Extremes boyfriend

[Awesomecakes]

I’m in a 2-yr relationship with my current bf but here’s the scenario.

Sobrang ok kami when we’re together and when’s he’s ok. Sobrang happy, sobrang lambing, parang ako lang yung world niya and all.

Pero one mistake, or if I point out something, bigla nalang siya sobrang magagalit. I’ve been called a wh*re, cursed, told that he won’t marry me, and the like.

Kahit kasalanan niya i.e. hindi niya sinabi na may lakad pala siya so I told him na hindi ko man lang alam na may plans pala siya and then he goes like “2014 na magbago ka na” and “I hate you” and “Ayaw kitang pakasalan”. I simply said this “Sabihan mo nalang ako kung anong plano mo. Hindi ko alam anong gagwin mo after work. May plano ka pala ni hindi ko alam.”

So now, ako ang mali sa amin?

How to handle? What to do?

Sis, one of the important things to have a long lasting relationship is respect. No matter how big or small yun mistakes niyo, it's not and will never be an excuse for him to say such things. Let's just say do you see yourself with this guy, treating you this way?

Find a perfect timing, you hindi kayo naga-argue, talk to him and tell him what you feel about your situation. Maybe you both need to compromise kasi kung love niyo naman ang isa't isa, he'll find a way (and same goes with you) para mag-work ang relationship niyo.

[cecilydee]

i think nobody has mentioned this advice: stop talking to him for about a week or months..until u have given each other enough space. masyadong ma emotional na kasi ang lahat. Two things will happen here, the space can break you or can heal both of you and will bring you both closer than ever.

hindi rin kasi natin alam ang full story as we are not in your situation. I myself can attest to this, pag nagagalit ako sa bf ko sobrang borderline ako magalit at kung maka nega ako sa mga friends ko, ang akala nila ang sama sama na talaga ng bf ko when in fact, i just sensationalized everything lol.

it seemed like you have that one tiny hope in him, dont give up yet but I really think you should give each other a time to think about some things that needed to be changed in your relationship.

[ninsyninsyspider]

Bro, no chance na may babae. Parang mas may tendency pa ako na magkaboylet than siya magkachicks. As I've mentioned, ako lang at trabaho ang buhay niya. No barkada, no inuman, no anything. It's just that kailangan kong sumabay sa mood niya. I don't know, kakaiba ba talaga boyfriend ko?

[simang]

^more than being 'kakaiba' i think he lacks human interaction.

Hindi healthy sa isang tao ang walang kaibigan, and don't tell me you're his only friend. You are his girlfriend so you're sort of required to be his friend kase as gfs are, you're supposed to be on his side no matter what. So unless you can put up being the only person in his life, then it's your prerogative. Pero chances are, mawawala din yung buhay mo apart from him.

So kumusta na kayo? Kumusta ang mood nya lately?

[ninsyninsyspider]

Hi sis simang, last moodswing niya was last week pero bad mood lang so understandable. I told him 2 weeks ago nga na if may hindi siya gusto, sabihin muna niya wag yung magagalit siya agad.

He also acknowledged na moody siya, well extra moody siya, lately.

So far so good after I told him that plus extra sweet niya one week na. Bumabawi?

[simang]

That's good to hear. :-)

Hmm, I have a question though, what do you love most about him? What made you fall for him in the first place?

[ninsyninsyspider]

The way he is pag walang topak. Sobrang maalalahanin, ako priority never ako hinayaan to be alone, consistent and talaga gives time for me (dahil nga ako lang ang world), malambing.

And the attention siguro, as in he spends time with me everyday kahit wala lang. Pag di kami nagkita ng isang araw, sobra sobra na namin miss ang isa't isa. So sobrang lambing na niya.

Lately, he's been mentioning na kailangan namin ng temporary bahay before ng turnover ng condo. Para dun daw kami titira pag kasal na, 2016 pa kasi yung condo. Pero you know naman na madali din sa kanya sabihin na ayaw ako pakasalan so I dunno.

Then again, nothing is perfect. Minsan bigla nalang susumpungin na parang ibang tao na siya.

Sana magtuloy tuloy na this one.

