para sa mga housewife and stay at home moms

[dream vain]

do you ever feel belittled by your husband because you stay at home and doesn't help him earn for your family?what about when you want to buy something and you always have to ask your husband for money do you feel bad?does your husband ever tell you to help him with the finances?...i thought my husband and I both agreed that i would just stay at home to look after our baby but now i feel he's resenting me because i quit my job..any insights?

[hopelessromantic]

hmmm,hindi naman sis.pero when it comes to asking him some money to buy something,dun ako minsan nagdadalawang isip.para bang nahihiya ako.tska minsan dun ako nanliliit sa sarili ko.di rin kasi ako sanay nanghihingi ng money even to my parents.di siya pwedeng magreklamo kasi mutual naman yung decision namin na wag muna ako magwork.

[Ms_Candy]

si hubby ko naman ayaw nia talaga ako mag work. gusto nia sa haus lang ako para mag alaga sa baby namen.. minsan nahihiya din ako sa kanya lalo na pag may gusto ako bilin. di ko masabi agad 

[dream vain]

minsan i think bumalik nalang kaya ako ng work ang hirap pala ng umaasa sa husband esp. for money, i esp. dont like fighting over money of course i value that he's working hard to provide for us, pero ayoko ng everyday ako sasabihan na magtipid...and then i asked my friends sabi nila its always best if i have my own source of income because ill never know if maghiwalay kami ni hubby for some reason san nalang daw ako pupulutin? still, i want to be a full time mom and i think im doing a good job as a housewife

[hopelessromantic]

^God will provide us anythinglalo na kung wala ka namang ginagawang masama.if ever maghiwalay naman kayo ni hubby mo,wag kang magalala makakasurvive ka,mahihirapan ka sa umpisa.wala namang madali sa mundong ito...pero teka bakit mo naman iniisip yun?tska mo na lang problemahin kapag nangyari na.

seriously,baka naman nagiging sensitive ka lang.kasi ako ganun din kapag sinasabihan akong magtipid nahuhurt ako.pero iniisip ko na lang na kahit may work ako sasabihan pa rin niya akong magtipid kame.my sense ba?
if you want to have your own money pwede ka naman magisip ng pagkakakitaan,kahit maliit lang.para full time mom ka pa rin sa mga bagets mo.

[officebusters]

kapag mutual decision walang level ng pagrereklamo si husband kasimairap din ang sa bahay lang ha, talo mo pa nag oopisina nun. si hubby okay nman sya kasi mas gusto nya nasa bahay lang ako para sa mga bata.

[m_lim]

minsan i think bumalik nalang kaya ako ng work ang hirap pala ng umaasa sa husband esp. for money, i esp. dont like fighting over money of course i value that he's working hard to provide for us, pero ayoko ng everyday ako sasabihan na magtipid...and then i asked my friends sabi nila its always best if i have my own source of income because ill never know if maghiwalay kami ni hubby for some reason san nalang daw ako pupulutin? still, i want to be a full time mom and i think im doing a good job as a housewife

IMO, your friends are right! mahirap umasa kahit kanino sa panahon ngayon.

[Msfi]

di ba kayo ang naghahandle ng finances nyo? kung si hubby pa rin ang may hawak eh medyo hindi nga madali to ask for money for personal needs.

Naging stay at home wife din ako before, but still i'm the one handling our finances. I have the say kung saan pupunta ang pera kahit pa galing sa kanya lahat.  Mas magaling din ako maghawak sa kanya kaya wala syang say basta tungkol sa pera.  Basta nabigay na nya sa akin problem ko na kung paano, magkulang or magsobra problem ko na yun.

We shouldn't feel guilty for asking money esp for our personal needs kung kaya ng budget.  We only need to be wise on the things we will buy para di naman sayang ang pera. Naku mga girls kailangan mas mag-ayos ng mga stay at home moms & wives dahil nakakalosyang sa bahay, para di maghanap ng extra si hubby.

[sistah!]

kami baligtad. i work full time and my hubby stays home to maintain our household. we dont have kids yet so i dont know if that arrangement will change when we decide to have kids but right now, ganito ang arrangement namin. the difference is, he has a business that he chooses to manage from home. he also does buy and sell online. yan ang pinagkakaabalahan nya. if you have a computer and an internet connection, madali na ang magnegosyo online. that way, pwede ka rin magkaron ng own income at your leisure time. suggestion ko yun para you always feel secure na may pera ka panggastos all the time

[dream vain]

thanks sa reply mga sis, i get a monthly allowance from my hubby, thats for me and our daughter plus the groceries for the month, [textspeak!] bills naman i show it to him and then he gives me the money to pay for it. I know my hubby is earning quite a lot because aside from his basic pay he also has big commissions coming in monthly, thats why i didnt doubt that we can make it even with me not working, as for money ok lang kung kasama siya while i purchase but he would never give me money directly, it was a mutual decision naman but i always get side comments like "have you been productive today?", "i bet youre just sitting around all day", "whar did you do today?same old?" its really annoying...

