Long Distance Relationship, Does it even work?

[alice_alice]

I'm currently in one and I must say it isn't easy, he's in SG I'm here sa Pinas.

Bago pa lang kame turning 6 months pa lang, and okay okay naman I know na sa mga darating na araw/buwan (at taon kung papalaring tumagal) eh may mga problemang maeencounter sana malagpasan namen yun. I trust him completely, atsaka malapit lang naman ang SG four hours lang byahe by plane so iniisip ko parang nasa Tarlac lang siya haha

[s_h_o_b_z]

Feeling depressed lately. Me and my boyfriend are in our 20s and already finished college but due to our circumstances right now, either one of us can move to close the distance. We've been dating for almost a year and a half pero hanggang ngayon wala pa rin kaming end-date. Nung start ng relationship sabi namin in 2-3 yrs we'll be together pero it doesn't seem that we're working towards it. Whenever I bring it up, sabi niya we'll go with the flow na lang daw kasi mahirap ipredict yung future. I really want to be strong pero the uncertainty is killing me.

[IloveMybabs]

been in LDR about a year ago..

7months pa lang kami mag bf/gf nun nung naasign din sya sa US.
i was also thinking before kung magwowork ba talaga kasi it would be may first time to be in that kind of relationship natatakot kasi ako na pag malayo kami sa isat isa ma fall out of love lang kami kasi hindi na kami katulad ng dati and baka mag cheat sya saken since 12hours yong time difference namin hindi ko nakikita lahat ng ginagawa nya.

but then it worked araw araw magkausap kami sa skype bago sya umalis to go to work and bago ko matulog. constant communication lang ang trust ang kailangan after a year umuwi sya ng pilipinas para magpakasal kami then after 6months sumunod na ko sa kanya it was not easy though kasi madami kami pinagdaanan na away and miscommunication pero siguro kahit medjo natagalan pa bago kami magkasama uli wala pa din magbabago kasi we both wanted this relationship to work.. and its all worth it

[jaemi33]

^thanks sis IloveMybabs for sharing you story! After reading yours, na-realize ko na this kind of relationship works only if both sides are wanting it so badly. Yung effort talaga coming from both sides. Hindi puede yung isang side lang yung may gusto na mag work yung relationship.

[IloveMybabs]

Sis jaemi33 im so glad na inspire kita

just add on it was never easy to us may times na gusto ko na mag give up kasi halos araw araw kami nag aaway and sobrang seloso pa ni hubby as in to the highest level haha nangibabaw lang siguro talaga yong love namin sa isat isa and we are holding on to the fact that everything will be fine pag nag kita na kami.

yes sis kailangan lang ng madaming patience wish you all the best sis

[kwang sun]

how will you know if love ka talaga ngisang tao sa isang ldr relationship?  mas madali naman kasi magsabi ng sweet things pero paano mo nga ba malalaman kung love ka talaga?

[jeune]

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You will feel it. Been there done that, it worked for us. It may not work for everyone but it's one of those things in life where your patience and trust will be tested and it's up to both of you how far you will go.

[kwang sun]

hindi rin ba sumagi sa isip mo sis na baka hanggang salita lang siya'?

[jeune]

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It did. Nag kita na ba kayo sis? When I first started dating a guy thru LDR at hindi pa kami nagkikita, I didn't gave 100% just yet kasi mahirap na in case hindi mag work, shempre maniniguro ka kung totoo ba talaga sha or yung mga sinasabi nya. My approach was to do it in increments, like little by little I will give in to the relationship until it became 100%, ganito ginawa ko Kay hubby although we already met before we went into LDR.

It will make a difference pag nagkita na kayo kasi you will be able to validate your feelings if what you really feel over the Internet is the same.

[ymgsiri]

Yes it does! There may come a time you wanna give pero, just keep it there.. Tama si Jeune Trust and Patience.. Then hopefully in the end everything will be worth it. Thats what he's always telling me. Keep the faith to each other.

[kwang sun]

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It did. Nag kita na ba kayo sis? When I first started dating a guy thru LDR at hindi pa kami nagkikita, I didn't gave 100% just yet kasi mahirap na in case hindi mag work, shempre maniniguro ka kung totoo ba talaga sha or yung mga sinasabi nya. My approach was to do it in increments, like little by little I will give in to the relationship until it became 100%, ganito ginawa ko Kay hubby although we already met before we went into LDR.