Sis cecilydee, yun ang plan next time na sumpungin to. Hindi ko siya kakausapin until marealize niya na siya na mali. Yup, I have hope that's why kami pa pero minsan nakakapagod na talaga haha

[C+C]

^ let go and move on, sis! you deserve someone better!

[iwannabeasupermodel]

I’m in a 2-yr relationship with my current bf but here’s the scenario.

Sobrang ok kami when we’re together and when’s he’s ok. Sobrang happy, sobrang lambing, parang ako lang yung world niya and all.

Pero one mistake, or if I point out something, bigla nalang siya sobrang magagalit. I’ve been called a wh*re, cursed, told that he won’t marry me, and the like.

Kahit kasalanan niya i.e. hindi niya sinabi na may lakad pala siya so I told him na hindi ko man lang alam na may plans pala siya and then he goes like “2014 na magbago ka na” and “I hate you” and “Ayaw kitang pakasalan”. I simply said this “Sabihan mo nalang ako kung anong plano mo. Hindi ko alam anong gagwin mo after work. May plano ka pala ni hindi ko alam.”

So now, ako ang mali sa amin?

How to handle? What to do?

i usually will not give a damn about the other things, they usually just bounce off me. pero di ka papakasalan? that's harsh. so he doesn't see a future with you? then leave him.

[ninsyninsyspider]

Nag away ulit kami, what's new. And then now he asked me to call my mom, so medyo nalabas ko lahat ng sama ng loob ko. And he got shocked.

Ang weird lang this time is nung pinagbati kami ng mom ko, he was ok na. And walang hurtful words after I told my mga reklamos. We are awkward now pero nakakapanibago na wala siyang hinirit sa akin na magbago na ako and the like.

So ako right now parang huh? What's the catch?

[px17]

The way I see it kaya hindi mo siya maiwan eh its either nagpapakabulag ka or nachachallenge ka. Kasi sa mga post mo alam mo naman ano dapat gawin eh pero ayaw mong gawin.

Normal lang mag-away pero hindi naman ganyan reaction. Kung ako sabihan ng jowa ko ng "wh*re" "ayaw kita pakasalan" Hindi na ko makikipag ayos. Kung ayaw niya di wag. Sa ganda kong to! hahahaha

[ninsyninsyspider]

Edit: Hindi pala kami ok now. Sabi niya ok kami kahit awkward and we'll move forward nalang. Pero last night until now, hindi kami ok. Nag uusap pero puros rude viber stickers naman ang narreceive ko.

Parang huh? Sinasabi mo that we're ok pero you're acting differently. Then now puros "asa ka pa" blah blah. Parang I feel like his mocking me. He's going to do things his way na daw.

Well, ultimate deadline na ganito parin siya ay on Friday. If difficult parin siya sa monthsary namin, wala na siyang maririnig from me.

[simang]

Haha natawa ko sa deadline, what if pagdating ng monthsary nyo nagpropose sya sayo, that's a big thing definitely, and let's say you said yes, and then one argument after ganyan ulit sya. And then nagpakasal kayo and then ganyan pa rin sya makipag away sayo. And then 20 years from now ganyan pa din sya.

I broke up with my very responsible boyfriend kase when i look at my life 10 years in the future and sya ang kasama ko, hindi ko maassure ang sarili ko na kakayanin ko syang pagtyagaan. We had a complicated relationship (age gap, work issues, etc etc). Although he was a very good person, i can't imagine being with him ang having a family with him. So i decided to break it off. And i'm so happy i did that

Imagine your life in the future. Kakayanin mo bang makasama sya sa twing away nyo eh sasabihan ka nya ng "whore", at "sana hindi kita pinakasalan". At sesendan ng immature angered stickers on viber. Yung totoo, gusto mo yun? You have to see your relationship as it is now. Not what you want it to be.

[sarah29]

Ilan taon naba sya sis? Ba't parang ang immature nya? Nagssend pa ng rude viber stickers lol.

[ninsyninsyspider]

^27 last December, sis. Hindi ko nga maintindahan ako pa natawag na immature.

