is it worth a shot?

[_gigles_]

I've been with this guy and we have broken up for about 4 months already and recently I got to talk to him again. He said he still loves me but he doesnt really do anything about it. What hurts is he is just hot and cold on me, one day he would talk to me tomorrow its like idc. Makes me wonder if he just told me he still loves me cause hes bored or he is just messing with my mind and heart again. I am so inlove with this guy, he simply just gets me. But he have hurt me enough. I think my heart is slowly getting tired of all the things he kept putting me through. I want to be able to let go of him, but for me to be able to do that I need to understand what went wrong. I dont want to keep looking back at what happened and blame myself or feel bad about myself. The reason we broke up was he cheated on me. And it left me feeling I'm just not good enough. I couldnt get myself into a new a relationship cause I still feel that way about myself.

So my dilemma now is, is it worth the shot to talk to him and ask him if it was my fault or his? Would he give me a real honest answer. Is it worth to reach out to him and ask him all this?

[ysa.belle]

IMO, let him go nalang. parang he is just messing with you... parang he is just testing the waters na if masigurado niya na you still love him eh makikipagbalika siya. sigurista yung dating ng guy na ito para sa akin...

tapos the reason pa pala kaya you broke up is because he cheated on you. di ba sabi nila "fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice, shame on me"

for me ha, its his fault. maybe somewhere in the relationship eh may mali or may pagkukulang ka pero its not enoguh for him to resort to cheat on you. parang hindi ka na niya nirespeto sa dating na iyon eh.

you feel na you are not good enough kase he cheated on you... that is sooooo wrong sis. he is the one who is not good enough for you since hindi siya natutong makuntento sa kung ano ka & kung anong kaya mong ibigay & binibigay. siya yung may diperensiya kase hindi niya nakita yung positive side mo.

[judea16]

^^

tama ka sis ysa.belle

sis gigles, let him go nalang... at wala kang kasalanan at there is nothing wrong with you... its his fault.. nagawa niya na mag cheat sayo diba...cause kung matino siyang guy hindi magagawa sayo at tipong na hot in a minute then cold in the next... guys like him is just a waste of time...

you can ask him kung bakit ganun siya, pero baka bulahin ka lang niya...at mas masaktan ka pa... kasi siya yung tipong guy na looking for something na hindi niya mahanap sayo... so ginagawa niya gusto niya...

dont let your heart feel more pain dahil sa guy na yun.. you deserve to be happy... masakit man ngayon, but time will past at makakahanap ka din...

[Petsy]

nope.

[lulay23]

sis,

wala siyang kwenta..been there ..done that..mga lalakeng paasa..mahirap matali sa isang taong hindi [textspeak!] ang gusto sa buhay..kase in the end you will get lost and stuck..if he really wants you..babawi un considering he cheated on you..so kung sigurada cia na he wants you back..sobrang effort un..hindi [textspeak!] testing the water ang drama nya..

[_gigles_]

I am still inlove with him but I think I cant see a relationship with him anymore, I cant trust him after what he did to me. The only reason I want to talk to him is to clear things out with him, I need to know the reasons why he did it. I dont want to keep having flashbacks of him or what happened between us and feel s*** about myself.

anyways thanks sises for the advice! <3

[lulay23]

wag mo ng alamin..di rin naman magsasabe ng totoo un eh

[gurlzat03]

hi sis.. i would suggest na basahin mo 'yung article ni paulo coelho entitled "closing a cycle"... i was once in your shoes about a week ago, yet, wala akong nakikitang effort sa kanya to win me back... and i find it awfully stressing, to the point na nawala appetite ko because of him. pero we have to accept the fact na nothing's permanent in this world...
so I would suggest na let him do whatever he wants, just make sure na 'wag kang paapekto. sabi nga, kung kayo talaga sa huli, magiging kayo pa din. pero kung hindi, may mas better pa na darating sa 'yo at mas mamahalin ka..

[nageinna]

i super agree with all the posts above. let him go. not worth it. baka nga naniniguro lang yang si ex mo sis kung mahal mo pa rin sya ego boost yun sakanila. don't give in sis. kasi kung gusto ka pa niya talaga gagawa at gagawa yan ng paraan. trust me. alam mo what's the best thing for you to do now sis? improve yourself more. bring your confidence back! ikaw narin nagsabi because of what happened sa inyo ni ex mo he made you feel na you're not good enough and upto now dala dala mo yun. so it's time to take care of yourself naman and feel good about you! kaya mo yan sis 

[iCleverClogs]

Similar lang pala tayo ng situation. Sasabihan ka na gustong makipagbalikan, mahal na mahal ka, ikaw ang pakakasalan or whatever, with all the paasa lines tapos parang kabute na lulubog lilitaw. Walang ka effort effort ang panliligaw for the second time considering na kahit LDR. Di gaya noon, habang nanliligaw for the first time kahit LDR kami panay ang text at tawag. Ngayon weather weather lang. Parang gusto ko ng awayin eh kasi nakakasakit lang ng tao. O baka naman kasi confident siya na hindi ko siya ipagpapalit kaya, keber nalang ako sa kanya. Para kasing malaki ang kumpyansa na hihintayin ko pa siya.


