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« Reply #240 on: October 11, 2015, 03:19:05 pm »
“bye Bokya” yan ang sinasabi nung 2 bata..iponin ko mga 2-3 beses pa kausapin ko na teacher para maisumbong sa parents nila.. Bokya diba sinasabi yun pag zero sa exam,siguro bokya sila sa exam at sinabihan ng ganon hahaha!

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« Reply #241 on: October 12, 2015, 01:31:51 pm »
^If I were you, I'd raise it right away kesa maghintay pa na maulit. Baka ma-discourage pa pumasok sa school yung anak mo.
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« Reply #242 on: October 19, 2015, 09:27:58 am »
Nung hinatid nga kami ng asawa ko tinuro ko ng pa-simple yung 2 bata na yon. Sabi naman ng asawa ko papatulan pa ba eh ang babata. Sabi ko naman yon na nga eh,sa maliit na bata nag uumpisa yan kasi di napapagsabihan sa mali. Hintayin niya magsalita mga “taklesa” yung 2 bata. Sa ngayon natigil sila magsabi ng “bokya”, pero andoon pa din yung nagsasabi na “bakit ingglesera ka kasi taga east raya ka? Ito yung pinagtaka ko nung huli,feeling ko tinuturuan din sa kanila kasi minsan sabi pa “diba ang mga taga east raya filipino kaya dapat marunong mag tagalog”.. Parang matanda talaga magsalita. This week once nag ganon uli kakausapin ko na yung teacher.

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« Reply #243 on: November 26, 2015, 03:10:31 pm »
Tanong ko lang, meron na bang law regarding Anti Bullying in School? Kasi parang kapag nagreresearch ako hindi ko alam kung alin ang malinaw na batas eh!

and I am afraid of this na baka yung mga schools binabale wala lang itong bullying. Akala nila yung simpleng discpline will work.
« Last Edit: November 26, 2015, 03:17:13 pm by Purple_Power »

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« Reply #244 on: November 28, 2015, 08:09:22 pm »
^ Republic Act No. 10627 or the Anti-Bullying Act of 2013 actually requires all elementary and secondary schools to adopt policies to prevent and address acts of bullying in their institutions.  The law defines bullying, requires schools to adopt anti-bullying policies, enumerates prohibited acts, mandates reporting of bullying incidents and most importantly, imposes sanctions for non-compliance.

 links here: http://www.gov.ph/2013/09/12/republic-act-no-10627/  (law)

http://www.gov.ph/2013/12/13/implementing-rules-and-regulations-of-republic-act-no-10627/  (implementing rules and regulations)


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« Reply #245 on: November 28, 2015, 11:29:11 pm »
^Thanks very much for the info, for now babasahin ko ito lalo na siempre someday our baby will be student too.

Sana kahit sa maliit na bagay binibigyan na agad ng aksyon bago pa lumala ang situation. Minsan kasi parang binabale wala lang ng teachers kahit yung coordinator.

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« Reply #246 on: March 09, 2017, 12:26:52 am »
buhayin ko lang yung thread ha..

i have an issue kasi with one of my daughter (6yo)'s classmate. Hindi ko alam if this falls into bullying but im bothered kasi.

note: this 'other kid' seems to be the closest friend of my daughter sa classroom nila. when she goes home, bukambibig nya na lagi sila nagpplay ni 'other kid'.

Instance 1: my daughter nag sneak ng toy sa school. when we were playing na, i asked her where the toy is. sabi  nia, kinuha ni 'other kid'. I told her to tell the 'other kid' to give it back. But when my daughter comes home, laging may excuse si 'other kid'. 2 weeks has passed, birthday ng daughter ko so nagpakain kami sa classroom. I talked to the kid in a friendly way naman. Sabi ko, kung pwede nya ibalik yung toy ng anak ko. She said yes naman. But a week has passed and wala pa din. I wrote na sa school journal and asked for the teachers help. The toy was given back to us after more than a month. Sira sira, may kagat kagat and sulat sulat.

Instance 2: my daughter kept bugging me to buy her bubblegum. she even woke me up (she knows na ayaw ko ng ginigising na ndi importante. i work on nightshifts) and then asked money to buy a bubblegum. when i asked her why does she need the bubblegum so bad? my niece answered, 'kasi si 'other kid' magagaglit daw sa kanya pag d nya binigyan ng bublegum!'. so i wrote on the school journal for the teacher to address this. ndi nagreply si teacher, so hinatid ko si daughter sa school so that i can talk to the teacher. ok naman yung pagkakausap namin ng teacher. after that sabi nya kinausap nya si 'other kid' and nagsorry naman daw, and then the next time na may mangyari ulit na ganto, sa principal's office na daw magtatalk.

