Embarrassing and Mortifying Wedding Speeches

[Purple_Power]

May mga narinig na rin ako about mga future future na yan na parang bang kala mo naman mga victim of abused samantalang yung mga nagsasasabi nyan eh mga anak nila nasa right age with proper job naman. So anong future pa ba yun? O hindi lang nila masabi na worried sila dahil mawawalan sila ng breadwinner na anak?

matakot sila kung drug user or mga criminal mga napangasawa nila kahit ako sasabihin ko rin sa speech yan kasi kahit anong edad pa yan eh nakakasira nga naman ng future.

[twelvth_goddess]

True, akala mo naman pag nag asawa sira na agad ang buhay. My friend's husband is an only child kase kaya siguro mas nahirapan yung mother in law to let go. At the same time, hinde nakapag pursue ng law kase naiba ang career na gusto. Baka pati yon na-blame sa friend ko. On her wedding, we just made light of the situation na lang din. When my friend came over to talk to use after the program, sabe namin sa kanya, grabe ka naman maninira ka pala ng future

[gwendy730]

Igksh! Grabe naman talaga ang mga wedding speeches from MILs ng ibang brides dito. True, marami kasi sa MILs eh nahihirapan i-let go ang anak at for the most part, yung bride ang napagbalingan ng galit at selos.

As for yung video ko that captured the speeches especially my uncle's, I can actually edit videos on my own pero I chose not too. It just serves as a reminder lang kung sino yung totoo at peke sa pamilya hehe.

[velvetdreams]

i feel sorry for you sis gwendy.. kung ako siguro yan... (hopefully sa church wedding namin walang gnyan waa)

baka sumimangot ako pag narinig ko yung mga gnong salita ...and syempre maooffend si hubby pag ganon... and parang pahiya yun during the event..

[traxxex21]

I forgot na kung sino ang kinasal.. pero sure ako sa province batangas or pampanga.... teenager ko pa lang narinig yan at never ko nakalimutan until now.

Sabi nung dad ng groom not verbatim " eto lang payo ko sa bride. good catch ang anak ko. guwapo.. may kotse ... may pera kami.. never kami kinapos kaya wag kang mag tataka kung lapitan ng babae at matukso. tanggapin mo nalang."

etong isa naman.. nakwento lang ng officemate ko..

Sabi ni mother of the groom sa bride "wag mo naman siya pigilan or bawasan yung binibigay na pera samin every sahod.. kailangan  namin yun eh"

[pinklilac]

^bwahaha natawa ako don sa second sis.. panalo lol

[gwyne21]

etong isa naman.. nakwento lang ng officemate ko..

Sabi ni mother of the groom sa bride "wag mo naman siya pigilan or bawasan yung binibigay na pera samin every sahod.. kailangan  namin yun eh"

natawa rin ako dito... at least honest si madir...hehe..

[belle_v2g]

OMG. I couldn't imagine those speeches happening on my own wedding. Baka mag walk out ako. O ipapatay ko ang sound system.

Siguro if our relatives have the tendency to say annoying things like that, wag na lang sigurong pagsalitain otherwise magiging topic lagi ang wedding natin sa mag umpukan. Nakakahiya sa mga guests.. napapangiwi na lang siguro sa mga naririnig nila.

[Purple_Power]

^Sis much better patayin mo na lang yung sound system rather than walk out. Kayang pagplanuhan ang sound system tapos pwedeng palabasin na technical problem.

I agree wag na lang pagsalitain. Ako nga eh kapag napapaisip pa ng Catholic wedding kung magkakaroon ng mga ganyang speech I won't let my in laws specially my mother in law kasi I know how intrimitida they are. Baka ungkatin pa niya sa speech yung about petition sa asawa ko. Although hindi pa naman kami seryoso about Catholic wedding but in case matuloy isa talaga sa plan ko is kapag reception kainan na lang. No more speeches, drama or any program.

I forgot na kung sino ang kinasal.. pero sure ako sa province batangas or pampanga.... teenager ko pa lang narinig yan at never ko nakalimutan until now.

Sabi nung dad ng groom not verbatim " eto lang payo ko sa bride. good catch ang anak ko. guwapo.. may kotse ... may pera kami.. never kami kinapos kaya wag kang mag tataka kung lapitan ng babae at matukso. tanggapin mo nalang."

