Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)

[mysterioza_me]

^baka gusto niyang maging magkaibigan kayo uli pero nahihiya siya lumapit

[blushberry]

I just have to ask

How come a husband would cheat on his wife for almost a year with several women, meron pang may condo, take note hipon silang mga girls tapos pag nakipaghiwalay si wife ayaw makipaghiwalay ng husband.  I don't get this?  Ang reason for the condo, to save on money because the girl priced herself quite high?  What's up with that?

For almost a year, hindi man lang na guilty o natakot sa consequences at umabot ng ganun  katagal?  Tapos the girls don't even do anything special... No swallowing, no effort... Choosy narin pala ngayon mga paid girls.

[mysterioza_me]

^Baka gusto iconfirm pagiging macho nila lol. May mga guys kasi na proud na proud kapag naikkwento sa ibang boys na may sideline sila bukod pa sa misis nila. Minsan nga maski di na totoo kinikwento pa nila na may chicks sila or naka-sex nila sk ganito or ganyan. Ayaw makipaghiwalay sa misis kasi security blanket nila ang asawa nila. Iwan man sila ni other girl andyan si misis bilang reserba.

[kvandenhaak]

^^Because some men are just plain jerk....PERIOD!

[undecided2]

Question: pag ang guy ba nag sorry na hindi umiiyak it means hindi sila sincere sa sorry nila?
Thank you.

[shinies]

Sa gawa mo makikita kung sincere ang tao at di lang ito sa lalaki.. Ano ba pagbabago niya matapos magsorry?

[Ms. Undecided]

Hi, ask lang ako ng opinions from our boys here or kahit sa mga sissies. May bf ako o ex? Err?well, 3 yrs and 6 mos na dapat kami this coming 29 but sh*t happens last March na naging dahilan ng labuan namin. About kasi sa girl close friend niya na kinomfort niya habang ako eh iyak ng iyak. Moving on, for the month of April and May up until my birthday (May 15) we tried to fix things but still didn?t work. Araw-araw kami nag-aaway and so we decided to end it na last May 21. For the past days ako yung nangungulit na text ng text at chat ng chat sa kanya. Nagagalit siya sakin, sabi niya paano daw niya malalaman yung halaga ko kung habol ako ng habol sa kanya. Gusto daw niya siya kusang babalik kapag narealize na daw niya worth ko. So, nung May 23, I texted him ng mahabang message, saying sorry and thank you and so on. Di siya nagreply. Kinaumagahan, nag-chat siya ?Good morning babe ko. Iloveyou mahal na mahal na mahal kita? The usual message na sinesend niya before every morning ganun. Nagulat ako, kasi balak ko na talagang di magparamdam nun. I asked him what was his intention kasi di pa nga ako umuusad tas magbaback to zero na naman ako. Sabi ko pinaglalaruan niya nararamdaman ko. Sabi niya, bigla nalang daw niya na-chat yun. Then puro na siya sorry so di na ko nagreply. Ayoko mag-assume pero parang he?s monitoring kung what time ako natutulog, baka kasi nagkakataon lang. Kinabukasan, bale kahapon lang yun. No text, no chat kaming dalawa. Nung gabi niya, I was about to sleep, nagtetxt siya, nagtanong lang naman ng not so serious thing. So after nun, nag goodnight na siya, with the usual message na sinesend niya nung kami pa. This morning, nagchat ulit siya. I helped him kasi to recover his FB account na nadisable, dunno why. So, narecover ko naman. He said thank you. Then nung papasok na siya sa work, nag iloveyou na naman siya Ngayong lunch wala na. Online siya pero hindi na ulit siya nagchat. Di ko rin naman siya minemessage. Sabi ng pinsan niya, hayaan ko na daw muna. Baka daw talaga need muna niya maging malaya. Nasakal ko kasi siya before. Then yung fb niya parang ako pa yung may ari kasi ako yung laging nag oopen kaya panay change password niya. 4 days palang naman kami di nagkikita. 4 days ko na di na oopen fb niya, iniisip ko baka may iba na siyang pinopormahan pero kanina nung inopen ko (Kasi nga diba tinulungan ko siya to recover his account kaya nmaopen ko) wala naman akong nakita. Tamang hinala lang talaga ako. Yung mga ka-chat niya dun puro yung sa hachi buy & sell lang. What are your POV regarding this Parang kami na parang hindi

[mysterioza_me]

^Hindi na kayo since you ended your relationship formally and let it stay that way unless gusto mo ng Fwb or Fubu relationship. Di naman porke sinabihan ka ng i love you mag-assume ka na ok at nagkabalikan na kayo. Hindi pa nagsisink-in sa kanya na hiwalay na kayo kasi you are still around and all over him. Magpabebe ka naman ng konti and pahirapan mo naman siya please. Kaya ka niloloko ng paulit-ulit kasi napakadali ka niyang paikutin. Yaan mo na yan. Be thankful kasi nakita mo ugali agad ng di pa kayo nakakasal. Lakad ka pasulong at wag ng lilingon. Sayang time mo sa ganyang lalake.

