lalaki.

Sabi ko nga eh, yung pagpirma nilang dalawa sa birth certificate ng baby. They are already admitting na nagcommit sila ng adultery. Mukhang may kaya pa naman yung asawa nung babae.

[dismembered]

^ He is learning from his mistakes. If wala naman kasi pala sya planong seryosohin, bakit lumandi pa sya? O palagay natin na kinati lang sya,  bakit sa may asawa pa? Palagay natin na wala na syang magawa, pinatulan na nya, eh bakit di pa gumamit ng contraceptives? Madaming lapses akong nakikita sa judgment ni guy and he is paying for the consequences of his actions. He is learning from his mistakes kaya like what I've said, he deserves kung nahihirapan man sya. Pero, hindi yan maitatama kung lalo nyang tatakbuhan ang responsibilities nya dahil mas magbubunga lang lalo ng mas malalaking consequences yan. Wala sya magagawa dyan. Linisin nya ang kalat na ginawa nya. Kung kapit tuko na sa kanya yung nanay nung anak, eh wala na sya magagawa sya rin naman nagbigay ng dahilan kung bakit nagkaganun yun. In the end, wala syang ibang masisisi kundi sarili nya.

[AkosiBella]

Pareho lang naman sila ng girl ang may lapses sa judgement. Parehon lang silang g**o. Kay girl din naman mismo nanggaling na di masarap pag may condom. At sa kanya din nanggaling na kaya sila nagkasundo dahil pareho silang malibog. It takes two to tango daw diba. Both parties may malaking pagkakamali. Kaya siguro ganun kagulo sitwasyon nila. Nakakaloka! Sabi nga diba, simple lang naman sana ang buhay kung ika'y matino.

[dismembered]

^ Yes parehas sila. Kaya wag mag inarte si guy na naipit sya ni babae, dahil may kinalaman din sya.

[naizlabonita]

Just want to know your thoughts on this. I found out my live in partner (we have a 1 yr old son) that he had or has been going to massage spas with extra service and has an account both sa happy budget meal and manila tonight site. I confronted him nung may mga unusual texts siya na narereceive about sa mga spa ang my minemessage siyang mga babae and nagalit kung ano ano nirason nya sabi ko nakita ko din sa grab yung history nya and talagang nagpupunta nga dun naka pin eh sa mga spa na yun..then  umamin din siya na nagpupunta nga dun pero wala daw siyang pinapagawa nagpa handjob lang daw nagtry siya.. pero nalaman ko since 2013 pala naagpupunta na siya dun mag boyfriend girlfriend pa lang kame non.  Sobrang devastasting talaga.. would you believe na wala siyang pinapagawa dun kundi handjob? I doubt it.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

some people can be so lucky talaga that the people who wronged them were dealth with the very heavy hand of karma agad agad. haaay.

[ArfMeow0101]

Anong tingin nyo sa mga tipo ng gf na tinotolerate yung pagiging possessive o wala sa lugar na akto nung bf nila?

[mysterioza_me]

Depende kung gaano ang level ng possessiveness or wala sa lugar. Kung minsan kasi tayo na nakakakita feeling natin sobra na, pero dun sa taong involve balewala lang sa kanya, yung ganung situation dedma lang ako. Buhay nila yun and siya nga na may katawan di nagrereklamo ako pa kaya na ususera lang. Pero ibang level naman yung umaabot na sa verbal, physical and mental abuse ang pagiging possessive. Pagganyan pagsasabihin ko, try to convince her na mali na yung nangyayari pero kung magstick siya sa ganung sitwasyon bahala siya. Gusto niya pakatang* e.

[jaded123]

Hi guys, i need advice.
My bf and i rarely have sex. Naiisip ko nga sayang lang yung pills ko. I tried to talk to him already siguro mga twice na, it always lead up to a fight na hindi ako makuntento and i ask for too much.

Outside of this, he makes time for me everyday and his quite open on every social media account he have. Sweet din naman sya. When we started dating madalas naman. Then he told me twice a week is too much then tumawad ako na once a week na lang. Pero ngayon sobrang rare na.