If I am the mom of the bride I would demand a PUBLIC APOLOGY asap. Seems that this Dad has intention to have trouble. Not even a good joke at all. Parang kasing at the same time he wants his son to have future broken family.

etong isa naman.. nakwento lang ng officemate ko..

Sabi ni mother of the groom sa bride "wag mo naman siya pigilan or bawasan yung binibigay na pera samin every sahod.. kailangan  namin yun eh"

I should let my hubby whom to choose  Sana sabihin ng bride "pasensyahan na lang kung breadwinner niyo pinakasalan ko and now bear with it priority na niya ako sa lahat ng pangangailangan ko."

[peachlipstick]

I forgot na kung sino ang kinasal.. pero sure ako sa province batangas or pampanga.... teenager ko pa lang narinig yan at never ko nakalimutan until now.

Sabi nung dad ng groom not verbatim " eto lang payo ko sa bride. good catch ang anak ko. guwapo.. may kotse ... may pera kami.. never kami kinapos kaya wag kang mag tataka kung lapitan ng babae at matukso. tanggapin mo nalang."

This is horrible!! If this is the groom's father idea of a joke, hindi nakakatawa. I don't think I will be ble to handle this kind of situation. But I don't think h2b's father will say something like this.

etong isa naman.. nakwento lang ng officemate ko..

Sabi ni mother of the groom sa bride "wag mo naman siya pigilan or bawasan yung binibigay na pera samin every sahod.. kailangan  namin yun eh"

This is too honest. Sana naman if usapang pera, they should say it privately na lang. Wag na iparinig sa ibang tao, parang ang damot kasi ng bride sa dating ng speech na ito

I would be very upset pag may ganitong speech ang mama ni h2b (which is highly likely, so I'm thinking of not letting her make a speech at all)

[traxxex21]

Naku mga sis.. kaya hindi ko makalimutan yang line na yan.. teenager pako nung narinig ko yan. imagine.. sabihin ba naman na tanggapin na lang kung may lumapit na babae sa anak niya... nagbulungan nga yung mga nakakatandang pinsan ko nun.

[Purple_Power]

This is too honest. Sana naman if usapang pera, they should say it privately na lang. Wag na iparinig sa ibang tao, parang ang damot kasi ng bride sa dating ng speech na ito

I would be very upset pag may ganitong speech ang mama ni h2b (which is highly likely, so I'm thinking of not letting her make a speech at all)

Yeah too honest though for what she did it is not excuse, she must still have sense of decency and must have manners in speech. If you remember yung issue ng salutatorian speech she is being honest too pero pinigilan pa rin. There are things talaga na not tolerable at all. At saka with that situation lang ha? Sa totoo lang pinahiya na nga ng mother yung sarili niya eh! Meaning to say ginawa niyang breadwinner anak niya so it all means hindi rin siya gumawa ng way for her retirement. Oh well hindi ko naman alam situation niya. Pero in reality she has to accept the fact na dahil nag asawa anak niya priority ang asawa lalo na kapag nagkaanak sila. Extended family na lang siya, huwag siyang umasta na pag-aari niya anak niya na pwedeng manipulahin. Reality check kung ang bride ay magdamot o ubusin ang sahod ng asawa then she has the right to do so.

Regarding naman sa future MIL mo then I strongly recommend not letting her for the speech. Expect the fact na papahiyain ka rin. Or dapat mapagusapan niyo na ng h2b mo now pa lang na you don't freakingly like your future MIL to speech. It is true she might be offended pero ito na lang yun eh! Ano pipiliin mo ang ikaw ang ma offend dahil sablay MIL mo sa speech o ma offend yung MIL dahil lang hindi siya nag speech pero at least hindi ka pinahiya? Well ganun talaga.

[sevenstars]

belle_v2g, I totally agree with you -- if it was my MIL insulting me in public I'm pretty sure my fiance would be escorting her out of the reception personally. WTF.

