Would you settle for a guy who already has a kid?

[wanderbrewha]

it's not settling. it takes a mature person taking a man with 'the extra baggage'. hindi naman pinili mo lang yan dahil wala ka ng choice, it's a decision.

[sacred cow]

cut the maturity pangangaral, it' not about being mature or not. it's just about one's preferences and making choices. if one believes that he/she is selling himself short by going for someone who has a kid, then yes he/she is selling himself short otherwise hindi. Kung maturity lang ang paguusapan, I believe mas mature pa yung mga tao na kayang aminin if they don't want something (ayaw pumasok sa relationship with someone with a kid) because ayaw nila, rather than saying na ok lang sa kanila because they don't want to be judged na hindi sila mature kasi they can't look past na may anak na yung babae/lalake

[wanderbrewha]

^i'm not saying MAS MATURE yung mga tao na pinipili nila yung tao na may anak sa iba. i'm just saying kailangan mature ko to be in this kind of relationship.

who would want a partner who came from a bad relationship for them not to work it out despite the kid?

it always come with responsibilities.

cut the hipocrisy. sh!t happens between married couples. if the other person wanted a life with a new partner, bakit idedeny sa kanila yun.

i am merely sharing my thoughts, you don't have to point out yours is better.

[bloody_venus]

if i like him a lot, doesn't matter
actually natutuwa ako sa mga dad na super close sa anak nila, shows na very responsible, caring and loving person siya

[Pink_Sugar]

the answer is NO.

[andoulte]

I have to tell you to me it is not necessarily a big issue if someone has a child or not. I have a five year old and he is my everything and if some man didn't like this then seriously they can be gone. I've went out with some fellas whom I met via Kovla.com that got no problem with me having a son, those guys treated him far better then his own papa did and that is depressing.

[iamlili]

No.

[red_yesha]

okay lang kung gustong gusto ko yung guy at  basta sigurado ako na wala na sila ng dati nyang babae.
 Hindi naman super big deal ang bata sakin, I love kids naman e wag lang pasaway hehe.

[mebpa]

big NO

[minatay91]

no.

[17glut]

im a guy and if the girl I like has one, i won't mind at all as long as the biological dad is out of the picture (read: dead) pero kung buhay pa yung tatay nung bata, i'd have to pass. Mahirap na mapa-trobol.

[Ms. Right]

No. I don't like complications.

[ajang]

kung totally wala na sila nung mom and kung yung wala na ring possibility na magkabalikan sila eh why not. pero kung andyan pa rin yung mom we can be friends for the mean time and wait if there's a chance na maging kami kapag wala na sila.

i know naman the guy i knew is a responsible dad though yung mom ng kids kasi is a war freak. this guy is a battered bf/husband that's why he's seeking the "attention and love" of other girl. plus they've been seperated before and now they're back together again so ayun friend zoned na lang sya saken. history repeats itself eh.

[Ms.Cacao70%]

whatever the circumstances are, malaking responsibilidad pa din ang mag-asawa ng lalaking may anak na. dapat ihanda mo ang sarili mo emotionally, financially, physically sa lahat ng demands ng buhay ng magiging asawa mo. if you a big loving understang heart and an open mind i say go for it! pero kung ang iisipin mo lang ay asawa mo at magiging family mo sa kanya then you are not fit to be a madrasta.

at kung single ka at ang pangarap mo sa buhay ay isang pamilya na sa iyo lang, bat di ka maghanap muna ng ibang single guys out there?

[Tatrix]

I don't mind. May bf ako noon na tatlo ang anak. Mahirap sa umpisa lalo na kapag sobrang bata pa ng mga anak kasi hindi maiiwasan na hahanapin talaga ang real mother nila. Sa akin kasi, hindi ko pinipilit yung sarili ko sa mga bata. Hahayaan ko sila ang magopen sa akin.

My current mentor has one biological and one adopted. Tinanong niya na ako dati kung anong pakiramdam ko na may anak siya at kung sakaling magkatuluyan kami, I said I don't mind. Puro babae ang mga anak niya and parehong kikay, so kung sakali magkatuluyan kami, tingin ko naman mkakasundo ko sila.

[fionnah325]

ako naman mga sis yong partner ko may anak siya na babae mag 10 years old yong bata..pero wala naman daw sila ng mother nong bata...kaso feel ko yong mother ng bata nag eexpect pa din sa kanya..may anak na kami pero di ko alam mga sis kung papakasalan ba niya ako

[fionnah325]

im not also dreaming to have a partner na may anak dati at never ko din talaga pinangarap na magkabf na sobrang tanda sa akin pero ngayon napunta kao sa gnayang sitwasyon...may anak taz mas matanda sa akin..okay anman kami ngayon may anak na din kami pero hindi pa kami kasal

[young_maiden]

The answer is no. Selosa ako eh. Baka pati bata pagselosan ko. Papatol lang ako sa guy na may anak na kung ako mismo may anak na din sa pagkadalaga.

[mooncake and leaves]

If I'm in love, I'm in love. I echo the older posts- it wouldn't be settling. Kahit gaano kahirap yan, keri. I just came from an easy, uncomplicated relationship and what I learned is that, walang mahirap basta mahal mo talaga. And walang madali if your heart is not in it.

[fionnah325]

well said mooncake and leaves...di pwedeng magbitaw din tayo ng salita na ayoko ng ganito or si ganyan kasi darating ang time na lahat ng sinabi natin kakainin nalang natin..base on my experienced sabi ko dti ayoko yong guy na mas matanda sa akin,ayoko ng mga seaman kasi mga madamaing babae daw hahah at higit sa lahat ayoko ng lalaki na may sabit meaning to say may anak dati...naku see what happen napunta ako sa mga ayaw ko ahhahha