Honestly. This has messed up my self esteem. I feel unwanted.
Yung mga attempts ko dati, laging may dahilan, pagod, sa sabado na lang etc etc. So i stopped initiating it kasi sobrang low na yung pakiramdam ko na i have to ask for it and get rejected palagi from my own bf.
I have no plans of cheating on him pero nakakasakit din pala yung laging narreject. Kapag hinahawakan nya ako ng medyo may malisya, ayaw ko na, sinasabi ko na hindi na sanay yung katawan ko na may hawak  na ganun.

Last time we done it maybe about a month ago, naisip ko gusto ko naman din. Pero it felt bad. Hindi na ako nagwwet nor nasasarapan. I don't know how to get it back. I'm tired of asking for it kasi lagi naman akong di pinagbibigyan. Tried it last weekend dun pa ko sa kanila natulog. Wala din naman. Help guys i need advice.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ hmm sis this seemed to be a persistent problem of your relationship, on one of your posts here you also said na he doesn't try to satisfy you. (and that post was like a year ago pa ata)
if you're not happy about it and you're not comfortable in bed with him anymore, feeling ko ha, okay naman na you just try to cool it off or distance yourself from him. malaki din kasing part ng relationship ang sex life.
men are sensitive about matters of sexuality kasi. maybe that's why he doesn't listen at all to you? btw gano katanda na ba siya? di ba kayo close that he will snap up at you when you try to talk about it? if he cant take criticisms then it's time to reevaluate your entire relationship. it's like kasi na sa inyong 2, he feels he's the one more knowledgeable and thus siya ang masusunod and wala kang karapatan i-air out ang opinion mo.

[DalagangPinay]

Hi,

ask ko lang kung anong ibig sabihin nang "hindi daw ako mahirap mahalin" at nararamdaman daw niya yun kasi close kami sa isa't isa.
Meron kasi akong guyfriend na kawork ko at umamin na may gusto pala siya sa akin.
Medyo hindi ko na gets kung anong ibig niyang sabihin.
Hanggang ngayon palaisipan parin sa akin kung anong ibig niyang sabihin.

Anyway, NBSB ako and 25 years old.

[AkosiBella]

^ type mo ba siya?

[shinies]

Declaration of love lang ibig sabihin niyan parang ineexplain lang na nagkagusto siya sayo.

[KeyserSoze]

Hi,

ask ko lang kung anong ibig sabihin nang "hindi daw ako mahirap mahalin" at nararamdaman daw niya yun kasi close kami sa isa't isa.
Meron kasi akong guyfriend na kawork ko at umamin na may gusto pala siya sa akin.
Medyo hindi ko na gets kung anong ibig niyang sabihin.
Hanggang ngayon palaisipan parin sa akin kung anong ibig niyang sabihin.

Anyway, NBSB ako and 25 years old.

Male here, I suggest not to focus much on what people say, but on what they do. People can say a lot of things naman pero at the end of the day it is our actions that matter.

Just to share a story, there was a time when I really fell in love with a girl who was in a relationship. she had feelings for me pero let's just say that it wasn't enough. pero she was really confusing, kasi in some ways yung words niya eh pinapaasa niya parin ako. I explained this sa close friend ko na girl, and she told me na kung mahal ka talaga ng girl gagawin niya lahat at iiwan niya yang boyfriend niya. The reason she said that was because yung husband niya daw iniwan ang sarili niyang family kahit masakit para sa kanya, just to be with her.

So to sum it up, if gusto ka talaga ng guy then he will make an effort para makasama ka niya no matter what. Don't focus on the words too much.

And just a tip, play hard to get pero not too much! If he senses kasi na madali ka lang makuha usually this means bad news sa girl.

[geraldita03]

Hi guys, i need advice.
My bf and i rarely have sex. Naiisip ko nga sayang lang yung pills ko. I tried to talk to him already siguro mga twice na, it always lead up to a fight na hindi ako makuntento and i ask for too much.

