I am freshly widowed and would like to share this to all married women out there

[zanabee]

hubby and i are not in good terms, na touch ako sa post ni sis Gabrielle Andre and sischastee8, naiyak tuloy ako. the last time i read this post hindi rin kami in good terms ng hubby ko but i made things better after reading this, now here i am again, i want to make up with him pero paano naman ako? i love him but he keeps on hurting me again and again, maybe crossing on this post again is a sign na i have to give him another chance.. (crying)

[katrinac]

* aww virtual hugs to you sis zanabee. maigi rin siguro na talk about sa problems nyo, and compromise kayo. and i hope maging okay na kayo ni hubby mo sis. and yes, it's never too late to give another chance sis.

[mrsdee]

cheer up sis zanabee. forgive and forget. alam kong easier said than done but it's the only way. hayaan mong tayo lagi ang nauunang makipag kiss and make-up. mas pinagpapala naman ang mga taong madaling magpatawad. ako madali rin akong mainis o magtampo, buti sensitive din si husband at nakakatunog kapag selos ako. kapag naman hindi, at maliit na bagay lang naman, pinapalipas ko na lang. kapag hindi na kaya, sinasabi ko sa kanya and I explain na, I'm sorry I have to say this otherwise 'pag naipon it's not going to be good for the marriage later on.

Pangit daw kasi magharbor ng resentment sa asawa, or magtanim ng grudge. dapat daw kinakalimutan agad, hehe. Again, easier said than done. Ako naman, pag nasabi ko na, I feel better na rin. He will listen too, explain his side and if I still feel bad, I take my time magmuni-muni kesa makapagsabi ako ng hindi maganda sa kanya, something na he won't forget at pagsisihan ko later on.

So there. Di talaga perfect ang husbands natin kaya over time, kailangan natin pag-aralan how to accept their imperfections. Sabi pa ng fb post ng asawa ko :"I'm not a perfect person, I make a lot of mistakes,but still, I love those people who stay with me after knowing how I really am."

cheer up, sis

[galexy]

omg naiiyak na ko nito... nakaka guilty naman parang taken for granted na [textspeak!] hubby ko kasi andaming everyday issues. i'll try to reflect on this. salamat sis.

by the way, im so sorry for your loss... i dont exactly know how it feels, pero alam ko na napakahirap mawalan ng sandalan...

[hedonista]

Thank you for sharing this sis. Naiyak naman ako lalo na sa message mo para sa wives out there.

I learned my lesson today. salamat.

[cherubin]

So touching 

[chinkywinky]

thanks for sharing this sis, ngayon ko lang nabasa. You're an inspiration to many, and continue to be strong. I admire you being one.

[SakuraBride]

Thanks for sharing. Halos maiyak din ako. Nakakatouch talaga.

[~sara~]

 

[queendi]

nakakaiyak naman yung post ni chastee.

[kikai]

just sharing mga sisses..http://mb.com.ph/node/359138/on-aging-and-mother..

i am not yet married but ive been into a 9 yr relationship that we had the ups adn downs..

this part of the article caught my attention--

No.9 LOVE: “When you love a person, even if it hurts your pride, you will swallow it and learn to forgive. And once you have forgiven, you will forget all the hurt that person has done to you and you will be happy again with that person. Which would you rather be? Miserable for life because you needed to teach someone a lesson or happy because you have forgiven, forgotten, and have loved again?”


we all loved our partners, hubbys but sometimes we wanted to put our foot down para maintindihan nila tayo..

we had more than a year separation due to a major problem that almost cost us our own lives... but what is ironic! we still held on.. siguro nga me purpose..hopefully for keeps na ito...

and like what you sisses said life is indeed short.. so kahit minsan im having uncertainties due to the trauma (even if my 6th sense tell me no worries).. i fight it and kept telling my h2b na love ko siya..

thank you for sharing..