@ simang, great point to ponder on. Kasi if sa tingin niya walang kailangan baguhin sa kanya and ako ang dapat magbago instead, wala na tong pag asa

[px17]

27 na pala sis. Kala ko high school! hahahaha

[simang]

^wahaha parang highschool makipag away eh no haha

Oh well. Gaya ng sinabi ng iba, i think you naman the right thing to do. You just don't want to do it. Whatever your reason is, it's no longer you boyfriend's problem but yours.

Shallow as it may seem, pero ako kase my goal in life is to be happy. I always choose to be happy. So i ditch the people who work their way in making me unhappy. For one, they don't have the right to do that and, they don't deserve a space in my awesome life. That's just me.

[simplepink]

Hi TS! Share ko lang ha.. May xbf kasi ako na kagayang kagaya ng bf mo. He's also a loner. Ganyan yata kapag loner ang guy. Sobrang sweet din sya, everyday din kami nagkikita tapos pagkauwi magkausap pa kami sa phone. Ako din mundo nya nun, pakilala nga nya sa mga officemates nya nun, asawa nya ko. As in sobrang ok kami kapag di sya galit. Pero kapag galit na sya, halos magpatayan na kami. Nung una kasi natitiis ko pa pero nung nakikita nya na natatanggap ko yung mga sinasabi nya, aba eh sumusobra na. Sinasabihan na nya ko na malandi, hahanap na naman daw ako ng lalake.. yung tipong mapatingin lang sa ibang pasahero sa jeep na lalake, type ko na daw yung guy. Basta sobrang possessive at seloso. Kahit mga officemates ko na guys, pinagseselosan nya. Pero pinaka kinagalit ko sa kanya nun, yung minura nya ko ng PI. Halos magpatayan na kami nun. Hanggang sa kalsada, nag-aaway kami.. Kapag ramdam nya na talagang galit na ko sa mga sinasabi at ginagawa nya, bigla na naman magbabago mood nya, malambing na naman sya, magsosorry, yayakap.. Hanggang sa di ko na talaga matiis, nakipagbreak na ko.

Ngayon, may asawa na sya. Kapitbahay lang kasi kami sa probinsya kaya may balita pa rin ako sa kanya. May anak na din sila. Pero yung ugali nya, di nagbago. Madalas nag-aaway sila mag-asawa. Naririnig ng mga pinsan ko sigawan nila at madalas daw saktan yung babae. Minsan nagbakasyon ako sa probinsya, nakita ko silang mag-asawa na nag-aaway sa tapat ng bahay nila. Naisip ko nun, buti na lang di ako yung nasa sitwasyon ng babae. Sabi nga nila, ilang beses na daw nakunan yung girl, kasi kahit buntis nag-aaway pa din sila.  Natanong nga ako nun ng mga pinsan ko, kung ganun din ba yung guy sa akin nung magbf pa kami, pero sinabi ko hindi. 

Ayan, naishare ko na. Malay natin di naman ganyan mangyari sa inyo ng bf mo. Pero posible din na ganyan... kaya isip maige sis.

[simplepink]

Shallow as it may seem, pero ako kase my goal in life is to be happy. I always choose to be happy. So i ditch the people who work their way in making me unhappy. For one, they don't have the right to do that and, they don't deserve a space in my awesome life. That's just me.

TAMA!!!!!! 

[anirtak127]

Pero one mistake, or if I point out something, bigla nalang siya sobrang magagalit. I’ve been called a wh*re, cursed, told that he won’t marry me, and the like.

Normal lang sa isang couple ang may mga arguments. But to call you a "wh*re" is way out of line. Ganyan na ba sya sayo nung nagsisimula pa lang kayo?

I agree with cecilydee about not talking to him. Feeling nya siguro kahit na pagsabihan ka nya ng masasakit na salita eh at the end of the day eh hind ka din makakatiis at tatanggapin mo pa din sya. Let him know what he's missing pag wala ka sa buhay nya.

One important thing I learned in my relationship, wag nyo sabayan ang galit ng isa't-isa kasi sasabog talaga kayo pareho. And worse, magkakasakitan talaga kayo kasi pareho kayo na pride ang pinapaira, parehong hindi magpapatalo.