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CASELL

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Re: super jealous hubby!
« Reply #20 on: October 14, 2019, 07:48:18 pm »
hello,

gusto kong buhayin tong thread na to since I also have the same issues with my partner. being overly jealous! as I've read above, wala naman talagang issues, sila lang ang gumagawa.

well in my case naman, my partner genuinely thinks that i'm cheating on him with a female co-worker! he thinks im a lesbian, smh. although we don't live together, we see each other almost everyday, yet pinag iisipan pa nya ako na may kinakausap akong iba with that little time we spend apart.

this really bothers me, but I love him so much and we are already on a stage wherein we are already preparing for marriage. natatakot ako, kasi ang overly jealous husband daw, most of the time nauuwi sa pisikalan.

I want out relationship to work out kaya lang how? if the problem is my partner's mindset.

glamorosa_09

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Re: super jealous hubby!
« Reply #21 on: October 14, 2019, 11:22:28 pm »
If your partner has a rigid mindset or personality structure, you'd be the one to adjust -- adjust your approach, your expectations, your habits, your behavior, etc. Hirap din with people with rigid mindset you can't reach them with reason, you're like reasoning or arguing with a wall. Kaya para walang gulo, kaw na lang iintindi at mag-aadjust talaga.

Baka may history din naman sya na may cheating, he was cheated on or there was infidelity in his family. But if he doesn't have rigidity, you'd be able to soothe his fears, you can reason with him and he can adjust his mindset as well.

O baka may pinoproject sya sa iyo na ginagawa nya.

Anyway, for me hindi normal yung rigid, kasi kadalasan hindi nagwowork sa kanila yung relationship and communication skills, especially dun sa area of their rigidity.

J.warner

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Re: super jealous hubby!
« Reply #22 on: October 15, 2019, 04:39:47 am »
^ wag ka papayag na mauwi sa pisikalan girl. If that happens, let him go. Good di pa kayo kasal mag isip ka mabuti.

CASELL

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Re: super jealous hubby!
« Reply #23 on: October 24, 2019, 04:44:58 pm »
@glamorosa

You are absolutely correct, he was cheated before.

Kaya lang kasi there are times na nawawala na tlaga [textspeak!] pasensya ko kasi halos everyday pinagdududahan nya ako over simple things. Ganon kalala!
Like for instance, he calls me kasi during working hours, since hindi naman masyado busy sa work ko, i have time to answer his calls and talk to him.. then one time sabi nya sakin, ?bakit ka nag-mute?? I did not. A normal person would brush it off thinking it could be the reception or something... pero sya ?bakit ka nag-mute? May kinausap ka hano? Bakit kailangan pang i-mute??

Ilang beses na din kami nagusap na dapat sya matuto magtiwala.. yes, for a while magiimprove ng kaunti pero babalik at babalik din.
I love him but i am really frustrated sa trust issues nya.
Ang unfair lang kasi parang ayoko yung nagsasuffer sa mistake ng iba.

leigh_iyah01

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Re: super jealous hubby!
« Reply #24 on: November 28, 2019, 10:33:38 am »
I can totally relate to this! My bf also has trust issues. Most of our fights dahil sa trust issues niya. Every time I'm online sa social media accounts ko, tinatanong niya ako kung sino ka-Chat ko and minsan hindi siya naniniwala sa akin. Although he already mentioned this problem to me before pa. He's based abroad and we are currently in a Long-Distance Relationship.

I share ko na lang din how I handle this. Most of the time, hinahabaan ko talaga patience ko kasi aware naman siya sa ugali niya. And minsan daw, pinipigilan naman niya kasi ayaw niya na mag-away kame kaya lumalaklak talaga ako ng patience. Ayaw ko rin naman na itago niya yung feelings niya palagi kasi meron kameng usapan na dapat transparent kame sa isa't-isa. Pero pag di ko talaga kaya, inaaway ko siya and lagi naman siyang nagsosorry and narerealize niya na mali yung binibintang niya sa akin. Siguro dapat talaga open communication lang lagi and always make him feel na love mo siya. Ganun yata talaga pag may trust issues. Minsan nag-away din kame, since galit talaga siya, he was punching the bed. So mejo natakot ako na baka magkapisikalan kame. So what I did, I stood up and tinanong ko siya kung gusto niya ba akong saktan or suntukin, kasi kung gusto niya edi suntukin niya ako pero never na niya ako makikita. Hindi naman niya ginawa. I really love him and I want to make him feel na mahal ko siya. Siguro kelangan lang talaga na i-handle ng maayos and open communication. Pero yun nga, si bf ko naman is aware of his personality so pinag-uusapan namin.

Pero pag talagang nagkaroon ng pisikilan, ibang usapan na kasi yun. Mahal naten ang partners naten pero dapat mahal din naten sarili naten and wag naten hahayaan na saktan nila tayo.

 


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