Annullment thread 4

[ms.wanderer]

Hi, girls. Salamat sa inputs! Well appreciated.

Currently, I have no plans on telling my side na married pa si bf. Hindi kasi ako sure kung ano magiging reaction nila. pero iniisip ko din na what if sabihin na namin with his family para wala ng paligoy-ligoy pa at sure naman na pananagutan ako at si baby. Yun nga lang, isang malaking gulo ito. Huhu.

Sis @mysterioza_me sa ngayon ba nakahanap na kayo ng trusted lawyer? Also, how did you tell your family? Help naman! Thanks!

[mysterioza_me]

Complicated na nga since I am pregnant now and alam naman na sa side ng family ko at sakanya.

 If ever kasi, kaya namin pagipunan.. and gusto sana namin maayos asap kasi hindi naman aware sa side ng family ko na married pa siya. Ang sinabi lang namin is magpapakasal pero hindi muna sa ngaun at wag kami madaliin.

^Yup ganun na nga sis. Kami naman yung misis niya ang di nakakaalam. Medyo complicated kasi since matagal na magkakaibigan ang family namin 3. Di naman ako reason ng hiwalayan (nagka-affair si misis while working abroad si mister) but still i don't think na matatanggap ng partido ni misis na ako na ang karelasyon ni guy.

[rochelle1025]

Hirap ng ganun ka-complicated na situation. Pansin ko din kasi sa mga separated, they won't pursue an annulment unless buntis na yung bagong partner or yung separated na wife ang buntis. It makes the whole thing very difficult kasi aside from the fact na married pa, paano kung kunwari yung separated wife ang nabuntis? Paano pag pinanganak nya yung baby? Saan mo isusunod yung apelyido ng bata when the legal documents of the separated wife is still under the married name?

[mysterioza_me]

^Yan actually sis ang mga tanong na nababasa ko dito sa gt. Ang sabi sa nabasa ko na article dati kaya daw mas mabigat ang parusa sa adultery kasi kapag na-preggy si girl, lalabas na legal child pa din ni husband ang bata. So tanggapin o hindi ni husband ang bata lalabas na anak pa din niya yun. Unlike na kapag si husband ang nakabuntis sa ibang girl may option siya na iacknowledged o hindi ang bata.

[rochelle1025]

^Agree with you. Sa unang tingin parang ang unfair sa babae pero parang hindi considering na ang laking issue nun.

I know someone na ganyan din ang nangyari. She was married and after they separated, she got pregnant sa ibang lalaki. When she gave birth, dinoktor nila yung mga papers para masunod sa maiden name nya. Pero sa birth certificate, ang mom ng bata is the lola.

[lovemeagain30]

^^ i think sis ginawa yun ng friend mo dahil pede siyang idemanda ng ex hubby niya kapag name niya ang nakalagay na mother sa birth cert ng bata. since married pa silang dalawa. isang dna test lang ang katapat ng demanda. hirap din ipaliwanag sa bata kung bakit name ng lola ang nakalagay. eh ang birth certificate pa naman habang buhay mong legal document yan. kasama sa finifill upan sa bawat application form ang name ng parents.

sis ms.wanderer mahirap magtago ng secret sa pamilya lalo na kung may additional person coming in, ikaw lang din mahihirapan niyan. nakita ko yan sa tita ko eh. sobrang na stress siya. years din ang tinagal. yun pala ang cause ng nervous breakdown niya nuon. kasi siyempre yung panahon gusto niya ayusin yung annulment ng tito ko, wala siyang masabihan ibang tao. wala siyang emotional support. eh sa walang nakaka alam samin eh!  bumalik lang yung peace of mind niya when she made it out in the open. we accepted naman our tito. we dont have a choice. hihi 

[rochelle1025]

^Actually, wala na communication yung friend ko and ex-husband. As in, nag-disappearing act na yung husband. Gusto nga din nya ipa-annul pero hindi nya alam kung saan hahanapin yung ex-husband.

