Long Distance Relationship, Does it even work?

[princeza08]

Long Distance relationship? Does it work? for me it is a BIG YES!!!

year 2010 may pinakilala sakin na guy ang friend ko, he is her kababata/neighbor/barkada ng kuya nya... pero he is an ofw. actually nagmeet lang kami online. panay chat, [textspeak!], & col walang palya everyday yun. hanggang sa naging kami na, kahit d pa kami nagmi meet personally. ewan ko ba bakit pumayag ako sa ganitong set up, pero ang totoo like ko talaga sya, nadevelop na din kasi ako kasi araw araw kami magkausap, as in masasabi ko na na fall ako sa kanya. ang hirap i explain eh, sa iba na di nakaranas, sasabihin na weird, or impossible, pero that's how i feel. and alam kong ganon din sya sakin. and gumagawa din sya ng effort kahit magkalayo kami physically, alam kong serious sya sa relationship namin, never nyang pinaramdam sakin na malayo sya, he always make me feel so special inspite of the distance. more than 1 yr din kami in a long distance relationship, hanggang sa nag finish contract na sya, at umuwi na sya ng Pinas. and yun, exciting syempre nun nagmeet na kami. at walang nagbago, mas lalo pa nga kaming naging close at naging love ang isa't isa nun nagkasama na kami. everything went well in our relationship. natuloy pa ang plan namin mag out of town vacation sa boracay. at alam nyo ba dun pa sya nag propose sakin, na magpakasal na kami. hehe, eh syempre ako naman oo agad! kaya yun ilang months after we get married in a church. ang saya lang, kasi masasabi ko na isa kami sa mga matatag na couples na nagtiwala sa isa't isa at di nawalan ng pag asa, kahit [textspeak!] pang sabihin ng iba, kahit may mga hindi naniwala noong una. we prove them wrong. ngayong legal mag-asawa na kami ng mister ko, balik ulit kami sa long distance relationship at masasabi ko na ganon pa din kami tulad ng dati. tama yun sabi nila na inorder to survive a long distance relationship, it needs two strong people, na kayang maghintay, magtyaga, at umunawa. nasa inyong dalawa pa din talaga ang magiging kapalaran nyo kung kayo talaga o hindi sa huli. kahit gaano kahirap ang situation nyong dalawa, if you put God in the center of your relationship, everything will work out. this is the most important factor in LDR.

Distance, it is a test of love, many will fail but for those who can withstand it have the answer: true love :-)

[kwang sun]

I think my boyfriend wants to marry me in the future  but I don't see myself with him talaga sooner like getting married..I didn't expect him naman talaga to be "too serious " about our whole relationship  . yes I wanna be with him in the U.S but not through marriage =/

[aebrbiyc2009]

^^wow! Nice naman, haven't really had any experiences on dating someone I haven't seen face to face but am now in a long distance relationship with my 4 yr boyfriend (1 yr 2 months nang andito sa Canada). Nothing changed, or actually meron, naging better kami. Parang mas paranoid pa nga ako nung asa Pinas pa ako. :p Looking forward to marrying this guy. We have talk about it but nothing really final, may hinihintay pa kami.

Anyway I will go home every year so ayos naman, keri.

[kwang sun]

It didn't work out for us .. oh well, LDR is not for everybody

[cecilydee]

^sad to hear that. maybe you are not ready yet for a serious relationship?

^^Yes never mull over petty things. as long as both are willing to work things out, never lose hope in an LDR.

My bf and I keep a blog and we write all our love letters there. It helps us a lot because whenever we have unspoken words, we just talk over there instead over the phone/ video call. Kasi when the conversation is emotional, it turns ugly but when we write it over the blog, we get to express well minus the unnecessary thoughts.

[kwang sun]

^ ready naman sis .. kaya lang the problem is with him not me..and he's an aquarius  guy..  they  treat girls  like sh*t , habitual liars.. pfft.. I should've known..  we're on and off those past few months

[kwang sun]

na-aamaze ako sa mga ldr couples sa youtube ..meron pa dun 4 years before  bago they meet-up   

[ashleycole]

yes it work naman for us, 1 year and 5 mos. na kaming LDR..hopefully by november this year sya uuwi.

