buhayin ko lang yung thread ha..
i have an issue kasi with one of my daughter (6yo)'s classmate. Hindi ko alam if this falls into bullying but im bothered kasi.
note: this 'other kid' seems to be the closest friend of my daughter sa classroom nila. when she goes home, bukambibig nya na lagi sila nagpplay ni 'other kid'.
Instance 1: my daughter nag sneak ng toy sa school. when we were playing na, i asked her where the toy is. sabi nia, kinuha ni 'other kid'. I told her to tell the 'other kid' to give it back. But when my daughter comes home, laging may excuse si 'other kid'. 2 weeks has passed, birthday ng daughter ko so nagpakain kami sa classroom. I talked to the kid in a friendly way naman. Sabi ko, kung pwede nya ibalik yung toy ng anak ko. She said yes naman. But a week has passed and wala pa din. I wrote na sa school journal and asked for the teachers help. The toy was given back to us after more than a month. Sira sira, may kagat kagat and sulat sulat.
Instance 2: my daughter kept bugging me to buy her bubblegum. she even woke me up (she knows na ayaw ko ng ginigising na ndi importante. i work on nightshifts) and then asked money to buy a bubblegum. when i asked her why does she need the bubblegum so bad? my niece answered, 'kasi si 'other kid' magagaglit daw sa kanya pag d nya binigyan ng bublegum!'. so i wrote on the school journal for the teacher to address this. ndi nagreply si teacher, so hinatid ko si daughter sa school so that i can talk to the teacher. ok naman yung pagkakausap namin ng teacher. after that sabi nya kinausap nya si 'other kid' and nagsorry naman daw, and then the next time na may mangyari ulit na ganto, sa principal's office na daw magtatalk.
Instance 3: just a week or so after the bubblegum incident, my daughter came home asking me to buy 2 sets of doll for the 'other kid's birthday. requets daw ito ni other kid sa aking daughter. i was frustrated kasi akala ko tapos na tong issue na to. but ayaw ko naman na mablown out of proportion so i just told my daughter not to talk to 'other kid' anymore. my daughter even cried, probably not understanding kung anong nangyayari and she considers kasi 'other kid' as her bestfriend. after a lot of persuasion and practice, napaagree ko naman sya na wag na muna magtalk with 'other kid'.
the next day, she came home sabi nya sakin, 'sorry mommy nag talk ako kay 'other kid'. sabi ko what happened? sabi nya nagborrow lang ng eraser si 'other kid' my daughter didnt talk naman daw and just lend the eraser. so sabi ko sakanya, its okay yung mga ganung bagay lang. thats okay. and its good that youre telling me.
and then the next day again, i was asking her how school went, how her day went. she said she didnt talk to 'other kid'. but when i looked in her eye, i knew she wasnt telling the truth. so i asked her calmly what happened. then nagcry sya. sabi nya kasi during math seatwork daw, the other kid doesnt know what to do, so she asked my daughter 'paano ba ito?'. Then my daughter naturally tinuruan sya. The next day, that other kid again borrowed sharpener from my daughter. My daughter just lend her the sharpener but didnt talk to her.
Note: the 'other kid' is the school directress daughter.
My daughter is the type of person na masyadong mabait at ndi nangaaway/ndi makarefuse sa gusto ng ibang tao. even sa bahay, inuuna nya kung anong gusto nung older cousin nya. and then kung ano yung ndi gusto nung older cousin nya, yun ang sa kanya. i know kailangan ko sya turuan to stand firmly on her own, but how?
Nabobother lang ako kasi mejo it somehow affects na yung relation ship namin as parent-child. feeling ko baka ang tingin na sakin nung daughter ko, ako yung bad guy kasi pinaglalayo ko sila. also, the other kid is not helping, she kept bugging my daughter na lumalayo na nga and ndi na nga nagtatalk. I am planning to talk to the teacher again personally. Ndi ko alam kung ndi ba ako dapat mag alala pero nabobother talaga ako.
