Would you settle for a guy who already has a kid?

[Miss.Pancake]

Mas prefer ko yun may kid. Ayoko na ng mga totally single. May pagka childish pa kasi sila. Unlike pag may kid na.

[Girltalker2]

^ Both may pros and cons syempre. 

The ideal guy would be no kids and mature. Kaso iilan nalang ba ang guys mature mag isip these days na single?  Pero tama si sis miss.pancake, mas mature nga naman ang guys with kids kasi mas mapagbigay sila, they would know how to prioritize, etc.  Of course, hindi din lahat, but most of them, especially kung responsible fathers sila.

[chubbycheeks]

I find the term "settle" offensive coz kids shouldn't be a factor that would lower/improve the worth of a person.  [textspeak!] dapat factor if responsible parent ba yun guy or not.

[honeybunny]

IMO, having a kid sa pagkabinata is not a form of maturity. I'm not pertaining to everyone ha. I am just basing it on my experience and mga nakikita ko sa paligid (colleague, kamag anak, etc) Meron kasi iba nga may asawa na, kinasal na, may anak na, pero immature pa rin. Nasa tao pa rin yun.  And yes. Bibihira na lang ang mga single guy na walang anak at matured talaga.

[Pink_Sugar]

^agree.

[t_r_i_s_h]

^^ totally agree!

As much as possible, I want a guywho doesn't have a kid yet. But if I fell in love with a guy who has one and very responsible naman sya then why not. It all depends 

[estelle21]

Ayoko.

Puwede pa yan kung 38+ na ako pero sa edad kong to I want to start a family of my own. Can't love a child of another woman! Selosan to the maxx kahahantungan nyan

[lovely_carrot]

My initial answer would be no pero sa hirap makahanap ng taong compatible sa'yo, if I feel naman he's the right guy, I guess yes. I will compromise.

Medyo ipokrita naman kasi ang dating ko since ako may anak, and yet aayawan ko yung isang lalaki na may anak din.

[imyourangel]

IMO, having a kid sa pagkabinata is not a form of maturity. I'm not pertaining to everyone ha. I am just basing it on my experience and mga nakikita ko sa paligid (colleague, kamag anak, etc) Meron kasi iba nga may asawa na, kinasal na, may anak na, pero immature pa rin. Nasa tao pa rin yun.  And yes. Bibihira na lang ang mga single guy na walang anak at matured talaga.

Ditto! Yung iba, talagang hindi lang nakapagwithdraw lol. Though the case usually is yung mga single fathers, responsible nga sila. But we can't generalize 'em all.

[tisaygirl123]

Actually the answer is NO.
But since I was engaged before sa guy na  hindi ko alam na may baby, feeling inlove and secure Ok naman din pala since mahilig ako sa bata and wala din naman problema sakaniya as long as hiwalay sila and wala ng communication ng mother.
Ok saakin, walang problema basta stable ang life namin at responsible siya.
at mas more responsible siya sa sa future kids namin.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

i guess these days, sa daming mga binatang ama, some girls will really have no choice. especially if mahal mo yung tao.

buuuut! sis ts used the word "settle" and if you settled, it's a possibility na you didn't choose the person, na di mo siya mahal. so if SETTLE, in all the sense of the word, if maganda naman ang balik sayo (i.e. mayaman, mabait, mahal ka, good provider, etc) then why not.

[Yaya]

ok lang sakin ang may anak. kung ang pagmamahalan nyo ay walang kupas, hindi malaking problema ang bata. itrato mo na parang anak mo ang bata. wag lang may asawa. ayoko ng lalaking may asawa.

[psyche29]

my husband has an 8 year old daughter from his previous marriage. i dont see anything wrong with accepting his past. we met, fell in love, and now, married. i love his daughter. not saying like my own but i care for her deeply. we sleep together, hold hands, talk, when she went to canada with her mom, i miss her terribly. we still talk in tango or send voice messages.

honestly, having a child is NOT a sign of maturity. being a father is. my husband still acts way below his age and status (being a father). his daughter treats him like a playmate. only wants to be with him because they play. but will still look for her lola, or in some cases that she is with us, me.

so there, i did not settle, i accepted a guy who has a daughter. we've been together for almost 8 years now.

[sacred cow]

panong tinuturing na anak? I don't see why not, especially kung gusto monrin naman siya. the question is bakit niya tinuturing na anak yung batang yun kung wala naman siyang ugnayan with the mother.

[little_princess]

It's not settling if you truly love the person. Whatever shape or form he is basra you love him and it's all that matters.

[IamColleen]

Noon siguro hindi ang isasagot ko. Pero depende sa sitwasyon. Dapat wise ang girl, may mga lalaki kasing mukhang walang anak pero meron pala. Hehe nabiktima nga ako ei, pero ngayon (pagkatapos ng napaka habang kwento) kasal na kami at ok naman kami as in masaya kami, hindi pa lahat ok pero alam kong in gods time magiging ok din.

[Ms. Right]

I used to say "why not?" but the practical side of me says no. Hassle makipagrelasyon sa lalakeng may anak na lalo na kung may connection pa rin sila nung nanay nung anak nya. Yun naman yung pinakaissue dun sa set-up eh diba? Walang issue yung bata pero kung malabo at magulo si guy and girl, napakalabong magprosper yung relationship sa iba nito. Also, selfish as it may seem pero ayoko ng may kahati. What's mine is mine alone.

[kirsten10]

To be fair to this guy with kid, he deserves an equal chance as the other men. Having a child doesnt make him less of a person, baka nga we should give him credit for being a father to this kid na nahabilin sa kanya. For as long as he can handle you and the child well, for me ok lang.

[amethyst028]

for me ok lang as long as 1000% sure na wala na talaga sila nung mother ng bata. and if he is a responsible dad sa anak niya. may ibang guys kasi may anak pero walang paki alam sa kid nila. or irresponsible pagdating sa pera. so dapat alam mo din yung reason why they got separated.

[twix01]

for me its alright.. i dunno pero feel ko i'll be a cool step mom and hindi yon kontrabida type