Instance 3: just a week or so after the bubblegum incident, my daughter came home asking me to buy 2 sets of doll for the 'other kid's birthday. requets daw ito ni other kid sa aking daughter. i was frustrated kasi akala ko tapos na tong issue na to. but ayaw ko naman na mablown out of proportion so i just told my daughter not to talk to 'other kid' anymore. my daughter even cried, probably not understanding kung anong nangyayari and she considers kasi 'other kid' as her bestfriend. after a lot of persuasion and practice, napaagree ko naman sya na wag na muna magtalk with 'other kid'.

the next day, she came home sabi nya sakin, 'sorry mommy nag talk ako kay 'other kid'. sabi ko what happened? sabi nya nagborrow lang ng eraser si 'other kid' my daughter didnt talk naman daw and just lend the eraser. so sabi ko sakanya, its okay yung mga ganung bagay lang. thats okay. and its good that youre telling me.

and then the next day again, i was asking her how school went, how her day went. she said she didnt talk to 'other kid'. but when i looked in her eye, i knew she wasnt telling the truth. so i asked her calmly what happened. then nagcry sya. sabi nya kasi during math seatwork daw, the other kid doesnt know what to do, so she asked my daughter 'paano ba ito?'. Then my daughter naturally tinuruan sya. The next day, that other kid again borrowed sharpener from my daughter. My daughter just lend her the sharpener but didnt talk to her.

Note: the 'other kid' is the school directress daughter.

My daughter is the type of person na masyadong mabait at ndi nangaaway/ndi makarefuse sa gusto ng ibang tao. even sa bahay, inuuna nya kung anong gusto nung older cousin nya. and then kung ano yung ndi gusto nung older cousin nya, yun ang sa kanya. i know kailangan ko sya turuan to stand firmly on her own, but how?

Nabobother lang ako kasi mejo it somehow affects na yung relation ship namin as parent-child. feeling ko baka ang tingin na sakin nung daughter ko, ako yung bad guy kasi pinaglalayo ko sila. also, the other kid is not helping, she kept bugging my daughter na lumalayo na nga and ndi na nga nagtatalk. I am planning to talk to the teacher again personally. Ndi ko alam kung ndi ba ako dapat mag alala pero nabobother talaga ako.
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« Reply #247 on: March 09, 2017, 01:49:24 am »
^If I were in your position, I will talk directly to the parent(s) of the classmate. And let them get involved in the situation. To me, it seems like a "normal" conflict that every kids go through. With regards to the toy, bothered ba masyado ang anak mo kaya gusto mong ibalik or ikaw lang ang bothered? Kasi baka naman binigay naman ng anak mo. It's just a toy, let it go. As for the bubblegum, I will just not give your child her demands. Kung magalit yung friend and she is affected by it, then I will definitely talk to the teacher, principal and the parent of the kid.
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« Reply #248 on: March 09, 2017, 02:25:32 am »
^sis hindi nya binigay yung toy dun sa kid kasi that's her favorite toy. pero hindi naman sya nagsusumbong kasi nga she's that type of kid na hindi nagsasalita masyado, at hindi nya inuuna ang sarili nya. i know its just a toy, but ayokong isipin ng anak ko na okay lang manguha ng toy ng iba. yun ang ayaokong mangyari. na isipin nya, na okay lang tong gawin kasi ginagawa sakanya ng ibang bata. baka in the future gawin nya sa ibang bata. syempre i talked to my daughter about it na hindi maganda yung ganung gawain.  the psychological effects nitong mga to. dun ako nabobother, hindi sa isang pirasong toy.

anyway, im going to the school tomorrow to talk to the adviser.
« Last Edit: March 09, 2017, 02:27:24 am by smile22 »
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« Reply #249 on: March 09, 2017, 02:43:32 am »
^It seems to me na smart naman ang anak mo, she knows that it's bad to take someone else's property. They are actually smarter than we think. I have been through similar situation, merong isang nang-bully sa anak ko nung grade 1 sya. I reported it right away to the school and they dealt with it right there and then. Thankfully, maganda ang policy ng school regarding bullying. He is now now in Grade 12, and he is actually friends with the boy that was bullying him. I just tell my son na if he feels  na hindi na sya comfortable, I am giving him the authority to stop it himself. Wag syang matakot kako dahil ako mismo ang kakampi nya. Basta lang wag sya ang magsisimula and he needs to tell me the truth. And if it doesn't stop then tell the person bullying him that he will report it to the authority. Meaning, the authorities in school. At sabi ko sabihin dun sa nangbu-bully that his parents will know dahil kakausapin sila ng mommy nya...LOL!

So far, wala ng incidents of bullying after that one. But we need to equip them too on how to deal with it themselves. One time nga sabi ko sa anak ko, pag me nangbully sa yo, gumanti ka! Wag kang iiyak na lang sa isang tabi. Bad 'no? I am just thinking kasi that I won't be here forever to protect him. Ang sagot nya lang, "Mommy, that's not what we learned about conflict resolution." Ako pa ang nasabihan...LOL!
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« Reply #250 on: March 09, 2017, 02:53:40 am »
hahaah :) true. gusto ko din sabihan si daughter ng ganyan kasi nga masyadong malambot. we cant always be beside them that's why kailangan talaga maturuan natin sila to stand on their own. hopefully my daughter eventually learns to be firm enough and hindi lang sumunod sa gusto ng iba. im just looking at this incident as a 'lesson' for her to learn how to stand up on her own.
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