problems of our kids sa school (bullying etc..)

[pinkpotato]

^ tama sis. pagkatapos mong alagaan at ibigay lahat tapos may mananakit na iba? The school has to do something about it - not sure though if grade 4s are already too difficult na mapagsabihan. if mag move sya ng ibang school panibagong adjustment na naman sa bata and pano kung meron na namang bully dun?


I have my share of story re pananakit in school din. my daughter is on Nursery and she has classmates na mabilis talaga kamay. she has this closest friend na one time daw my daughter was playing with another classmate, the close friend went to her and just punch her on the chest. she told me about it when we were about to sleep tapos i was fuming with anger. told my daughter that she should not tolerate it, kung maka asta sya sa bahay parang reyna tapos pag harap ibang tao hayaan nya lang saktan sya. told her that when someone at school punches her as long as she didnt start it and its not her fault, she should punch back and run to the teacher. dapat sumbong agad.  tinatawagan namin ang teacher at principal so they are informed at infairness naman sa mga teachers, kinakausap naman nila mga bata. pati ang parent ng closest friend inin-form din and wanted to talk to us to say sorry pero di naman na need. kailangan lang bantayan.

my daughter said to the close friend na don't hit me again or my mom will hit you in the face. LOL. my fault. haha.

pero na resolve naman yun sa awa ng Diyos. the teacher observed na naiinggit selos pala itong si close friend kapag naglaro sa ibang bata ang anak ko. so nagagalit sya sa kanya. ngek.

few incidents pa na classmates nya would hit her (di mo talaga maiiwasan kasi mga bata tapos naglalaro usually nag aagawan, awayan, inggitan) my daughter would hit back and then sumbong sa teacher. hehe. tapos the kid would tell me, "i hit back then told my teacher my classmate hit me. is that good?

mali ba yun na nag hit back? ayoko lang kasi manliit sya sa sarili nya na baka eventually mafeel nya na mas superior ang isa e pantay pantay lang naman sila. ha! as long as di sya na uuna.

[stormy]

^^naapektuhan na ang anak mo sis tama ka inalagaan tapos sasaktan lang pala sa eskwelahan.

^uy haps buti naresolve agad yun sitwasyon sa school. Last year nun nabully rin si kulit at hinataw ganyan rin sinabi ko sa kanya na donya2x sya sa amin tapos sa school pumapayag sya na saktan sya. Buti may nakakita kundi d ko malaman na may nanakit na pala.

Pero wag mo na sana ituro na i-hit back kasi baka matuto na laging gumaganti. Sa edad kasi ng bata mahirap ituro ang konsepto ng wag paapi na d maisasama ang maging mapaghiganti.

@andygirl, parang anak ko ang dinescribe mo. Anak ko masabihan lang ng sorry ok na e. Friend2x na naman, pag pasko bigay2x pa ng gift ako yun naiirita pero d ako nakikialam. Tinatanong ko lang kung sure sya.

Mahirap yun magturo ako na magtanim ng sama ng loob pero ayaw ko rin mukha syang T.

[pinkpotato]

^ yey!!!  ha! yeah sa puso ko alam kong may mali jan sa hit back kaya tinanong ko - hanap kakampi. LOL. pero tama kasi after the incident parang wala ring nangyari, closest friend din sila.

pwede kaya i let her count, pag may manakit pa, pag 3x hit back? hahaha. ayaw talaga papigil e noh? gaganti talaga.

[stormy]

^gosh wag naman haps umabot sa 3x ang pagsakit kay H, ikaw na sumugod pag ganun ikaw talaga naisip mo pa yan

[hunny_ally]

Hitting is hitting...whether siya ang nauna or she was provoked. Hubby told S before if someone hits you, hit him/her back. Eh may times naman she gets hit accidentally so ayun gumaganti pa din. Nakakaawa naman the other party cause you know di sinasadya.

Tell H if her friend does that again that to tell her na she won't be her friend anymore. Usually from what I noticed with preschoolers big thing for them the friendship thing. Or better yet sumbong Kay teacher.