It will make a difference pag nagkita na kayo kasi you will be able to validate your feelings if what you really feel over the Internet is the same.

d pa kami ngkita sis kaya mahirap

[princeza08]

kwang sun: sis gano katagal na kayo na ldr? nag start din kami ng hubby ko na ganyan situation d pa kami nagkikita, pero everyday naman communication namin and may common friend kasi kami kaya yun ang kinaganda. nagwork ang relationship kahit mahirap talaga sa una pero kinaya naman. kami din nagkatuluyan in the end. depende sa inyong dalawa ng partner mo talga if you are both willing to fight & save for your relationship 

[littlemisskolehiyala]

Depende sa mga tao yan. If you're doubtful sa relasyon niyo I don't think magtatagal kayo. It's just a matter of trust. Kasi no matter how much you love him or him loving you, wala ring mangyayari if you don't trust him. Diba? Kaya trust lang sa relationship niyo and assure that nothing's gonna change sa relationship niyo.

Based on my experience, hindi naging successful yung long distance relationship ko. Pero if you're gonna ask me if I will still be in a long distance, why not? Hindi naman masama. Marami rin namang perks. Like kapag magkikita na kayo, andun yung excitement. Hehe 

[kwang sun]

kwang sun: sis gano katagal na kayo na ldr? nag start din kami ng hubby ko na ganyan situation d pa kami nagkikita, pero everyday naman communication namin and may common friend kasi kami kaya yun ang kinaganda. nagwork ang relationship kahit mahirap talaga sa una pero kinaya naman. kami din nagkatuluyan in the end. depende sa inyong dalawa ng partner mo talga if you are both willing to fight & save for your relationship 

since november last year pa sis.. ako yung weak .. lagi ko sinasabi magbreak pero ayaw nya....

[redgirln]

yes sis LDR works.

We started LDR , bf-gf for 5 months, then we got married agad. Naka set na lahat para sa wedding namin nung nagkita kami, dapat may malaki kang tiwala sa partner mo at sa sarili mo na talagang mahal mo yung  tao. Kasi kung may isang nagduda parang mahirap makasurvive ang long distance relationship. Now, we will be on 3rd year this Sept and still madly inlove! LDR parin, for 3 years of being married, abay mabibilang lang ang buwan na nagkasama kami pero through skype, text and fb yan walang mintis ang communication namin kasama pa ang phone calls, as in pagkatapos ng work nya skype na agad kami, minsan sabay kaming nagdinner, yun nga lang a lot of sacrifice lalo pag malaki ang time difference, puyat puyat lagi. Constant dapat ang communication at hindi lang isa ang mag eeffort, dapat both are willing to work out LDR.

[ymgsiri]

^redgirln : I do agree with you.. Constant Communication ang key sa ldr and of course trust. Jealousy.. The absence of each makes the heart go wander the only way to deal with it is make urself busy and dont even get me started to lack of physical contact.. LDR is not just about love.. It's about sacrifice and only the brave ones are willing to get on with it. I'm so happy I will finally be with my SO. Goodbye LDR! Hello Married Life! Hehe

[kwang sun]

kwang sun: sis gano katagal na kayo na ldr? nag start din kami ng hubby ko na ganyan situation d pa kami nagkikita, pero everyday naman communication namin and may common friend kasi kami kaya yun ang kinaganda. nagwork ang relationship kahit mahirap talaga sa una pero kinaya naman. kami din nagkatuluyan in the end. depende sa inyong dalawa ng partner mo talga if you are both willing to fight & save for your relationship 

11 months na sis. haha.. wala kaming common friend.. ewan . sometimes i think it's not too serious.. pero hindi ako makajudge.. lol.. i'll just wait until he  will come visit me. if not , i don't know if  serious ba talaga yun hahah , baka hanggang online lang haha

[ymgsiri]

11 months na sis. haha.. wala kaming common friend.. ewan . sometimes i think it's not too serious.. pero hindi ako makajudge.. lol.. i'll just wait until he  will come visit me. if not , i don't know if  serious ba talaga yun hahah , baka hanggang online lang haha

Malay mo nag iipon ngtime off and pera. he left 2006. Last year lang ako visit niya. Or pwede din same kayo ng iniisip.

[kwang sun]

Malay mo nag iipon ngtime off and pera. he left 2006. Last year lang ako visit niya. Or pwede din same kayo ng iniisip.

atleast kayo sis nagstart na magkakilala.. haha.. i think so,  he said he's well guarded as well. it only irritates me  na palagi siya nagschesched na pumunta tapos lagi nagchachange dates .. he doesn't have any financial issues naman din coz he got a decent job to start with and even said to me na he doesn't have problems taking time off work .lol

[pan.ian4ever]

I believe LDRs do work, depende lang talaga yun sa dalawang tao na magkarelasyon. sabi pa nga nila

TRUE LOVE DOESN'T MEAN BEING INSEPARABLE. IT COULD MEAN BEING SEPARATED BUT NOTHING CHANGES...LOVE, TRUST, HONESTY, AND COMMUNICATION REMAIN....