[kvandenhaak]

He's playing with your feelings. It's better to stay away for the meantime. Magulo kasi if you both insist to be together.

[Girltalker2]

^ I agree. Parang mechanical lang yung I love u nyan. Just for the sake. Because if he really loves you, mags set iyan ng time to talk through ano naging problem nyo and how to avoid this sa future. That is, kung may future pa kayo.

Then, if those I love u's really mean anything, usually may kasunod... what are u doing... what's going on in your life,... what are u thinking... eh wala eh. So obviously, the interest isn't there anymore. It seems he is just hanging on there at wala pa syang ibang malalandian. Tsaka sa nakikita ko sa inyo, wala na kayong interest sa isa't isa. Yung superficial lang na status. But as to the depth of your relationship, parang di ko makita sa kwento mo. Or depends din how your conversations went.

I think you're really better off in moving on. Kasi you're single naman. You're free. If you find another partner, may point of comparison ka. You would know how you should be treated, and how you want to be treated. At di ganyan. If bumalik sya na totoong sincere (up to you to discern din), tsaka mo nalang I-consider. But just texting I love u doesn't mean bumabalik sya. It's just so convenient, anyone can do it in a second.

[geraldita03]

Nagkabalikan kami ng ex ko after 5 months na nag break kami. Nakatulong din yung break up namin kasi madami kaming na-realize at makakatulong yun s new relationship namin. First boyfriend ko siya at magse-7 years na kami. Third girlfriend niya ako. Nung naghiwalay kami, di naman dahil s third party. Kaya we talked about us nung nagkita kami and we decided na magkabalikan and work things our between us. Sa part ko naman, I need to have more patience and understading kasi med student siya and he'll be super busy na. I know I'm not his priority pa kasi anjan pa studies niya. And I understand naman. He's not my priority also kasi I'm building my career pa. We don't have to control each other's activities, just have the trust for each other and proper communication is a must. And also honesty matters in a relationship. Magtiwala lang kami sa isa't isa at positivity lang. Huwag puro drama.

[simang]

Ms. Undecided, share ko lang to:

If you don't know how he feels about you, then you know how he feels about you. You just don't want to admit it.

Sana maka move on ka na. Once you're in a healthy relationship, matatawa ka na lang bakit nagtiis ka sa ganyan. Sana maka move on ka na as soon as possible, kasi I'm guessing at your vulnerable state right now kung yayain ka nya magpakasal eh papayag ka. Tapos eventually magpopost ka na about cheating husband or unhappy marriage. Naku sana talaga maka move on ka na!

[Ms. Undecided]

Thank you sa lahat Siguro nga until now di pa nagsi-sink in sakin na wala na talaga. Nakabitin parin ako hanggang ngayon, umaasa pa rin ako Naisip ko rin naman yun, paano kung kakasiksik ko ng sarili ko sa kanya siya nga makatuluyan ko pero maging mala impyerno naman buhay ko, ayoko Gusto ko na mag heal alam ko sobrang mahaba pa yung panahon bago ako makalimot but hopefully wag abutin ng years   3rd bf ko na siya pero ngayon lang nangyari sakin 'to

[AprilGal26]

Hi guytalkers!
Question. I'm in a relationship with a man who's married. when we were still friends/acquaintance, of course we have shared lots of personal stories with each other and I can say that he was a certified playboy and naughty guy "before". I know that I am not the only girl he dated or at least showed his affection while he's still in a relationship.  But now, I guess sobrang nagbago sya and I really can see and feel his sincerity and love for me. He has done lots of sacrifices just to retain the relationship. Just want to know if the cliche will always be true, "a cheater will always be a cheater" ?
or is it possible na nagbago talaga say and nakahanap ng katapat nya?
TIA!
 

[Girltalker2]

^ sorry maki comment lang. it's obvious na super nabola ka nya. You may not see it now, but you will eventually see it.

[mysterioza_me]

I know that I am not the only girl he dated or at least showed his affection while he's still in a relationship.

Sis you mean habang nilalandi ka niya "in a relationship" din siya sa ibang girl/sila pa ng misis niya? If that's the case wag ka maniwala dyan. Totoo yung sinasabi ni sis Girltalker2, nabola ka. Flavor of the month ka lang niyan. Pagnakahanap ng bagong flavor yan yun naman ang pagbubuhusan niya ng "affection while he's still in a relationship" WITH YOU.

[badw33d]

^^^ he could be true, or again playing. meet the parents or the family? :-D

[kvandenhaak]

I stopped reading at "having a relationship with a married man".

Seriously?

[AprilGal26]

Hi, we've been together for 4 yrs now, and I never encountered naman any cheating problem sa kanya since then.
I mean he dated other girl/s before pero hindi pa kami nun but with his wife pa.
I'm just afraid na baka maulit sakin yung kay wife

[badw33d]

yeah... that's a 50/50 thing.

if he's a playboy, he'll always be one.