[Gabrielle Andre]

hi mga sisters,

I'm glad na may na learn kayo from my experience. In a few days, it will be my late hubby's 3rd death anniversary. A few months ago,I went through depression. I stayed at home for almost 2months, I only went out to buy DVDs and food. And for 22hours/day, I was just lying in my bed watching movies or playing games sa laptop ko. Sa kwarto na ako mismo kumakain ng meals ko. I didnt want to talk to anybody and nakakahiya mang sabihin, I went through days when I forgot to take a shower. Buti nalang mababait ang mga kapatid ko so they looked after my daughter's welfare nung mga time na yun. I got depressed because after almost 3years of waiting for him to come back, of wishing my life never changed, I finally realized He's NEVER coming back. Marami akong naging regrets din, I wished I could have done not just better, but my best.

I never had "big" dreams in life... I never wanted to be a doctor, lawyer,etc.I just wanted to be his wife and the mother of his kids, that when I lost him, sa totoo lang di ko alam kung saan ko pupulutin sarili ko. BUT now, I am moving on with life. For our daughter, and for him and for our love. Hindi kasi pwede na sa bad ending magtatapos yung love story namin.

I am in a relationship now, I found this one man who really loves me and my daughter, and everything is a whole new experience for me. SIya yung kailangan ko a tthis point in my life. I was a young girl when I met my hubby, so iba pa ako nun. Now, Im a mature mother of a 6yr old, so marami na rin ang ipinagbago ko. I draw lessons from my experience with hubby and I apply it to this new relationship.   Nasa point na ako na I don't let little issues ruin my day kasi sayang lang eh di ba. And I know now how to appreciate my man better because I have lost a partner to death once. Pati hilik niya mahal ko, because for 3 years, everything was silent around me because I was alone.

Although not a day passes by when I don't think of my late hubby, I have finally accepted his passing. Masakit, and although I'm slowly finding my way back, I know part of me will always yearn for him.

And although I now have a reason to smile again, part of me will always love him with a love that surpasses all......

[SakuraBride]

Awww.. natouch nanaman ako sa post mo sis.
Very insipiring ka talaga.

I am also blessed kase super bait din ng asawa ko and sometimes masama talaga ugali ko hahah.
Hindi ko nasusuklian yung love at kindness nya saken pero dahil sa nabasa ko dito, nag-uumpisa na ko baguhin yun kase 10 yrs older sya saken. We never know di ba... kaya gusto ko sana make the most of our time together.

[gab54]

super backread ako kagabi sa thread na ito. naiyak naman ako. parang gusto kong gisingin si hubby just to tell him how much i love him. thanks sis gabrielle (TS) for sharing your life.
BTW, gabrielle din ang name ng daughter ko 

[xadie28]

Thank You sis for sharing you wonderful story, super back read talaga ako from page 1.
Bigla ko tuloy na miss ang husband ko whos out of the country right now.

[stormy_princess]

sis Gabrielle Andre, good to hear that you are okay now. What you have gone through is not easy, well it will never be easy talaga but God is really good that He don't let you alone for the rest of your life:)

[ayee10_cha]

thank you for sharing your story sis 9 months pa lang kami ni hubby pero almost 11 years kaming mag bf gf iba pa rin talaga pag mag asawa na kayo mas lalo niyong nakikilala ang isa't isa. Sabi nga nila the 1st year is always the hardest so ilang months na lang naka survive na kami sa hardest part sana ng married life namin. Alam kong marami pa kaming pagdadaanan but with your story I know now that I won't let my stubborness be a way to have a petty fights but sometimes petty fights helps us know each other more. I don't know kung may sense pa tong sinusulat ko basta sis nagising ako sa story mo.

Thank you and hugs to you and your daughter.

[wowry]

OMG super heartbreaking ang story mo sis. Buti na lang I'm alone kundi pagtatawanan na naman ako ni hubby at tatawaging crybaby. You're such a strong woman sis. Thank you for sharing your story.

[princeszheng]

my very first time to be here in Married Life thread and sorry masyado kong nacurious sa post na ito. I love your post sis. Your love story made you stronger. Natouch ako, how I wish I could spend more time with Hubby na. Nakakarelate ako kasi super bait din ni hubby and I now pray na sana magkasama na kami sa lalo at madaling panahon!

[yukishih]

Your post is so inspiring. Right at this moment magkaaway kami ni hubby. I feel so bad ngayon tuloy. I want to make up and say sorry sa kanya because of your story. Naiyak ako sa story ng life mo. Im so glad at napunta ako dito sa thread. May God bless you more sis gabrielle andre!