Outside of this, he makes time for me everyday and his quite open on every social media account he have. Sweet din naman sya. When we started dating madalas naman. Then he told me twice a week is too much then tumawad ako na once a week na lang. Pero ngayon sobrang rare na.

Honestly. This has messed up my self esteem. I feel unwanted.
Yung mga attempts ko dati, laging may dahilan, pagod, sa sabado na lang etc etc. So i stopped initiating it kasi sobrang low na yung pakiramdam ko na i have to ask for it and get rejected palagi from my own bf.
I have no plans of cheating on him pero nakakasakit din pala yung laging narreject. Kapag hinahawakan nya ako ng medyo may malisya, ayaw ko na, sinasabi ko na hindi na sanay yung katawan ko na may hawak  na ganun.

Last time we done it maybe about a month ago, naisip ko gusto ko naman din. Pero it felt bad. Hindi na ako nagwwet nor nasasarapan. I don't know how to get it back. I'm tired of asking for it kasi lagi naman akong di pinagbibigyan. Tried it last weekend dun pa ko sa kanila natulog. Wala din naman. Help guys i need advice.

i think it's because you aren't married that's why you can't be satisfied or fulfilled after having sex. iba kasi talaga yung fulfilment if done kung kasal na kaysa hindi pa plus you'll feel the guilt afterwards din.

[naizlabonita]

Hi guys, i need advice.
My bf and i rarely have sex. Naiisip ko nga sayang lang yung pills ko. I tried to talk to him already siguro mga twice na, it always lead up to a fight na hindi ako makuntento and i ask for too much.

Outside of this, he makes time for me everyday and his quite open on every social media account he have. Sweet din naman sya. When we started dating madalas naman. Then he told me twice a week is too much then tumawad ako na once a week na lang. Pero ngayon sobrang rare na.

Honestly. This has messed up my self esteem. I feel unwanted.
Yung mga attempts ko dati, laging may dahilan, pagod, sa sabado na lang etc etc. So i stopped initiating it kasi sobrang low na yung pakiramdam ko na i have to ask for it and get rejected palagi from my own bf.

Hi Sis, Happened to me to. We usually do the deed once or twice a week pati nung before pa kame magsama. Pero kapag may times na I feel na one week na tapos wala..ni makipag kita eh ayaw nya..I tried to initiate but then I also get rejected most of the times. He said that he is tired and all.

Maybe you should see if he is watching porn or going somewhere like bars, massage parlours that offers extra. Because that's what happened to me, may kinahuhumalingan pala or na loloko na sa mga porn and extra services.

Pero baka naman nga ganyan siya talaga hinde mahilig or stress and overworked talaga.

[mysterioza_me]

Posibleng sadyang hindi mahilig bf niya dahil eversince ganun naman siya.

[drharleyquinnmd]

Question:
Guys, will you court a single mom or will you even fall in love with her pag nagpakita siya ng motibo tas may nangyari sa inyo? Single din si guy. 10 years younger though

[KeyserSoze]

Question:
Guys, will you court a single mom or will you even fall in love with her pag nagpakita siya ng motibo tas may nangyari sa inyo? Single din si guy. 10 years younger though

There's a chance naman, although I'll admit rare sa guys yung mas gusto yung girls na older sa kanila.  Pero the fact na may nangyari sa inyo means merong attraction somehow. Whether he's willing to be in a serious relationship, we can't really say, siya lang talaga makakapagsabi.

[mysterioza_me]

^Single mom ako ah pero honestly di ko liligawan or seseryosohin yung babaeng nagbibigay ng motibo. Kasi iisipin ko nasa personality na ata niya ang pagiging easy to get kasi siya pa nagbibigay ng motibo at nauwi pa sa sex. As a single mom magkaroon naman tayo ng kadalaan sa buhay. Wag bigay ng bigay ng motibo sa guy. Kasi tutuka lang mga yan dahil palay na lumalapit sa manok. Pagtinuka ka wag mo guluhin isip mo na baka liligawan or seseryosohin na ni guy. Wag paasahin ang sarili.