[LGV]

Sorry pero I felt so bad about what I read, kinilabutan ako sa ibang words na nabasa ko and I didnt expect na nangyayari tong ganito. My father is really puno ng kalokohan at super maboka pero thankful ako at pinili nyang hindi magspeech nung wedding hindi dahil takot ako sa sasabihin nya about my husband but more on bringing up my kalokohan nung bata until college ako like makulit, gimikera at makick back daw ako. Lol but anyway my inlaws were the who who braved this, my father in law even volunteered kasi medjo impromptu actually feeling ko nga nagprepare sya ng patago haha ang haba kasi pero halos lahat ng guest umiiyak sobrang natouched sa mga sinabi nya kaya shocked ako sa mga nababasa ko dito.

Bakit ang wawalang hiya ng mga to? Im sorry pero wala akong maisip na term. I just remember my friend na kinasal alam namin lahat na ayaw nya sa girl ha pero sabi lang nung nanay, plain and simple na "Insert name ng girl, thank you for giving us baby's name (since may baby na sila before getting married), we love her so much!" Kung baga kesa nga naman hindi maganda masabi nya sinabi nalang nya yung totoo sweet parin diba in a way? Kaya naloka ako ha. Hindi birong gastusan ang kasal para sirain ang moment. Isa pa hindi kayo ang napahiya actually sila. Pinahiya nila yung sarili nila sa lahat ng tao.

[Purple_Power]

 ^I totally agree, ang hirap at ang gastos just to have a decent wedding then merong inconsiderate people which is from the family na intended nilang mamahiya at mang away. Sasabihin nila na they are just being true, pranka, which is already gasgas statement. Good thing we have this kind of thread para may idea na ang future brides to decide regarding speeches on what to do. Sad to say but I can't really respect those people who intend na mamahiya on public. Better not to speak if hindi rin naman maganda at matino ang sasabihin.

[xsugar]

naku, kakatakot naman to..nakikita ko na magiging reaction ko if ever, maiiyak ata ako sa hiya:(

[belle_v2g]

belle_v2g, I totally agree with you -- if it was my MIL insulting me in public I'm pretty sure my fiance would be escorting her out of the reception personally. WTF.

my hubby knows how upset I was during our civil wedding when our "ninang" had her speech and made it appear na parang inaagaw ko sa church nila ang well-loved nilang music director. I don't remember the exact words pero I know I frowned with my face like "Huh?? What are you saying??" (it's a small and simple get together lang with 30 guests but majority my hubby's family lang) 3 of my friends who witnessed that were horrified too they even asked at work bakit parang cryptic ang mga message ng ninang na yon. So I learned my lesson and told my hubby na ayokong magsasalita yon sa reception pag church wedding, so there, came our wedding 3 years afterwards, I placed this ninang sa dulo ng vip table where I can't even see her. And of course, I chose the best speakers that night.

[Purple_Power]

^Civil wedding so meaning during the ceremony mismo sinabi?  Kapal naman ng mukha niya for saying that. Kaya mabuti na lang nung sa amin NATARANTA  kasi on the spot yung intrimitidang GMIL ko may pahaging pa na MARAMI raw siyang sasabihin pero mabuti MATINO sinabi niya at hindi siya sumablay.

Siguro dapat kung mag speech lalo na sa reception, yung host magsasabi na yung speech should not be offensive, dapat proper and avoid yung mga foul statements.

Hay sa mga nababasa ko rito sa totoo lang ako na mismo ang naooffend talaga dahil hindi ko maimagine kung ako nasa lagay bride or kahit groom.

[belle_v2g]

Sis it happened during the dinner na.. like mini-reception lang. Nag speech lahat.. mga messages from family and all. Pero angat talaga yung speech ng ninang, ibang klase. I forgot na the exact words..but I know I was deeply annoyed after that.

[anneshirley]

I can't help but agree with Purple_Power -- we go out of our way to make the event enjoyable for our guests but it's sad na some couldn't even muster enough decency and/or class to just appreciate that. But then again even the most tactful of people tend to 'over-say their welcome' if they're unprepared or even a tiny bit tipsy..

I guess it's just all about preparation. Choose which of your parents/siblings/friends are the best writers/speakers; make sure they're prepared to say a few (?) words during reception; get ready to pull the plug if they're inebriated; or decide not to have speeches at all. Hope all the future brides here are spared any embarrassment!