Would you settle for a guy who already has a kid?

[fall2pieces]

what's your view about it guys??

[kheng02]

That's a big no for me...

[fall2pieces]

to the mods paki move naman po ito sa looking for love forum.. nasa dating sub-forum kasi eh. thanks.

[lytblu]

nope. never.

[babyjapnurse01]

pwede.. pero depende.

[ms_balugz]

puwede din, if single naman yung guy and responsible father siya.

[choco_mint]

no big deal for me.  di pa ko part ng buhay nya, anak nya naman na yun.  the most important thing is, he's SINGLE. 

[trizh]

  -- pwede... pero xempre, depende sa situation nila at namin.  pero hangga't maaari, NO. 

[kaiz]

when i was still single, i used to ponder on this thought. pano if i'll fall in love with someone who has a kid na? kakayanin ko ba? parang komplikado. kaya NO talaga. kaya bilib ako sa gf ng BIL ko. my BIL kasi has a kid na sa first marriage niya -- pero annulled na. sometimes yung gf pa ni BIL ang nag aalaga sa anak ni BIL. mabait din kasi talaga yung gf. super love namin and we treat her na din na kapamilya na talaga. minsan pagtinitingnan ko sila, naiisip ko na hindi nga talaga siguro ako mabait or what kasi kung ako hindi ko kakayanin.

[trizh]

 ^ naku depende talaga sis e no. ako I had a bf na may baby na.. okay naman. no selos factor. love na love ko pa nga yung baby niya e.. kaso mahirap, kasi yung baby ang nagiging connection nila ng ex niya..

[kaiz]

^korek sis. kasi yung BIL ko, his son and ex-wife makes it a point na lumabas at least once a month and kapag may special occasion. yun kasi ang nirecommend ng psychologist ng anak nila

[trizh]

 ^ at dyan na papasok ang selos. haha 

[fall2pieces]

what should i do kasi there's this guy na kinda pursuing me, ok naman sya kaso lang may anak na sya sa ex nya. i am afraid na magiging complicated yung situation if ever.

[kolinetongue]

depende. kung pati yung anak pabigat sa akin NO NO NO.

[Tsinsey]

My friend is in this kind of situation, the thing is 3 yung kids ng BF nya and the ex-wife does not want an annulment... Sad, but she doesn't want to let go of the guy.. We always wonder kung ano ba ang nakita nya don sa lalaking yun!

IMO, it depends on the situation of the guy, I'm open to it, siguro ayoko lang na more than one ang anak nya.

[sugardrop]

I dated 2 guys with kids na though both are single dads. It's nice naman when the kid makes lambing to you but the hard part for me back then was when both kids asked if I'm going to be their new mommy. I didn't know how to answer. But okay naman, they were the nicest exes I've had.

[justbeingme]

Basta di ako aawayin ng kid and ex-wife.  Basta hindi ako ang magpapaaral sa kanyang kid. LOL.

[andreanatividad]

for me, no. i'd rather not. mas okay naman if pumasok ka sa relasyon na wala masyadong complications.

[fall2pieces]

i agree. im the kind pa naman na ayaw ng complicated na buhay. i just want to keep it simple. this guy kasi nireto lang sakin ng friend ko, i asked her if the guy's single, she said yes. so pumayag ako ibigay yung number ko. then guy started texting me na nga. but according to his facebook he has a girlfriend at they have a pic pa nga together dun sa profile nya. then he admitted na may gf nga sya pero parang may problems kasi against daw sa kanya yung brother nung girl, kasi nga may kid na sya with his ex. so medyo nag-hesitate na ako dito. tapos he insisted to meet me, he wants to be friends lang naman daw. so i agreed since friendly meet up lang naman. he was nice, pero i saw him as a friend lang talaga means i wasn't attracted. then when i went home he said i was so pretty daw sana daw noon pa nya ko nakilala. and he's inviting me for a second meet up na naman.
gusto ko sana sabihin na we're better off as friends eh. i dont know how to say it. kasi nahihiya din ako sa gf nya. kahit nagkakalabuan sila, i don't want to tolerate something like that na yung guy dating another girl while in a relationship, its not right. and i dont want to ruin a relationship. as much as possible kasi i dont want to date a taken guy. even as friendly date lang. i havent replied to his texts, i dont know what to say.
what should i do?

[rahmslife]

ok [textspeak!] naman un.. pero as much as possible.. wag.. kasi may mga klase ng ex na paranoid.. especially bata pa [textspeak!] anak nila... (toddlers ganun)

(base sa experience ko as the ex with the kid.. hahaha)