Haysss.... Kung di nga rin seryoso sa panliligaw eh huwag nalang makipagcommunicate. Ako naman si t****, panay ang hintay sa gabi sa mga oras na ito baka magparamdam na naman ang kumag...   

[_gigles_]

^love makes us blind, it sucks but thanks alot sises for your advice. I know from the very start tama kayo, I guess I just need to hear it over and over again hangang sa magising ako. thank you <3

[judea16]

^^^
thats true sis... hehe...
at malamang if someone is in you position right now.. ganun din advice mu.. kaya nga "we can give great advices, but sometimes we don't listen to our own advice unless we heard it from other people" hehe...

so let him go nalang sis.. you so need someone much better.. kasi kung talagang love ka niya he will do his best to make it up to you... for you to feel special and not down or bad about yourself...
tama rin sila sis, paganda ka lalo, and boost your confidence up again...
NO guy or NObody else has the right to feel you or any of us girls DOWN.. diba!?

[muahmuahmuah]

you really don't need to understand what happened in order to move on, it is what it is. who cheated who again? hindi naman nya hawak ang buhay mo to trap yourself and torture yourself that way. it might be na love doesnt come to you that often but if his cheating is how you define love and is the kind of love you want in your life ummm buti nalang madalang dumating.

have better conversations with him that doesn't concern the relationship you had since you can't resist not to respond to him. ask him question that will make him uncomfortable actually spending a second with him is a total waste of time.

[ylisza]

sis _gigles_, you know what? it's time let go.. our other sisses are right.. he just doesn't deserve you.. panget ng ugali niya.. if you want to know what's wrong with him, all you have to do is to confront him para once and for all malaman mo ano ba talaga?

wag mo ng saktan ang sarili mo..

[iCleverClogs]

di naman kayo magkakaganyan kung di siya parang kabute na lulubog lilitaw di ba? di naman sa sinisis ko ang lalaki pero siya na rin ang nagpakita ng motibo sayo na wala na siyang interest sayo. pinalilito ka lang niyan eh. gaya ng ginawa ng ex ko sakin. move on with your life. try focus more on yourself and learn the lesson what you get from your relationship.

[prille]

mas pahihirapan mo lang sarili mo sis, kaya wag na..

i've been there also..

[jpsv72]

nonsense, what for to add more pain in you?
remember a relationship grows depending on the both parties and when it falls, it also depends from both of you, relationship is like handling 2 ends of a string, if he pulls, you follow, if you pull, he must follow, but if both of you pull both ends, you know what will happen. So if your relationship didn't work maybe it's not meant to be. Move on sis, do not think about him, it's not worth it, he's nothing.
Pray for guidance. Good luck.

[bravo86]

is it worth a shot? - NO! NO! and NO!

eto oh, parang pareho kayo ng kaso ng TS dito sis
http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,240262.0.html

di naman kaya iisa lang bf nyo?


he cheated on you once... kung di ka pa nadala ganung mag-bf pa lang kayo, sige ah, give him another chance, balitaan mo na lang kami uli pag nagka-litex-litex uli.

[ladybellee]

is it worth a shot-- NO.

Been to the same situation before. Yung feeling na gusto mo lang ng closure and malaman what went wrong. mga ganung drama ba. But believe me, wag na. You'll just find yourself falling inlove all over again and im pretty sure he'll somewhat make you feel na maypagkukulang ka kaya sha nagccheat, which later on ikaw naman mapapaisip and feeling mo 'oo nga i have my faults din.' Ive been there. Took a year siguro bago ako nakamove on. And then biglang ayan nanaman sha magpaparamdam, and finally natiis ko din sha. Thats when I started moving on. Or so I thought. Until one time naiyak nalang ako kase parang hindi parin ako naglelet go, i was like bakit hindi ko maopen yung heart ko sa ibang tao na gusto akong mahalin.naalala ko sha, pero ayoko na talaga so nagpray talaga ako and you know what I realized, hindi lang siguro ako makontento na hindi ako nakarinig ng apology sakanya kase all this time parang he made me feel na ako may kasalanan.My point is wag mo na alamin kung ano man reasons nia, kung sino man may kasalanan. Maguguluhan ka lang lalo. The best thing to do is forgive him and forgive yourself. I forgave him through my prayers. Forgiveness is not something we do for other people, we do it for ourselves to get well and move on. But how will you know na talagang naforgive mo na sha? You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall the person who had hurt you and feel the power to wish him well.

But then again, its your call. Let us know how it goes

[lesters_gal]

Hayyyy..I'm in this situation din.my ex wants me back after 8months na wala kami.alam ko sa sarili ko na gusto ko parin sha,pero sabi ng utak ko tama na.pero I give in...once a month nagkikita kami and we do the deed..nung una ok lang sa akin kasi dalawa sila na dinadate ko.I don't mind kasi ang nasa isip ko.dalawa sila so hindi ako ma fafall sa kanya uli.pero nung nawala na yung isa at sha nalang ayun bumalik nanaman yung feelings ko sa kanya. Katulad din ng ibang sisses natin dito.parang kabuti sha.mag tetext pag gusto lumabas..at super go naman ako sa kanya.kapag ako naman ang nagyaya lumabas naku laging hindi pwede.nakaka inis...now I'm back from zero...sana pala sa umpisa palang hindi n ako nakipag meet uli sa kanya...