[sistah!]

yikes. hirap nga when they make comments like that. im also very careful about those things kasi nga i work in an office and my hubby stays home. lalaki pa yun so malamang extra sensitive. i am so tired some days when i get home but i am super careful not to speak so carelessly like that dahil im sure nakakapagod din sa bahay no. some days nga when i go home and dinner is ready, nahihiya ako, ako pa nagwash ng dishes. ...

[babyseth]

i am working, pero pag nakakarinig ako sa husband ko ng tanong na "magkano na ang savings natin? o ano kaya, "bakit ganyan na lang natira sa pera natin?", nakakatikim sya sakin ng tiger look   

nakakainis kaya pag tinatanong ka tungkol sa budget, parang wala kang karapatan gumastos para sa sarili mo   

[Msfi]

^^^buti na lang di ganyan asawa ko, kasi wala halos talaga akong ginagawa sa bahay nun kasi wala pa kaming baby that time. At may maid naman na di ko na inaagawan ng gagawin kasi konti lang din ang ginagawa nun.  Pero monitored ko ang lahat ng income and expenses namin up to the last centavos. Pati financial statements namin updated ko. 

He even made me learn to play computer games para may magawa ako sa bahay.  And 2x or 3x a week gusto nya sunduin ko sya para may kasabay sya pag-uwi.

[m_lim]

i think hindi lang dahil sa pera pero mas okay may work/income ang isang babae because it gives you confidence and security.

tsaka, iba parin yung nakaka explore ka ng ibang bagay. mas may mapaguusapan mas at  may masshare kang bago.

[Msfi]

^korek, it's best pa rin that a wife has her own income.  Para prepared for any eventualities na pwedeng mangyari.  Kung ang mga bata ang reason why you want to stay at home, then maybe you can work at home or set up a home-based business.

[mango]

sis being a full time mom ang pinaka mahirap sa lahat mas madali pa ngang mag work na lang, kasi my time pa rin na  may gusto akong bilhin pero nahihiya ako sa asawa ko kahit pa nasa akin ang atm nya minsan sya na mismo nagsasabi na bilhin mo na yan o hindi kaya pag may binili ako sinasabi ko sa kanya para wala syang masabi.

[thebratinella]

i work at home because our daughter is still young and my husband and i think that it is best for me to be around in her developing years. eversince i was pregnant, we decided for me to work at home. it's better that way because i get to help him financially and i am able to take care of our baby. a woman also needs money of her own. mahirap to just rely on the husband. kung wala siguro akong work, i'll get bored. i love being with my baby but i get a sense of fulfillment with helping my husband and earning my own money. aside from that, if something happens, i won't have a hard time.

[artangulay]

i stopped working and stayed at home for almost 1.5years already. it's quite difficult having no work esp. if you're used of earning money for you and your family.. when i want to buy something, i find it hard to ask for money from him.. kasi nga even before, i never ask money from him.. but it's different now..

so i've decided to have some online business and online jobs... now, though i'm at home looking after our kids, i've got the chance to earn money and help him in little ways for our finances...

[PinKisH_23]

Sa case namin ng hubby ko ako ang mas stable financially kahit stay at home wife ako, kaya subukan nya lang akong hanapan ng savings.

[Nuna]

In my case, buntis pa lang ako sinabihan nako ng asawa ko na wag magwork. Takot kasi sya na mapagod ako or anything, syempre unang pagbubuntis. Tapos sabi nya, tsaka nalang ako magtrabaho kapag malaki2 na ang baby namin. Pero habang lumalaki si baby (she's now 2) nakikita ng asawa ko na mas mabuti na natututukan ko si baby. So we both agreed na SAHM ako. He is very supportive of me staying at home.

Never pa naman nag complain ang asawa ko na hindi ako nagwwork. (siguro kase decision naman namin pareho or siguro dahil nakikita naman nya na mahirap din ang nasa bahay at nagaalaga ng anak. hehe plus yun hirap pa mag budget) And sa amin kase, ibinibigay nya sa akin lahat yung pera. Ako ang nagbbudget. So parang sya yung humihingi sakin ng pera (kahit pera nya naman yon) at kita naman nya na maayos ako maghawak ng pera at expenses namin. Di ako magastos, hindi din ako nagrereklamo kung ano man ang meron kami kaya siguro di din sya makareklamo. hahaha 

When it comes to asking for money, nahihiya ako. But most of the times, i dont have to ask na.. minsan kasi he gives me extra money tas sabihin nya "eto gastusin mo to, wag mo isasama sa budget sa bahay. bumili ka ng gusto mo" Pero syempre minsan kahiya pa din. What i do, nagbbusiness ako kahit maliit lang. para meron lang akong konti na masasabi kong 'akin'.