mariel_robin_liezl.jpgIn an interview with showbiz talk show Startalk, Robin Padilla’s ex-wife Liezl Sicango congratulated him and actress Mariel Rodriguez on their reported marriage and sent them her best wishes for the future, GMANews.tv reports. Although Robin denied that his wedding with Mariel was real, Liezl said that their son had told her previously that the two had gotten married way before the Baguio wedding even occurred.

Liezl leaves Mariel with some friendly advice on air, Spot.PH reports. "Huwag titingin sa ibang lalaki," she is quoted as saying. "Seloso si Robin, 'wag kang titingin sa iba kahit kapatid pa niya, pinsan niya (Robin is a jealous guy; do not look at other men, not even his brothers and cousins)."

Like Liezl, have you found yourself having to deal with your partner’s possessiveness? According to Dr. Kristine Randle of PsychCentral.com, jealousy could be a sign of deep-rooted insecurity and a lack of self-esteem. While a little may be normal, even flattering, too much can cripple a relationship and cause other problems to crop up. Jealousy reveals a lack of trust, one of the basic traits that make for a healthy relationship. Find out how you can deal with your partner’s jealous streak in various situations with these tips.


IF HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU TO GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS WITHOUT HIM


Now, we all know you and your partner both have your own lives to lead, and you might feel like it’s unfair that you let him go out with his guy friends, but he wants to chaperone on your girls’ night out. Simmer down and don’t let things escalate into a fight. Instead, slowly show him that he can trust you. Be more actively responsive to his needs to alleviate his anxiety. Make him feel that you’re making the effort to keep him updated with your life even when you're not together. It will be rough going in the early stages (keeping your relationship stable and building up trust is hard work!), but it will strengthen your bond eventually.  


IF HE IS SUSPICIOUS OF EVERY MAN YOU’RE FRIENDS WITH OR WORK WITH


If you are aware of your partner’s jealous streak, then you may find yourself getting tired of his constant suspicions. Still, that doesn't mean you can just dismiss your partner’s feelings. Instead, lend him a ear. Let him tell you about his feelings and let him know that he has your support and your love. Remind him that being friends or co-workers is different from being romantic partners, but do it gently. Also make sure that your guy friends and co-workers are aware of your situation. There’s no need to tiptoe around your friends—hey, you’re entitled to have a life outside your love matters too—but there’s no need to deliberately rile your partner up either. 


IF HE PICKS FIGHTS WITH YOUR MEN FRIENDS


Don’t turn it into a fight between the two of you—you will only regret it afterward. Raising your voice and making him feel like he is simply being petty or silly will only strain your relationship further. If you love your partner and wish to take things in a positive direction, first find out why is he acting this way. Was there anything that triggered his response? Was he being irrational? Listen to his reasons and try to understand his situation, and then work out a solution that will benefit you both. Key word: compromise. Don’t let him take over your life, but don’t set his feelings aside, either. And, remember, you both have to make an effort if you want your relationship to last.


IF HE THINKS IT’S YOUR FAULT WHEN OTHER MEN NOTICE YOU OR FLIRT WITH YOU


First, make sure that your man’s accusations are unfounded and that you are indeed in the clear when it comes to exhibiting behavior that may have been misinterpreted as flirting with other men. Once you’re certain of this, gently reassure him that you love him. Remember that his suspicions are borne out of being insecure about himself, so help him grow by boosting his confidence. He may be taking out his anger on you because he finds himself inadequate and thinks other men are better than him. Remind yourself of his strong points and tell him why you love him. The more self-assured he becomes, the easier it will be for him to trust you (and vice versa).


IF HE ALWAYS NEEDS TO KNOW WHERE YOU ARE AND WHO YOU’RE WITH


Together, come up with a set of ground rules that neither of you is allowed to break.
Monitoring your life is different from simply checking in from time to time. Let him know that too much monitoring makes you uncomfortable, but assure him that you will send him a text on important occasions. It’s natural for partners to want to know where their other halves are, but updating your significant other on plans and subsequent changes in them is best done out of love and on your own initiative. Try working out a system that lets you have your freedom but assures him that you care about him. Eventually, he will feel more secure and checking in with him won’t feel like a chore but a sign of trust and love.


Do note, however, that even with these tips, there comes a time when enough is enough. If your partner keeps overstepping his boundaries despite your efforts, it may be time to rethink your relationship. Also remember that jealousy isn’t limited to your partner only—you may not even realize it, but you may be guilty of possessiveness yourself! Find out by taking Female Network’s “Are you a possessive girlfriend?” quiz here.


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