[broken one]

Hello mga sis! Sobra talaga ang trauma na nangyari sa son ko. Nagsusumbong pa sya na this particular bully was threatening him na pag napunta sya([textspeak!] bully) sa principal's office ulit, patay ang son ko. O dba? ang brutal?! I can't imagine a grade 4 student can say that.  Kahit sabihin na biro lang yun or di naman sya capable pero threat pa rin yun. My husband and I are really worried kc my son doesn't want to go to school anymore. Laging may alibi na maysakit  daw sya. We pray na sana matapos na to. I know na baka may pinagdadaanan din [textspeak!] nangbubully sa anak ko at di ko alam kung may ginagawa ang parents nya para itama ang anak nila. I just pray that my son can overcome his fear at maging normal ulit sya na cheerful at excited pumasok sa school.

[marose17]

^ Since the other kid's parents did not attend the conference, what concrete steps has the school taken after your meeting?

[DV]

Ladies, have you read this?

http://www.abs-cbnnews.com/nation/metro-manila/09/19/12/man-accused-pointing-gun-student-inside-exclusive-school

Kung ano ang puno ay sya rin ang bunga.

[pinkpotato]

^ grabe noh. scary! anong klaseng mundo meron na tayo. :-( konti na lang, it could have been the last day of the poor boy.

[DV]

^Scary talaga! Siguradong traumatized na yung batang tinutukan ng baril. Ang daming feeling self-entitled ngayon.

[domestic diva]

my child has a friend who was bullied last school year. the child was so relieved to be in a section this year na isa lang ang bully sa classroom nila (that bully is part of the bully group) at napaiyak pa siya of relief. kawawa talaga. thank God my kids aren't in this situation..

[hunny_ally]

WOW! And the bullied student was the one suspended and not those who bullied him?!? If it happened inside the faculty room and several teachers witnessed the incident, bakit no one stepped in? Siguro natakot na din. Obviously natakot talaga if they didn't even suspend the bully. would anyone know how old is the kid? No mention of the age.

They can file a case against the man. Tama ba violence against women and children 'to mag-fall?

[marose17]

^ That, and frustrated homicide.

[domestic diva]

^it's really sad to hear of this, sis. MY kids go to CSA.
I really hope they get this man/parent to teach him a lesson.

I have yet to sit down with my kids. Will do it as soon as they get home today. No wonder CSA came out with a security update.

[hunny_ally]

^my daughter goes to a different school but they sent a text blast this am reminding about the school policy's that requires the yayas who stay in the school to wear the fetcher's ID. if parents daw wait for the kids in school they are also required to secure a visitors' pass and wear it all the time. Baka this is a reaction of what happened in CSA

[DV]

Sinabi mo, marose17! Kung sa akin, sasampahan ko ng kasong frustrated homicide yung parent na yun!

[pinkpotato]

kakaiba lang kasi may mga witnesses pala e. several teachers are there wala man lang nag secure and protect sa bata? takot sila kasi may baril o dahil mayaman? baka benefactor?

[stormy]

Sa akin nung nabasa ko, sana nag-imbestiga ng malalim ang school bago nagbigay ng suspension dun sa bata na nanuntok (unless nag imbestiga na sila). Para matunton kung totoo yun lagi sya nabubully at napuno kaya nanuntok.

At sana rin kung totoong nanutok ng baril yun father, I guess totoo kasi may circular na regarding sa security protocol ng school, mas naging strong ang stand ng school against dito.

Yun school nga ang dapat isa sa magdemanda sa taong yan.

Ang school rin ang unang dapat magkondena sa nangyaring yan. D yun tahimik sila. Well I guess iba diskarte ng PR nila.

@pinkpotato, ito mismo ang dahilan bakit sinabi ko na wag gumanti. Kasi baka napakamalas ng timing at si H pa ang maabutan na pinagtanggol sarili nya at sya pa ang mapasama.

[hunny_ally]

^or at least man Lang if they want to show impartiality while doing the investigation, all parties are suspended.

[stormy]

^yes, or status quo muna unless very thorough na ang naging investigation kaya may 4 days suspension yun bata.

Kaso dahil sa d natin alam buong istorya, yun para sa isang bahagi nung nangyari parang d naaksyunan. Kahit nga pag both adults ang involved e  krimen yung panunutok ng baril e ito between an adult and a minor pa.