Author Topic: Support Group for Dieting - Part 4  (Read 23946 times)

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Support Group for Dieting - Part 4
« on: April 22, 2011, 06:36:41 pm »
i am in a very depressed mode right now. actually, kahapon pa kasi nag-away kami ni bf. it started when we went to a resto and i got all excited kasi gutom na ako that time, and when he saw me excited to eat, sabi niya kaagad, "wag ka nang kumain kasi lalo ka lang tumataba!".. so instead na i'll order, i told bf na hindi na ako kakain, siya nalang kumain.

nakakababa ng self-esteem yung incident na yun. i did not have dinner pero tiniis ko hindi kumain, kasi nga nasabihan ako ni bf ng masasakit na salita. nagalit ako sa kanya of course and nagtampo. di man lang siya naging sensitive sa feelings ko. eh hindi pa ako nagdidinner nun so gutom talaga ako that time. he tried to say sorry and to make things ok between us last night but totally nahurt ako sa sinabi niya. matagal na kami sa relationship ha? before i was payat and sexy. i gained weight when i started working na. and dun na parang nag-iba treatment ni bf sa akin na nagresult ng pagdown ng self-esteem ko.

i need to exercise and control my cravings for sweets. i also need to stay disciplined in my diet. Many times na kasi ngyoyoyo ang weight ko. Until now hindi pa din kami bati ni bf. to be truly happy, i need to lose weight. to gain back my self-esteem and be happy again. hayyy..

i hope to achieve this goal by june 2011. i'm 69kgs at 5"6. I hope to shed the extra 15 kgs. sobrang 30lbs din yun ano.. hopefully by june 2011 i'll lose 10 lbs. please pray for me. and i'll also pray for every woman out there who is struggling with her weight. may we all have the discipline to lose extra pounds and be happy and satisfied with our lives...

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #1 on: April 22, 2011, 07:05:32 pm »
sis, Ive been there before and it didn't happen to me just once. Now my question for you is this: Is he worth all of these?
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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #2 on: April 22, 2011, 07:10:36 pm »
i hope so.. try ko lang. baka mag-iba tingin niya once nag lose na ko ng weight. if not, then i have to face the truth kahit masakit. at least, i strived hard para pumayat.  :(

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #3 on: April 22, 2011, 07:19:05 pm »
ever since that happened to me, masyado ng shallow ang tingin ko sa mga lalaking ganyan. They're only good when they can show you off. But it "might" turn out differently in your case. At least alam mo to be prepared just in case... Sa akin naman, pumayat ako nung nawala sya sa buhay ko. And wala pang wrinkles (kasi wala ng pressure e :P) He tried to come back but umayaw ako. Over my sexy dead body! :D
Its actually better if you do it not because of someone else.
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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #4 on: April 22, 2011, 07:37:46 pm »
i hate those kinds of guys! masyado naman shallow. :(( if i'm losing weight, i'm doing it for myself! no pressure..

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #5 on: April 22, 2011, 07:43:29 pm »
i hope madaling sabihin.. pero mahal ko yung tao sis.. so mahirap i-ditch the guy nung ganun ganun na lang. hayy.. dapat na mag exercise!!

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #6 on: April 22, 2011, 08:25:20 pm »
^actually it's okay naman to have a guy as your inspiration to lose weight.. but your motivation to shed off the unwanted pounds should be for yourself first and foremost. i think for weight loss to be really effective, it should be positively reinforced (to make you feel and look good, to gain more confidence, to give you more energy and freedom in engaging in all sorts of activities) and not negatively emphasized the way your BF did na parang he's into it for the looks lang. tsk tsk. based sa post mo, it's HOW he said it kasi. ok lang naman mag comment ang bf/husband sa weight natin if done in a sincerely loving manner, yung dahil concerned talaga sa health and well-being natin. but that way? not being able to eat dinner dahil mataba ka na daw? uggghhh. if you love him, you should ask yourself can he love you through THICK and THIN? ;D

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #7 on: April 23, 2011, 02:11:17 am »
I agree with sis cherub.rock. There are a lot of ways to tell a person that he/she needs to lose weight ng hindi nakakasakit. Or at least man lang pinagbigyan ka nyang kumain kahit konti that time. I don't know him but based on your story, I see him as a selfish person. Just the fact that he LET you skip a meal. Wala man lang syang pakialam kahit magkaulcer ka? His ways of helping you isn't healthy at all. I just hope you don't get hurt more in the long run.

Now, based on my experience, losing weight is not something that can be forced. Kahit ilang slimming pills pa itake ko, if it wasn't done for myself, it's either it didn't work or the effect was short-lived. But when I tried to lose weight AFTER giving importance to myself, loving myself more, mas maganda and mas matagal ang effect. People even told me na "blooming" daw ako lagi. And to think I was single then. Natry ko na rin kasi pumayat because of depression pero para na akong patay tingnan, and tinatawag akong kalansay, people said nagsasag skin ko. Basta hindi maganda.

And by the way, losing weight for your bf to get back that self-esteem will never make you happy.
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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #8 on: April 23, 2011, 03:00:27 am »
nakakainis naman yang comment ni bf sis! syempre gutom ka, mainit ulo mo, then sabihan ka ba namang ganyan?? syempre tatampo ka talaga!
But anyways, he's beside the point na, as you came to realize that you need to lose some weight.  But I hope you do this to feel good about yourself, become more healthy and fit, and not because of what your bf says about you.

Teka, overweight ka nga ba? If yes, then start NOW! Join the Weigthloss Support Group thread and get some tips there.  Important note while on a diet, is dont let yourself go hungry! And dont aim for a drastic change!