Pero wala pa din sya choice kung hindi doktorin yung birth certificate kasi lahat ng papers nya are under her married name.

[lovemeagain30]

^ yun lang.. kapag nag disappearing act na si ex hubby, wala na bang habol ang babae magpa annul? saklap naman nun..  kung saan lupalop mo pa kailangan hanapin.

[rochelle1025]

^Mas mahirap kasi wala kang mabibigay na address sa korte kung saan isserve yung mga notices. Allowed naman yung newspaper publication pero syempre magbabayad ka pa para magpublish ng add.

[cupcakejane]

^ How long will the first phase take before it gets going?

[rochelle1025]

^Ano'ng ibig mong sabihin sa first phase? Preparation of documents ba yan? Hearing ba yan? Collusion?

[cupcakejane]

Before filing ng actual case before annulment.

[rochelle1025]

Depends on the grounds. Kung technicality lang, you need to secure the documents that would show yung technical concerns.

Psychological incapacity takes a lot of paper work. Isusulat mo buong buhay mo para mapag-aralan ng lawyer mo. Then, magpapa-interview ka pa sa psychologist, yung mga witnesses mo, ganun din, etc. Then, you have to wait for the psych report, followed by the petition na isusulat ng lawyer mo.

In my case, it took me 9 months to finish all paper work bago kami nakapagfile sa court. May mga delays pa kasi na nangyari sa psychologist ko and humabol pa sa interview si exH so nirevise pa yung psych report.

[cupcakejane]

More than a month na since I caught my husband cheating on me with several women.  All are paid women/ walkers/ dancers, one has a place my husband was paying for, the rest were just there to cover the days the other sustentado cannot cover for.  I don't know if my lawyer is already getting irritated with me but i have not gotten any feedback yet.  Ang tagal na process pala yan?  Aabot ba ng 1M?

[rochelle1025]

^What kind of feedback are you waiting for from your lawyer?

My annulment cost P450K.

[anavills]

Hi, girls!

Hope you can help my sister out. She was recently annulled and has several questions re: changing her name. One of them is about her visas. After she changes her name on her passport, how does she deal with her US and Schengen visas? Would it be enough to bring her documents with her every time she travels? Thanks for the help!

[rochelle1025]

^Bring her old passport lang that contains the valid visas. Also bring a copy of the annotated NSO marriage certificate.

When she applies for new visas (let's say US and Schengen), she has to show her old passport that contains the visas para lang may reference sila na nabigyan na sya before.

That's what I did for my Japanese and Korean visas. Will do that again next year for Schengen.

[anavills]

^ Thank you!!! Would you also know if the same will apply when applying for the ROC e-Visa for Taiwan? She's planning to go next month and apply using her US visa that still has her married name

[rochelle1025]

^Same for all. Just bring the annotated NSO marriage certificate.

[Girltalker2]

Hirap ng ganun ka-complicated na situation. Pansin ko din kasi sa mga separated, they won't pursue an annulment unless buntis na yung bagong partner or yung separated na wife ang buntis. It makes the whole thing very difficult kasi aside from the fact na married pa, paano kung kunwari yung separated wife ang nabuntis? Paano pag pinanganak nya yung baby? Saan mo isusunod yung apelyido ng bata when the legal documents of the separated wife is still under the married name?

True. That's why when I filed for annulment dati, nagtataka ako bakit pinapayo ng lawyer ko na - basta huwag ka papa buntis when the process of annulment is ongoing to avoid unnecessary pressure or other issues.
At that time, I just filed para matuldukan na ang ugnayan namin as I don't want to have anything to do with him. Wala pa naman along bf that time so di ko rin naisip what ifs ng getting pregnant.

Regarding changing name from married to maiden, ang concern ko lang kasi dito is the Travelling with kids. Since they have the father's sir name, I thought of not changing my name muna. Will see later.