[princessrio]

it did work for us. 12 years bf/gf, 2 years married. 4 years dun, ldr kami. now, kasama nya na kami dito sa abroad.

ldr works but not for everyone.

[superjuzh]

No at wag na ipilit. Hindi advisable ang ldr kasi kung yung kasal at may anak nga nagagawang manloko yung single pa kaya? Mas maigi pa na humanap ka na lang ng mas malapit sayo, yung hindi mo mamimiss na sobra kasi yang distance na yan ay nakakapraning sa totoo lang.

[princeza08]

i don't think so sis superjuzh magkakaiba tayong individual. i can't say na katulad ko si ganito o si ganyan.. i think ganon ka din. hindi porket nangyari sa iba eh mangyayari din sa'yo. siguro, ang ldr ay hindi para sa mga weak pagdating sa temptation, para lang yan sa mga may strong faith. kung mabilis kang mainggit sa ibang couples, o mabilis kang malungkot, at maniwala sa sabi-sabi ng iba at maapektuhan sa story ng ibang tao, hindi talaga para sa'yo ang ldr. and remember, it takes two to tango, hindi magwowork ang relationship nyo if isa sa inyo or pareho kayong "weak". dapat parehas kayong willing mag work up sa relationship.

[babyika]

Hello 

 I'm a newbie here, makikishare sa usapan.

LDR is not easy as in. but its worth it if you really love each other. I'm in a LDR for 2years mahigit na, and my Fiance is Japanese kaya mas mahirap lalo na sa language di naman kasi marunong mag english. I met him nung nasa Japan pa kame ng anak hiwalay ako sa asawa na japinoy. 9months na kameng mag ka relasyon ni hapon ng na deny ang pag extend ng visa ko kasi dependent ako ng asawa ko at nalaman matagal na kame hiwalay kaya pinauwi na kame ng anak ko. Alam ni hapon sitwasyon ko kaya before kame umuwi last dec2010 nag propose na siya ng kasal, pag uwi inayos ko agad annulment ko siya lahat gumastos at support samen. kahit magkalayo dapat constant ang communication namen although nauuwi lagi sa away over petty things pero thank God hindi siya nag bago kung di siguro siya understanding ai di na kme nagtagal topakin ako e, ;)and 5x na siya nakapunta dito

And finally granted na annulment ko, darating siya ulet this august mag file kame marriage license and mgpapakasal na kame this sept   worth it naman talaga kahit mgkalayo mpapatunayan niyo pgmamahal niyo sa isat isa kahit milya milya pagitan niyo  Hold on and continue to love mga peps Dont let the Distance be a hindrance to your happiness

[|:AyemZia:|]

siguro, ang ldr ay hindi para sa mga weak pagdating sa temptation, para lang yan sa mga may strong faith. kung mabilis kang mainggit sa ibang couples, o mabilis kang malungkot, at maniwala sa sabi-sabi ng iba at maapektuhan sa story ng ibang tao, hindi talaga para sa'yo ang ldr. and remember, it takes two to tango, hindi magwowork ang relationship nyo if isa sa inyo or pareho kayong "weak". dapat parehas kayong willing mag work up sa relationship.

i'm not a believer pagdating sa LDR pero i think i can agree with princeza08 here.

[princeza08]

thanks sis AyemZia :-) kahit ako din dati i hate ldr, kasi yan ang dahilan kung bakit naghiwalay kami ng x bf ko. dati lagi kami magkasama pero simula nag work sya malayo sa location ko, ( na assign kasi siya provincial area before and i'm from manila) dun nag start maging cold ang relationship namin. kaya sinumpa ko talaga ang ldr. i didn't know what pushed me to pursue the relationship with my current bf ( husband ko na siya ngayon) yun mas matagal pa more than 1 year kami ldr at abroad pa sya, pero nagwork naman at naging successful. kung i cocompare ko yun relationship namin ng present don sa past, napakalaki ng pagkakaiba. siguro loyal & faithful lang talaga kami sa isa't isa. at nandun yun kahit malayo kami sa isa't isa, open communication pa din. yun ang wala ang x bf ko, mahina kasi sya sa temptation kaya in just 6 months na di kami magkasama (though lumuluwas pa sya ng manila every month imagine that!) eh ang bilis nakahanap siya agad ng iba at nakabuntis pa. kaya kami naghiwalay. im just lucky dahil hindi ako nag end up sa ganon klase ng guy, maswerte ako sa naging husband ko.