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #9 on: April 23, 2011, 02:32:14 pm »
kaloka ang bf mo, pupunta punta kayo sa resto, tapos sasabihan kang wag kumain? very insensitive indeed.
lets lose weight so we can look better, feel better, be healthier, pero wag ma pressure & stressed kasi it might backfire, either mag yoyo diet or lalong mag weight gain due to stress

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #10 on: April 23, 2011, 04:44:54 pm »
guys sorry to intrrupt.. iba kc problema ko..plz elp me [textspeak!].. panu ba mag gain ng weight kkapanganak ko [textspeak!]..worrid ako kc ang iba problema nla panu mgppayat..ako pumayat bigla..paranoid na po ako..hays
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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #11 on: April 24, 2011, 01:24:30 am »
^sis naidz, try consulting a doctor, baka kasi may ibang sakit ka kaya biglang lose weight?

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #12 on: April 24, 2011, 02:28:08 pm »
sis gab, thanks sa reply..[textspeak!] nga..kasi 1 hour after giving birth nag bleeding ako..hindi daw kasi nag contract uterus ko..naabunuhan lang [textspeak!] ako ng 1 bag na dugo..hindi ko talaga alam bakit nangyari yun. as of now wala naman masakit sa akin.. 2 weeks na nkaraan..yung tahi hindi na rin masakit.takot ako mag pa check-up hahays..tingnan ko na lang bukas.
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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #13 on: April 28, 2011, 03:45:59 pm »
hi sis bruha_me, nakakasad nga yung sinabi ni boyfie. I gained and lost weight, pero always sinasabi ni hubby na kahit tumaba o pumayat ako, never magbabago ang pagtingin nya sakin. That's an assurance for me, but still i strive to be sexy and healthy para sa sarili ko kasi gusto ko confident ako magbihis and I hate complaining na masikip na mga damit ko. When you decide to lose weight, do it for yourself and not just to please your bf. Take it positively, gawin mong motivation yung sinabi nya. Siguro hindi rin nya gusto maoffend ka, mali lang ang way ng pagkakasabi nya kasi sabi mo nga matagal na kayo sa relationship, so you know him better, right? Goodluck to you sis, cheer up!:)

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #14 on: April 28, 2011, 05:31:34 pm »
hhmm, kumusta na kaya si TS?  ano na kaya ginawa nyang pampapayat?
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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #15 on: April 30, 2011, 04:11:16 pm »
hi mga sis! thanks for all your replies. actually, i was just in a bad and depressing mood when i started the thread. i was soooo depressed about my weight. been in a yoyo diet since 2006 na kaya. kaya i think i need all the motivation to actually lose weight na for good. so i took what boyfie said positively. so far so good. 1 week straight na ko nageexercise. sinasamahan pa ako ni bf sa pagjojog. i still hate him for that very insensitive statement he said. but if hindi niya sinabi sa akin yun, hindi talaga ako magigising and hindi ko marerealize how much weight i've gained since 2006. grabeh! hope matuloy tuloy ko na itong pagpapapayat. i need to have discipline and self control. hayy.. so that i wont be depressed anymore with my weight. eh emotional eater pa naman ako kaya lalong lumulobo.. wish me luck girls!

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #16 on: April 30, 2011, 04:25:31 pm »
good luck sis! :)
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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #17 on: May 03, 2011, 10:12:49 pm »
hi sis bruha_me! punta ka doon sa weight loss support group na thread. we can help each other achieve our goals by encouraging each other. very good ang ginawa mo na you turned something negative into something positive. pero sana si bf naman e next time, maging tactful naman siya. i always believe that positive reinforcement is way better and more effective than negative.
anyway, best of luck sa yo at kaya mo yan!  :)

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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #18 on: May 04, 2011, 12:24:57 am »
Hi threadstarter, pwede bang weight-loss buddy nalang tayo? As in every week post natin changes/improvement?
I'm 5'3, 62 kilograms at same tayo ng goal 15kgs din by june 2011.
Gusto ko sana parang COMPETITION para exciting diba pero walang away saka dapat healthy lifestyle tayo.
Plan ko is oatmeal diet with 1 hard-boiled egg kapag dinner then everytime na noodles or sobrang napadami ako ng kain dulcolax lang take ko.

Payat lang din ako dati eh pero naging mom ng maaga, ayun.

Depress na rin ako kc parang nagiging bitter/insecure na ako sa ibang girl na kakilala ko saka parang i'm not healthy ang dami kong taba.
I'm sorry pala sa nangyari sainyo ni boyfie, susuportahan kita dyan pero dapat di lang dahil sakanya kaya mo gagawin yan ha, dapat for health reason din diba.

Sana tanggapin mo deal ko.
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Re: i need to lose weight to be happy...:(
« Reply #19 on: May 06, 2011, 11:13:37 pm »
Naku parang ganyan din ang case ko except hindi naman ako nakakatikim ng masakit na salita from bf. When we started, payat pa din ako nun, I could wear whatever I want. Pero within almost 4 years namin together, I started to gain weight. I guess it's because bumabagal na metabolism as I age, walang exercise kasi subsob sa work and not eating healthy foods. Kulang din sa tulog. Buti ka nga sis bruha_me, may height ka. Ako maliit lang so mas obvious yung katabaan ko. My bf would remind me from time to time, would invite me to go with him sa gym or jogging early morning pag weekend, pero lahat yun I declined. Dami ko excuses kasi kakatamad talaga.

Just recently some office friends noticed na lumalaki na daw talaga ako. So panic mode on. Dinibdib ko talaga when they said ang taba ko na. Dati kasi wala naman sila sinasabi. Ngayon tuloy, napunta ko sa thread na to, hoping to get some tips kasi nakakapraning. I just realized that I'm missing my old figure na bagay lahat ng klase ng damit.   :'(
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