mga sis you can like & read this page ma iinspire kayo sa mga ldr stories ng mga couples dito. hindi lang siguro ito para sa mga ldr couples kundi para din sa mga hindi naniniwala.

https://www.facebook.com/longdistancerelationship?fref=ts

[shopaholic18]

remember that there is always hope in everything. me and my fiance has been apart for 5 months now but all my papers are on process to go and live with him in the US and as the days go by, its almost time for us to be reunited again. it does work but it doesn't happen overnight. its a continuous process, a lot of sacrifices, but it'll all be worth it in the end.

[kwang sun]

ldr isn't for everyone.. it depends if there's a plan to move nearer to his/her significant one , if there's no plan then  it's impossible.

[eleine26]

LDR is not easy, and it's not for everyone. mahirap i-maintain actually, full commitment talaga dapat both sides. importante din yung communication and trust. 

[jaemi33]

Okay mga sis gusto ko lang mag labas ng frustration ko sa situation ko ngyon, so please bare with me 

I'm talking to this guy for almost 8 months na. I've met him dun sa house party ng friend ko when I went back to philippines last December, since then consistent naman yung talk namin. I've actually went back nung May rin kaso hindi kami nag kita since I was only there for few days and he was in Boracay for his internship. We don't talk like everyday pero pag nag usuap naman kami para na talagang may mutal understandings kami. We both admit that we like each other pero yung biggest factor na hindi "kami" is that we are both not sure if it's going to work kasi nga long distance. He always tells me sana I choose to live there so that I could be closer to him and stuff. So far, wala naman kami nakikitang problem kahit we are not official dating not until yesterday! Nafefeel ko na may iba na siyang girl and when we were talking he asked me when ulit ako makakabalik, so I told him December pa. Next sentence he told me: Puedeng mang chicks muna? I was speechless. I mean I know I don't have the right to stop him from seeing any other girl so I just played it cool na oo naman but I don't guarantee if you will see me on December. Sabi ba naman niya na okay lang kahit may iba akong guy basta kami sa december!! Feeling ko na disrespected ako and I was kind of disappointment at him 

Haist ang hirap imaintain yung attraction nung guy pag malayo tapos hindi pa kami official. Sabi ng friends ko baka dumanting na yung "peak" season ni kuya and he really needs someone right now lol pero yeah 4 months nalang we would see each other again and nagawa niya akong hintayin ng 8 months na tapos ganito? I mean I don't fully blame him but I'm just sad na it turned out like this...

[kwang sun]

^siguro sis kasi nga long distance.. he had to tell you upfront na magchichiks muna siya while you're not there.. kesa naman magchichiks siya na hindi mo alam .. eh yung in-ask ka niya sis sana sinabi mo yung totoo.. tell him what you really feel kasi kung hindi ka comfortable sa ganun much better to tell him na .. sa amin kasi  naka ilang break na din ako dun sa bf ko pero ayaw niya .. argh .. sinasabi ko sa kanya wala muna kaming labels kasi nakakapraning talaga na may iba siya so for now wala kaming labels plain friends no expectations bahala siya kung may chicks siya dun .. what I don't know won't hurt me .. hintayin ko pag nakarating na siya dito ..  just remember .. guys will lie all the time unless mahuli mo na ..

[lovely_carrot]

To us, it does.

My BF and I have been together for 4 years then we separated before sya nag seaman.
After 2 months nya at sea, (5 months na kami separated) nagparamdam sya ulit and asked if pwede pa kami magbalikan. Syempre since love ko pa sya pumayag ako na magreconcile kami.

Communication is a requirement. Kahit minsan hindi sya nakakareply, okay lang, naintindihan ko naman, basta ako tuloy tuloy lang ng kwento sa kanya sa text.
If he has time, he will call me via skype, i'd stay up late para magkausap kami.
Kailangan talaga effort on both parties para magwork yung relationship.
Pangalawang contract na nya this year and i think kaya namin ma sustain yung relationship.

IMO lang, parang mas mahirapan ako if in the beginning LDR na kami, feeling ko kasi kailangan may strong foundation na and nadevelop na husto yung trust and love namin sa isa't isa para makasurvive.